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Hi all I've been accepted for gastric band and told a few close friends and they've worried me saying it major surgery, I know it is and read about it just making me worry x
 
Hey hun, I've had this too from my partner and a few friends but the way I look at it is this...yes it may be 'major surgery' but how many surgeries, pills, illnesses etc will you have if you DON'T have this one op??

There are risks, as with every surgery but the pro's far, far outweigh the cons.

I know, from my point of view, that the prospect of the op is...whilst hugely exciting...also scary but if I don't have it done i'll be dead in 10yrs, if that, and I will do EVERYTHING in my power to stop that happening!

We are all here to offer support, opinions, past experiences but, ultimately, if you are not comfortable, or confident, enough with the procedure then it's your decision.

Good luck hun, am sure you'll be fine :D
 
hi

My sister said to me it was a big mistake for me to do it as i would never eat a normal meal again, then i seen her the other day and i had nearly lost 6st and she said i looked brilliant
 
Ultimately hun it's your life, your body, your health & your decision..
Others may be negative for various reasons such as jealousy, genuine worry for you or even to hold you back.
If you're this far in your journey it sounds to me like you've made your decision based on hard facts provided by your weight loss team & not magazine articles in Take A Break lol.
We all need to do what's right for us & my advice would be to concentrate on you hun. It really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks!!!
Good luck
xx
 
best thing ever seeing ur weight go down...its not easy but it works!
 
good luck, i hope you make the right desicion for you and not because what everyone else is saying, yes it is major surgery but im sure you already know this along side with the pro's and con's of the surgery, you have come this far knowing what you want to do, good luck and all the best xx
 
Everyone is right it is your decision ultimately and as long you read everything you can about the surgery and life post op and are well informed and happy to go ahead then ignore everyone else. after all it is for you not them and you must have tried everything to get to the point where you are considering surgery.:) good luck if you go ahead it will be worth it when you start to see results and when they all have to take back their negativity and compliment you. they may just be worried for but in my honest opinion i wouldn't call it major surgery and yes there is some pain and a couple of wounds and some peoples experiences are worse than others but for me the worst part was the left shoulder pain post op everything else was really manageable with paracetamol you will be fine sorry for the ramble :D xx
 
I would imagine they are concerned because most stories about weight loss surgery they will have heard in the media or through gossip/hearsay are full of drama and bad vibes. They wouldn't be in the press if they weren't a juicy read , let's face it.

The best thing is to read what it's actually like from us, the vast majority of people on here who have had WLS have found it has set them free from endless dieting and awful health issues...it has risks but staying obese and depressed has a lot more.
Get yourself reading and getting the actual facts and if it helps, get them to read too so they can see that it is a great opportunity for you.
The ones who are genuinely caring will support you through this, anyone who still continues to criticise and make you feel uncomfortable is not worth keeping around x
 
Totally echo what other people are saying. The media will always publish the horror stories over the 'everything's fine and dandy' stories as horror stories sell!!

I, and I'm sure many others on here, underwent gall bladder surgery (mine was years ago, pre-keyhole) and I believe gastric banding surgery carries less of a risk.

If anybody else tries to scare you just smile at them, thank them for their concern and carry on with your op x
 
As others have said, surgery of any kind carries risks, no matter what size you are. I'll just leave you with a question and answer session i had with my 13yr old daughter the other week. Katie (my dear daughter lol) had been having a day of dwelling on death, some film she'd seen. Anyway we'd chatted about various family members who have died, one she met and remembered well (grandad) and others she'd have liked to have met. She asked me the question below and i have put my response, it summed it up for me really.

Q. Mom, are you frightened of dying?
A. No Katie, i've never been frightened of dying, i was just frightened of dying fat.

So much of my life passed me by because of my size and the limitations carrying 140lbs of excess weight gave me. I am half way to shedding that load, i eat well (although very very rarely does my food come from a takeaway anymore) and i thoroughly enjoy living.....

It's easy for others to say don't do it, but there not the ones rifling through the back of the rails in Evans now are they?xx
 
phatmomma said:
As others have said, surgery of any kind carries risks, no matter what size you are. I'll just leave you with a question and answer session i had with my 13yr old daughter the other week. Katie (my dear daughter lol) had been having a day of dwelling on death, some film she'd seen. Anyway we'd chatted about various family members who have died, one she met and remembered well (grandad) and others she'd have liked to have met. She asked me the question below and i have put my response, it summed it up for me really.

Q. Mom, are you frightened of dying?
A. No Katie, i've never been frightened of dying, i was just frightened of dying fat.

So much of my life passed me by because of my size and the limitations carrying 140lbs of excess weight gave me. I am half way to shedding that load, i eat well (although very very rarely does my food come from a takeaway anymore) and i thoroughly enjoy living.....

It's easy for others to say don't do it, but there not the ones rifling through the back of the rails in Evans now are they?xx
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Very well said x
 
good luck with what ever you decide, all I can add to the other coments which I totally agree with, is that I thought about having a band for about 4 years before finally deciding that without one I would forever be dieting and still fat, it was the best decision I ever made
 
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