12days from surgery and terrified

[stuart7918]

Hi. I'm just 12 days off from sleeve, lots of second thoughts - but I saw the surgeon again yesterday and he just said, carry on as you are and be dead in 9 years, or do something constructive. Maybe that was the only message I need. Certainly didn't cheer me up. ,

 

[los in it]

Hello stuart 7918
its normal to get a touch of the wobbles regarding wls wondering if your doing the right thing but I guess you wouldnt have put yourself on this path seeing different teams, various hospital checks and I guess your doing the lsd if it all wasnt to give yourself a better healthier life the surgeon's words may seem harsh but he/she do wls all day long and see the resluts of when people dont follow on
dont be one of those I know wls as changed my life and its the best thing ive ever done and have not a single regret
Good luck

 

[Butterfly_lady]

Just wanted to say hi and good luck I had a bypass 1 year ago and have lost almost 11st so pleased I had the op, you will be fine, not long to go xx

 

[stuart7918]

Thank you - it's nice to know I am not alone in making this decision. I have just got so many questions.

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[Leda]

Hi Stuart, my surgery is next Wednesday, there's a few of us in the December surgery post. Hope all goes well for you, I understand where you are coming from x

 

[MyssJones]

Just wanted to say hi and good luck I had a bypass 1 year ago and have lost almost 11st so pleased I had the op, you will be fine, not long to go xx

Wow! Great Job!

 

[MyssJones]

I understand having those second thoughts. I am just a week away from having my sleeve and I am sort of freaking out about the pain afterward. In my adult age, I really can't stand pain as I could when I was younger. But, I absolutely think the benefits outweigh the risks/pain.

Wish you the best of luck!!!

 

[claudiadearman]

I understand having those second thoughts. I am just a week away from having my sleeve and I am sort of freaking out about the pain afterward. In my adult age, I really can't stand pain as I could when I was younger. But, I absolutely think the benefits outweigh the risks/pain. Wish you the best of luck!!!

I think it's a bit like that for everyone at the time it's annoying and uncomfortable. But as soon as you see the benefits and you get over the other side it will be a distant memory xx

I haven't had mine yet but I'm hoping it's like that anyway lol

Good luck xx

 

[2nd chance Jo]

hi if you look at my recent threads i was exactly the same and still am but this has to be the best decision believe me i backed out first time and i piled on about 4 - 5 stone and that was only a few year ago. I was lucky to have another shot and i am due my surgery next wednesday.

I am soo scared mainly i'll never see my family again and of course the pain but its just a final hurdle hopefully to that better life x

 

[claudiadearman]

hi if you look at my recent threads i was exactly the same and still am but this has to be the best decision believe me i backed out first time and i piled on about 4 - 5 stone and that was only a few year ago. I was lucky to have another shot and i am due my surgery next wednesday. I am soo scared mainly i'll never see my family again and of course the pain but its just a final hurdle hopefully to that better life x

It will be all worth it I've been reading so many posts on here and even those who had a hard time are still not regretting it. Everyone here is so supportive.

Ever need a chat just message one of us xxx

 

[SHARONA]

Hi stuart i too was like you . I was very anxious ask anyone on here or read my diaries always full of fear and dread! Im two weeks post op best thing i ever did and i have been given the best start to a new life thing of all the positives write them down. I agree with your surgeon hard i know but he's giving you a chance! Grab it with both hands. Best wishes x

 

[bazzab]

I been where you are now lad. All I can say is that if you push through, the benefits are amazing. Truly amazing.

 

[marcusbm]

Short term pain for long term gain.

One more week for me.

Please come over to the December surgeries thread and you'll find a few of us in a similar situation.

 

[smiles50]

I was scared to death I almost backed out but everything went fine and very little pain i was back to work in 6 weeks, you will do fine.

 

[vixter101]

It's normal to be having second thoughts - it is an incredibly emotional journey. I had my sleeve on 7th November - just over a month ago...and even as I was being prepped for theatre (my dad came with as my op was in Manchester and I live in Birmingham) and I was asking him if I was doing the right thing...I even questioned if I had done the right thing every day for about a week afterwards. Key thing is to listen to the consultant and provider and take their advice - I've made a few mistakes post op (mainly by going onto the next food stages...) but now I don't regret a thing!! If you ever want to chat or ask questions - just give me a shout...this forum is brilliant and everyone is so supportive, whether they are pre or post op....good luck

 

[Oopseydaisy]

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[marcusbm]

Generally speaking there are three things that people get afraid of. The cravings of pre-op, the procedure and life afterwards.

Cravings before surgery can't be underestimated as they lead to chains of thinking such as thinking of a favourite food and wondering if you can ever enjoy it again. It's also common for cravings later on in pre-op to be for much more basic foods. My way of coping with this is by thinking of it as a reverse pregnancy where I'll lose weight over the next nine months with cravings getting less each trimester.

With the surgery some people are super nervous and others as cool as a cucumber. The difference is a stiff upper lip - I'll leave that up to you if you feel that's a good thing. Fears include the small chance of not waking up after the general anaesthetic or severe complications. It would be folly to say it's impossible but prudent to say the former is very rare and the latter is uncommon. Remember people are less likely to post that everything went peachy than something went wrong.

Life after surgery will be different. Going to your favourite bar/restaurant for a comfort meal will not be the same - unless you feel it's about the environment rather than the food. Knowing you can't eat certain foods for an extended period is tough. Knowing the expected lifestyle changes can feel like a barrier. Seeing people on here having complications is scary. Also seeing people being highly successful can lead to the thinking of being destined to failure as not being able to match them. Ultimately goals need to be personal, others can support and motivate - let them but don't let yourself fall into negative thinking when things go well.

 

[2nd chance Jo]

Marcus well said! About that craving thing it's spot on. I was first thinking of nice treat food now it's just toast with butter I want...

I'm mostly scared of not waking up but I think that's just a common fear and I just have to deal with that like I am. Thinking of the life it would give me and comparing that to what I have been living for 28years

 

[marcusbm]

Marcus well said! About that craving thing it's spot on. I was first thinking of nice treat food now it's just toast with butter I want...

I'm mostly scared of not waking up but I think that's just a common fear and I just have to deal with that like I am. Thinking of the life it would give me and comparing that to what I have been living for 28years

At least toast is allowed at purée stage!

 

[Katyloo]

Very profound Marcus!