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gastric bypass surger
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fab40
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Hi,
I have not had an op or anything yet and I appreciate your story.
I really dont think you should be so hard on yourself, you are not a failure. I think it easy to think that surgery is the answer but mentally you have to be in the right zone for such a big operation, you should not be ashamed of your story at all, its honest and truthful and I dont think you are alone in what you have gone through.
It takes courage to admit you could of done things better but dont regret, learn, get in the zone and appreciate the goods things in life.
Thanks for sharing
Jane xx
I have not had an op or anything yet and I appreciate your story.
I really dont think you should be so hard on yourself, you are not a failure. I think it easy to think that surgery is the answer but mentally you have to be in the right zone for such a big operation, you should not be ashamed of your story at all, its honest and truthful and I dont think you are alone in what you have gone through.
It takes courage to admit you could of done things better but dont regret, learn, get in the zone and appreciate the goods things in life.
Thanks for sharing
Jane xx
Thank you for your replies.
I struggle with the fact that I had this surgery and I'm still fat and it's all because of me. I feel that my "demons/issues" with food if I had controlled them I would've succeeded at being at a healthy BMI after the surgery
but then the irony is that if i had that ability to control things I would've done it all by myself like I read about massive weight loss slimmers who did it by sheer hard work (dieting+exercizing).
I feel like a fraud and a bad one at that.
I struggle with the fact that I had this surgery and I'm still fat and it's all because of me. I feel that my "demons/issues" with food if I had controlled them I would've succeeded at being at a healthy BMI after the surgery
but then the irony is that if i had that ability to control things I would've done it all by myself like I read about massive weight loss slimmers who did it by sheer hard work (dieting+exercizing).
I feel like a fraud and a bad one at that.
Hi and thanks for sharing your story 
There are lots of 'shiny' bypass stories on here and Im sure you will read a few of them if you have a browse through.
Are you still under the care of the team that did your bypass, could you maybe arrange to go back to them for some help?
Well done on giving up the demon drink and good luck with slimming world xx
There are lots of 'shiny' bypass stories on here and Im sure you will read a few of them if you have a browse through.
Are you still under the care of the team that did your bypass, could you maybe arrange to go back to them for some help?
Well done on giving up the demon drink and good luck with slimming world xx
melissa76
New Member
Hay don't be so hard on your self!! Well done for sharing that must have been hard for you but you should be proud of yourself and that you are big enough to stand here and be honest!
I personally do understand what your saying I am so with you! I thought I was prepared but in reality I wasn't I am only 6 weeks post op today! But I also felt ashamed I couldn't do it alone and for the 1st few days though what have I done to myself!!
But I am proud and I will work with it and do will you!! Why not seek some counselling may be there is an underline issue you need to of load?
It's great for the soul!!
I hope things stay peaceful and calm for you and your hurdles are overcome
Much love Melissa xxx
I personally do understand what your saying I am so with you! I thought I was prepared but in reality I wasn't I am only 6 weeks post op today! But I also felt ashamed I couldn't do it alone and for the 1st few days though what have I done to myself!!
But I am proud and I will work with it and do will you!! Why not seek some counselling may be there is an underline issue you need to of load?
It's great for the soul!!
I hope things stay peaceful and calm for you and your hurdles are overcome
Much love Melissa xxx
Hi mazza, thanks for your reply. I actually meant not so shiny ones..one of strugglers gastric bypassers. I'll have a look anyway as im new here.
melissa thanks for your message. I've had counselling before on the nhs. didnt help me much. trying meditating and self help books.
melissa thanks for your message. I've had counselling before on the nhs. didnt help me much. trying meditating and self help books.
Woops sorry, I totally miss read that :wave_cry: xx
Hi and thankyou for sharing your story. I am still waiting to have my bypass, op in 2 weeks. I love this site as it really motivates me reading the success stories and gives me an Insight into what I will be going through but sometimes I get carried away with how healthy I will be and how I'm so looking forward to looking and feeling great. Your story has brought me back down to earth and reminded me it won't be easy and it takes hard work and commitment to succeed and I thank you for that. I really do hope you suceed and get to where you want to be. Very best of luck xxx
hi thanks for the reply dimond.
There is no denying that WLS can be life saving and is definetly life changing.
