You are right, people do judge on your size, I had my gastric band in January after a comment my mother said to me "Donna, you have done two degrees, but honestly who is going to employ you at your size", I was a size 24 but I am tall, the comment hurt, but I knew she was being honest. Since having the band I am now down to a size 18/20 and it feels great! The wait for the surgery will be worth it in the end when you can stick your middle finger up at people. x