i feel so down god i hate hormones

[liannos]

hi all is it normal to feel so down after the op if so how long does it go on for god i feel so f**ked off and i dont know why : ( and all i what to do is eat s**t i havent though please tell me you had the same

 

[BlueDiamond]

Hiya

Didnt wanna read and run.

 

[gaelic girl]

The first few weeks are emotionally very hard and i felt i was on a rollar coaster one day i would be fine the next i would be weeping buckets. You are still recovering from a major op and that in itself will affect you. If it is any help you are perfectly normal and if you can just run with it, it gets so much better and you will really love your bypass. Big hug to make you feel better xx

 

[phatmomma]

Lianne, my provider told me and himself to expect an outpouring of emotions... It's because your fat is melting and there is a hormone stored within that which sets us off emotionally....

It will pass, next time you're feeling blue if anyone asks just tell them you're melting away into a slim woman and they are tears of joy xxx

 

[PoppyCorn]

Hey Lianne

I know exactly what you mean. Dispite suffering with clinical depression for 14 years I've never been much of a cryer. When I returned home after my op I sobbed uncontrollably for about 5 mins - the kind of crying where you end up hiccuping and gasping for air!

I think it had just hit me that everything had now changed for me. Even though I thought I was completely prepared and had been eating healthy for months I realised I would never again be able to eat a whole tub of Ben and Jerrys, or order ridiculously large takeaways to eat when everyone was out of the house, I found myself wishing I had taken the opportunity to do all these things before my op.

Then it passed...kind of.

Keep looking forward and remember why you wanted this in the first place it'll get better - it has to right!

Hugs and kisses
Poppy x

 

[dreamofbeingslim]

I think it is perfectly normal as you are still recovering from a major lifechanging op. It will get better when you see how much you have changed. Please just remind me of what I have said to you when I post a similar thread after mine.

 

[daftmoo]

You're not the only one, I'm on a bit of an emotional rollercoaster as well.

 

[dottychic]

Hope you are feeling a bit better, ((HUGS)) x

 

[jaxx]

It's a huge change to your life and your body it's no wonder you're down. As I said on Facebook, I had a whole 2 months of really hating my bypass and life and I was even a bit suicidal occasionally. All I can say is it's true when they tell you that the first 2 months is the hardest, it is, very very hard. I didn't realise how hard it would be until I went through it. It's like a kind of grief for your previous life and eating habits.

Please hang on in there, it does get better. It will take a while for your head to get used to the new eating system and finding out what you can eat easily and what you need to avoid.

I didn't post much on here about how difficult I was finding it as I didn't want to scare the pre oppers and I was very jealous of post op people who seemed to float through the post op period.

Just having a bypass doesn't stop you from craving *****. I went mental at my sister who ordered a pizza and was going to eat it in front of me despite me asking her not to. It felt like a huge slap in the face. But I'm able to cope with it now and the cravings you're having for crappy foods will go eventually.

I can't give you a formula which will help you through your hard times, it's something you have to go through, but I can offer support and you have as much as you need from me and from the other people here on the forum. Eventually, you will start to feel better and realise that you're getting back to normal.

 

[thinkbethin]

Sending you loads of HUGE HUGS and hope you feel better soon xxx

 

[Neen]

Replied to you on my attitude thread x

 

[liannos]

It's a huge change to your life and your body it's no wonder you're down. As I said on Facebook, I had a whole 2 months of really hating my bypass and life and I was even a bit suicidal occasionally. All I can say is it's true when they tell you that the first 2 months is the hardest, it is, very very hard. I didn't realise how hard it would be until I went through it. It's like a kind of grief for your previous life and eating habits.

Please hang on in there, it does get better. It will take a while for your head to get used to the new eating system and finding out what you can eat easily and what you need to avoid.

I didn't post much on here about how difficult I was finding it as I didn't want to scare the pre oppers and I was very jealous of post op people who seemed to float through the post op period.

Just having a bypass doesn't stop you from craving *****. I went mental at my sister who ordered a pizza and was going to eat it in front of me despite me asking her not to. It felt like a huge slap in the face. But I'm able to cope with it now and the cravings you're having for crappy foods will go eventually.