Think long and hard about it because it really requires commitment, will power and dedication. you will need to change your ways and to find a different way of dealing with your emotions.
I wish you all the best.
There is no denying that WLS can be life saving and is definetly life changing.
Think long and hard about it because it really requires commitment, will power and dedication. you will need to change your ways and to find a different way of dealing with your emotions.
I wish you all the best.
It sounds like there was little input from your team to make sure you knew what you were letting yourself in for. I am not sure I would have been able to commit at such a young age because there is so much tied up in acceptance with your peers and I expect you just wanted to fit in with them. I know I would not have wanted to set myself apart from everyone else.
I am now 52 and am coming at it from another place I want to improve my life chances and I have had the time to do all the things I wanted to when I was younger.
You are not a failure because you are 90 odd pounds lighter, you have seen your issues off and are now back on the path. So good luck
xxxx
I am now 52 and am coming at it from another place I want to improve my life chances and I have had the time to do all the things I wanted to when I was younger.
You are not a failure because you are 90 odd pounds lighter, you have seen your issues off and are now back on the path. So good luck
xxxx
LubiLu
New Member
Reading your story has reminded me of how I got here and why I am here. I have always been overweight and struggled through life as a kid. When I went to Uni I was 'only' a size 18 but felt huge. I gradually got bigger and when I met my husband 5 years ago I was a size 28/30.
I got paid off from work and in 9 moths put on 4 stone. Because I was happy with my hubby and a lack of exercise I reached 31 stone and a size 36. It wasn't until then that I realised I had let myself get to a size where I couldn't even buy any clothes. I was so unfit and was literally wasting my life away. After a few Doctor's appointments I eventually have been put on the list for surgery. Having a bypass on 7th August. I am ready to change and know that I need to.
If I could go back to when I was 18, starting Uni away from home and tell myself, that I wasn't that big. But then maybe things wouldn't have worked out as they have.
We all make mistakes, it's how we deal with them that matters. I hope you get on the right track and this website has been so helpful to me already, hopefully it will help you on your journey. Best wishes , Lucy
I got paid off from work and in 9 moths put on 4 stone. Because I was happy with my hubby and a lack of exercise I reached 31 stone and a size 36. It wasn't until then that I realised I had let myself get to a size where I couldn't even buy any clothes. I was so unfit and was literally wasting my life away. After a few Doctor's appointments I eventually have been put on the list for surgery. Having a bypass on 7th August. I am ready to change and know that I need to.
If I could go back to when I was 18, starting Uni away from home and tell myself, that I wasn't that big. But then maybe things wouldn't have worked out as they have.
We all make mistakes, it's how we deal with them that matters. I hope you get on the right track and this website has been so helpful to me already, hopefully it will help you on your journey. Best wishes , Lucy
LubiLu
New Member
I know it's a drastic decision to make and most of my family think I'm crazy. Most likely because they have seen that I have never stuck to a diet, why should surgery help. But this time I am determined to stick with it and be careful in future. I don't ever want to be the same weight/size again. I know you think you are a failure, but you have lost so much weight. It is something to be proud of.
Evenstarr
New Member
Thank you for posting your story, I've read lots of success stories but not too many that deal with the real mental issues of WLS.
I'm waiting for my op on 20th August and reading your story has made me realise that it's not going to be easy, that I really need to get my head around the complete lifestyle change I'll be facing.
Just the fact that for the past 42 years I've eaten what I want when I want and soon won't be able to is a scary thought, but I realise it's run out of control and I need to take it back drastically.
I don't think you're a failure, I think you're the person most of us are going to be...struggling with quitting bad eating habits, losing weight then panicking we've put some back on etc etc
Your post here is an inspiration and a good kick up the arse to me, it's telling me I need to get my head in order very quick smart.
Em xxxxx
I'm waiting for my op on 20th August and reading your story has made me realise that it's not going to be easy, that I really need to get my head around the complete lifestyle change I'll be facing.
Just the fact that for the past 42 years I've eaten what I want when I want and soon won't be able to is a scary thought, but I realise it's run out of control and I need to take it back drastically.
I don't think you're a failure, I think you're the person most of us are going to be...struggling with quitting bad eating habits, losing weight then panicking we've put some back on etc etc
Your post here is an inspiration and a good kick up the arse to me, it's telling me I need to get my head in order very quick smart.
Em xxxxx
