Had a very morbid thought today.

[Tyraboots]

I was in Argos buying a slow cooker, (as part of the process of eating healthy post op), when I was struck with a terrible thought that just slipped into my mind. I thought what's the point spending money on this if I die?

Has anyone else had this type of thinking creeping into their heads?

 

[purpleprincess29]

I agree I've been having some morbid thoughts, particularly about my seven year old son and wanting him to be taken care of if I die. I'm trying to fight them and keep positive but it's often a thought that creeps in when you least expect it, going about your day to day stuff and all of a sudden thinking something morbid about the operation.

I think it's just our brains throw negative thoughts at us, I remember when I was pregnant with my son and the due date came closer thinking something bad would happen and thankfully nothing did, it's the minds way of dealing with the worry and stress of such a big experience we will be going through. It's negative thought patterns but the best thing I think is to challenge them, and recognise them for what they are.

Try to switch the thought to focussing on all the things you want to do once the op is done and the weight is coming off.

Take care x

 

[pumpkin28]

you are NOT going to die - you are going to be in great hands. you are going to be slim soon!

are those slow cookers really good or just a gimmick?!

 

[Tyraboots]

Got some great low fat recipe books, all low fat, so hopefully it will work. Plus I eat while i cook, so a load of raw ingredients away from me is a good idea.

My daughter is 7 too. It would break her if I died, so my reasons for survival aren't selfish. Just getting closer to the date, 28/01/10, I suppose the thinking is starting up, and I am unable to quash it.

 

[Lisa J]

My daughter was also 7 when i had the op and those thoughts also went through my head but now 8 months later and 8 stone lighter my thoughts are of being able to go swimming with her, going on the trampoline with her, going horse riding with her, taking her to school and NOT being the fattest mum in the playground so your NOT being selfish this op will be as positive for your little un as it will be for you, just think how proud she will be of you. I know it's hard but please try and push those horrible thoughts to the back of your head it did help me when i read somewhere that there was more chance of you being hit on the head and killed by a coconut on holiday then there is of losing your life under anasthetic!!!!!!!!

 

[pinkylin]

Hiya huni i had my op in november on the 16th right b4 crimbo and my daughter came in and sed to me you will love the crimbo presant ive bought you and it hit me what if im not here and shes spent all that money on me she should of waited so yeh it happens to everyone i think dont worry your in good hands they know what there doin and if they thought you where a big risk they wouldnt do the op thats what peeps kept on telling me b4 my op and it helped coz it calmed me down and im glad to say on the day of op i was fine no nerves lol and im doin fine now just inpatient and want all the weight off now hehe i can see you weigh 20lbs more than i did when i had op and thats not alot hun there is peeps out there getin this op who are alot heavier than both of us and they have been fine and come through the op no probs whatsoever so please dont worry you will be fine hope this has helped lots of love n luck and happy healing linda.x

 

[Dawn36]

ooh those nasty dark thoughts always sneak up on you when you least expect them. And I just keep telling myself that I have to ignore them or I will never make it into the theatre! I am my own worst critic and I will not let my own head ruin this for me. But it is sooo hard..

 

[emergingbutterfly]

I understand those thoughts. I had a sleepless night last night thinking what happens if I die and worrying about how heavy my coffin will be!!!!! I keep thinking that I could be that one in 200 or 300 and then I start worrying about silly things, like deleting stuff from my computer, or worrying that a certain person who doesnt know I am having the op will send flirty text messages to my phone and that my mum will read it whilst I am lying in the morgue!!! Now, who is being morbid. But the fear is real and as the op gets nearer I worry more.

The only thing that reassures me is that the op is far more advance these days then when it was first introduced and further more when was the last time we heard of anyone dying from the op! In all my research I have only heard of two people dying in America.

So, all I can do is keep busy and before I know it I will be back on here advising pre-oper not to worry.

 

[tink75]

I think everyone who has the surgery has some thoughts about their morbidity. I just told my husband my wishes should the worst happen and then put it out of my mind. It didn't help me when my mum asked the surgen how many surgeries he had done and he said around 200 lol. Try to focus on the positives because believe me your probabilities are completely in your favour xx

 

[dreamofbeingslim]

I don't think it is at all unusual to have these thoughts Tyraboots. You are going to be fine. On a totally selfish point I am relying on you telling me all about what happens at L&D lol. Take care.

 

[Dodsie]

I know that I had a crisis the day before my op so I would guess what you are feeling is natural.
I was able to tell myself that having the op was my way to live!!
good luck - you will be fine I am sure xx

 

[candie]

I must've had the same kind of thoughts as I got my daughter a laptop and gave it her the day before my op in July, in case I didn't make it till xmas
Looking back now I don't know what I was worried about, as i'm 6 months out n 6.5 stone lighter
Slow cookers are fab btw

 

[phatmomma]

I reckon i'm about 5 months from my op and i intend no morbid thoughts.... I suggest you put your 'invincible' knickers on when you go in, i'm gonna... Just make sure you don't confuse them with your 'pulling' pants...

On a serious note, you are having a big operation but you are in fantastic hands and i am sure you will be fine...

Slow cookers are fantastic, yesterdays stew was so easy to chew (beef) it melted in my mouth... xx

 

[jaynefrances]

I think it's only natural. I'm due my surgery Feb/March so i'm starting to make preparations for the worst case scenario - i feel calmer if i know everything is in order. I feel bad that i have no life insurance, so i worry about how my husband will manage financially without me as much as all the emotional stuff.
I figure that if i don't have the op it probably won't be long before i die due to obesity related illness anyway - so it seems the sensible choice despite the risks.
Thankfully the happy/positive thoughts outweigh the negative ones and if i get a bit maudlin i get online and read all the success stories which usually does the trick. (that and thinking about all the things i will be able to do when i'm thinner !)

I want a slow cooker now too......

 

[Silversurfer]

hey a slow cookers a great idea, you could get dinner on and then at least if you die they'd at least get there dinner lol

 

[lamornamiss]

you are NOT going to die - you are going to be in great hands. you are going to be slim soon!

are those slow cookers really good or just a gimmick?!

I love my slow cooker.
The sunday roast comes out really tender and just falls of the bone, I also do soups and casseroles

 

[pumpkin28]

I love my slow cooker.
The sunday roast comes out really tender and just falls of the bone, I also do soups and casseroles

mmmm sounds great. sainsbury's have half price off theirs at the moment. very tempted

x

 

[phatmomma]

I got an enormous one from Argos but it was a wee while before the festive season......

 

[Lesley110]

Amazing how this string has gone from thoughts of death to food and slow cookers lol.

I am hoping to have my op in Feb/March, never thought about death at all, not an issue, hell if it happens it happens, I won't be around to worry about it!

As for the slow cooker, I have two! One 6L for when I have the family hoards to feed and a 1.5L for hubby and I. Great for me as I am currently on the Atkins and I can load with meat and veg yum yum!