Got my date - realization hit me now

[Beckiboo]

I'm booked to have my conversion from a band to bypass on the 20th.
I have waited nearly 2 years for this.
When I found out yesterday, it just hit me like a tonne of bricks.
I'm having the operation.
Now I feel terrified and thinking am I doing the right thing?
I know I want and really need the operation if I am to have any form of life.
But my parents really don't want me to have the operation because of the risks and how badly the first op went.
Am I selfish to go ahead with it regardless?
I think I should try but I am petrified of it going wrong and rather than improving my quality of life, I will be making things so much worse.
I could leave the band in, put up with the horrible side effects of it not working and keep putting weight on - or I can take the risk?
I'm worried also about certain family members finding out - they don't know about the band and don't want them to know about this one.
So many things are going through my mind. Couldn't sleep last night.
Not sure what to say or do
xx

 

[Yvessa]

I can only tell you that all parents are scared. My mum didn't want me to have the bypass. Only you can tell whether the bypass is the right way forward, but at 6 months out I have no regrets. My mum still wishes I hadn't had it even though I've been complication free so far, touch wood. Parents are allowed to worry.

 

[Slimmingnix]

Hi Becki,
I know exactly how you feel. All the anticipation, then you get the date and fear sets in.
I expect that every single person who has had the op (bands, bypass or sleeve) had the same feelings, its natural.
So far I keep reminding myself of all the reasons I am doing this: It is the biggest help you will ever get to loosing all/most of the excess weight. Without it, I will continue to fail at diet after diet. My health will suffer and the risk of the op will be dwarfed by the risk of ill-heath for the rest of my lift.
Good Luck for the 20th... keep us posted.

SNx