I can't give you a formula which will help you through your hard times, it's something you have to go through, but I can offer support and you have as much as you need from me and from the other people here on the forum. Eventually, you will start to feel better and realise that you're getting back to normal.

yap thats waht i feel like i didnt think it would be this heard x

 

[jaxx]

For me it was like a grieving process for everything I wouldn't be able to eat again. I couldn't stuff my face with a huge plate of fish and chips or have a huge slice of cake etc. All I wanted post bypass was everything I couldn't have and it made me so depressed. I was reading other people's account of their bypass and how happy they were and it was the best thing they'd ever done etc and I was so jealous that their experience was positive while I was so depressed and struggled so hard.

It takes time for you to grieve for your former life and even the weight loss sometimes doesn't compensate for what you've lost but eventually, once you're healed and off the mushy foods, you'll realise you can eat nice foods. Just not in the same quantities as before. It's made it easier for me to choose healthier options. And do you know what, I hated healthy option foods before my bypass, but I've got used to them now and I actually like them.

I know me saying 'things will get better' won't help much other than reassure you that what you're going through is normal but it does get better. Every day seems like a lifetime but eventually, before you know it, 2 months will have passed and you'll realise things aren't as negative as they were before. It's not a sudden 'ping' and everything is better but it is noticeable when you don't feel as crappy as you did.

Just hang on in there and keep posting on here, don't hide away like I did. I felt that I was a failure as I wasn't enjoying my bypass like other people seemed to and I was jealous at losing that positive experience everyone else seemed to have but you're not alone in feeling like this.

 

[PoppyCorn]

For me it was like a grieving process for everything I wouldn't be able to eat again. I couldn't stuff my face with a huge plate of fish and chips or have a huge slice of cake etc. All I wanted post bypass was everything I couldn't have and it made me so depressed. I was reading other people's account of their bypass and how happy they were and it was the best thing they'd ever done etc and I was so jealous that their experience was positive while I was so depressed and struggled so hard.

It takes time for you to grieve for your former life and even the weight loss sometimes doesn't compensate for what you've lost but eventually, once you're healed and off the mushy foods, you'll realise you can eat nice foods. Just not in the same quantities as before. It's made it easier for me to choose healthier options. And do you know what, I hated healthy option foods before my bypass, but I've got used to them now and I actually like them.

I know me saying 'things will get better' won't help much other than reassure you that what you're going through is normal but it does get better. Every day seems like a lifetime but eventually, before you know it, 2 months will have passed and you'll realise things aren't as negative as they were before. It's not a sudden 'ping' and everything is better but it is noticeable when you don't feel as crappy as you did.

Just hang on in there and keep posting on here, don't hide away like I did. I felt that I was a failure as I wasn't enjoying my bypass like other people seemed to and I was jealous at losing that positive experience everyone else seemed to have but you're not alone in feeling like this.

Jaxx

That's exactly where I am at the moment, and I feel by feeling this way I'm being ungrateful and stupid as I've got exactly what I asked for!

I think all post oppers must go through this but like you don't want to freak out the pre oppers.

That said, for me the thoughts are fleeting - most of the time, and I now look forward to pureed veg like never before .

Even though I know you're feeling awful right now Lianne, I'm glad you started this thread, as I thought I was the only one who felt this way.

:hug99:
Poppy xx

 

[angie790]

Hi Lianne,

I'm really sorry you are having a rough time at the moment, as you know I cannot advise you specifically because I'm still waiting, but there is great wisdom in Jaxx's words...I think the term 'grieving process' is particularly apt; we spend our whole lives using food as a comfort, for pleasure, to relieve stress, even when we are happy, so you are bound to be all over the place when suddenly realisation hits and you realise you are unable to turn to what you usually would. As Jaxx says, hang in there, in time these feelings will pass I am sure.

Poppy, as a pre-opper I don't feel freaked out at all, but priviledged that you are all being so open and candid about your feelings after the op....it really does help to think about the potential emotional pitfalls before the event...fore-warned is fore-armed and all that xx

 

[liannos]

thanks all I'm so glad I'm not alone xxxx

 

[phatmomma]

With 7 kids Lianne you will never be alone xx

 

[liannos]

With 7 kids Lianne you will never be alone xx

i know i still feel alone

 

[Nightwitch]

sending big hugs your way.

All us post-op people have probably been there too

 

[BandyEmm]

we are all here for you hun, as and when you need some support, friends or cyber family xxx