ABOUT PLASTIC SURGERY

[BIF]

HI....I AM NOW AT THE STAGE OF HAVING MY EXCESS.(REMOVED)...BUT I AM BRICKING IT...DO YOU THINK IT IS MORE IMPORTANT FOR THE LADIES OR THE BLOKES TO HAVE IT DONE.......WITH MY SHIRT ON YOU CANT TELL BUT WITHOUT IT....SOUTH IT GOES....LOL....I DONT KNOW IF IT IS WORTH HAVING IT DONE.......WHAT DO YOU THINK...:cry::17729::dragon::character0053::character0053::sign0163:

 

[BlueDiamond]

I dont think its more important if male/females have it done, I think it should all come down too personal choices..some ppl can live with the excess skin and others cant... Sorry I cant be more helpful, but I have often wondered how I would be once I have lost all my excess skin....and tbh I am not sure I would want too have the full works ( coming from a female ) good luck in wot u decide xx

 

[BIF]

i have allready spoke to a cosmetic doc...and the op just seems too big of a risk for me to consider(i think) time off work etc...my family......i dont know....thanks anyway...
bif......

 

[Sambucca]

Hi Bif,

I am currently waiting for plastics, and speaking from a womans perspective, the loose skin is very very hard to come to terms with. I need boobs and tummy doing and really cant bear the thought of living with the loose skin.

Were you at the Heartlands meeting recently with Mr Papini? I thought his talk was excellent and I'd never really thought before then about the differing issues for men and women.

It is always going to come down to personal opinion at the end of the day. If you are happy in the skin you are in, then I personally wouldnt go through surgery. For me, its a no brainer, and if for any reason I dont get the surgery on the NHS (although Ive been told I will when Ive maintained my weight for a year) then I would raise the money to somehow go private.

 

[BIF]

i was at the meeting....i allso came over to yours.....but i was really worried about the risks....for somthing that can be hidden......the scars dont worry me its the healing process that does
bif....

 

[Sambucca]

what plastics are you considering Bif?

 

[dottychic]

I think its such a personal decsion, some people want it and some dont. I think I will want it when the time comes, wether Ill get it or not is a different matter, but if it bothers you Id have it...deffinately XX

 

[BIF]

only my stomach.....the rest isnt too bad.........

 

[phatmomma]

I'm thinking it's down to how happy you are in your own skin too.... Personally i wasn't happy in my skin else i'd never have had wls, whether i'll be any happier in it if/when i get to goal is an issue we all address at some point i'm guessing....

Good luck with whatever you decide x

 

[CCPM]

I've just had an arm lift and the extended tummy tuck and can't tell you the difference it has made to me. I feel much better about my losses (263lbs) and how I now am. No more infections in the loose skin etc etc. The op was not bad at all and the recovery has been fine. Its a personal decision but having come through the other side its not something to fear. The scars are large but a skilful surgeon minimises those. At 9 weeks mine are already fading and looking less red.

Good luck with what you decide

M

 

[marky v]

i'm looking at a tummy tuck in 6-12 months, gonna get my hernia op out the way and see how my abs area tones up, i know i'm gonna be left with loose skin, i already have it, i also know i'm never gonna have a six pack, but don't want the unsightly loose skin hanging above my meat and two veg, my arms aren't too bad, nor my legs, the gym work seems to be paying off, but as said, it's a personal choice, mine is to get it done, others are ok with it, good luck in your choices

 

[teen]

I would like mine done my tum and top of my legs and my bum lifting lol. But hubby said no so I have to talk him round Me having the bypass made him ill he lost 2 stone with worry

 

[Grace]

At the moment I could not face more surgery and my skin isn't bad at all (though I have 6 more stones to lose so it could get bad i guess?)
I will re-appraise as the time comes closer.
I guess it's all about how you feel. I don't think male/female comes into it really. We all need to have some self-esteem/self-worth and part of that comes from this body we inhabit!
Best wishes with your decision.
Grace xxx

 

[IRJ]

I'll be having a tummy tuck when i stop losing weight i have already seen surgeons and i know the proceedure but cant have it done until i've had 3 months stability, i must say though my skin has improved again probably through training 4 times a week and with clothes on you really wouldnt tell BUT when i'me naked and esp when ime having sex (sorry) it really does bother me though my girlfriend (god i'me 45 maybe that should be partner) says she doesnt notice but i do and so will have it done when its time.

 

[BIF]

same here no one can tell.....my wife says it dont bother her...she loved me when i was big so she loves me now...but in my mind it looks unsightly.cheers everyone......great talking point....
BIF.....

 

[Fat Again]

Speaking as someone with experience in this department, I did have the opportunity to have all my plastics done 3 years ago. I'd lost 19 stone the natural way and won an appeal to have an upper arm lift, thigh lift, complete body lift and breast reconstruction.

I did have my arms done (which was not that successful) but I then at the suggestion of my surgeon attend a meeting with 20 other women to discuss breast reconstruction and the procedure involved. All these women were on a waiting list all waiting for breast reconstruction, however I was the odd one out as all these other women ranging from ages 21-65 had have to have their breast/s removed due to Cancer.

Imagine how I felt, when it come to my turn to talk I was ashamed, embarrased and knew I did not belong there !!!

I got home that night and decided I would not have any further surgery. I felt disgusted with myself that I would of been taking someones place on that waiting list who was recovering from Cancer.

I went on to have a baby and gain weight again. However since the bypass I know there is no way I am going to apply to the NHS for plastic surgery. If I could pay for it to be done I seriously and honestly would not.

 

[gaelic girl]

Hi Bif great post, i didn't qualify for my bypass on the nhs so i will have no hope of getting plastics i wouldn't think. I have some excess skin probably not as much as i expected from the amount of weight i've lost and like you its ok with clothes on but off my boobs and tummy are definatly hanging south! Also like you i'm terrified of the surgery yet wasn't at all frightened of my bypass weird or what. I don't think it does matter wether you are male or female, as everyone says its definatly a personal choice and i'm really not sure what i want to do as i reckon i would need the boobs, stomach and arms done. xx

 

[BIF]

thanks boys and girls.........thanks for all your comments.....at this stage i am just gonna take my time and think about it....i think i will live with my excess for a bit longer untill my brain says yes....as i have lived with it for the last 40years......even though it was fuller
thanks BIF....