Letter to the loved ones.

[wombat]

Hi everybody

I have my surgery date for the 21st of July. I can't wait now, really.

What I wanted to ask is how many of you wrote any letters to your family "just in case".

Why I am asking it is because i have two boys, 2.5 years and 7 months (on this moment) and I am scared that if something will happen they won't have anyhting from me.

I am thinking about writing each of them a letter and also a letter to my husband and my mum.

Did anybody do this? I know I shouldn't be thinking things like that and I know that with my relatively low BMI (well, low for bypass, not low as in "low") I should be just fine, but...

 

[jaynefrances]

I did them. I'm quite a practical person so i wanted to leave instructions. Partly because when my mam was dying she refused to discuss anything which left us wondering what she would have wanted after she passed away, so i didn't want my family faced with the same dilemma.
I left instructions and practical information about finances etc and then i also wrote individual letters to each of my loved ones.
It was a very emotional process and i cried the whole way through but i felt much calmer once it was done.
Some people think its morbid, but its not because i was convinced i was going to die. On the contrary i'm quite an optimistic person by nature, but i just like to be prepared lol !!
Just found them the other day when i was tidying out some drawers, must remember to shred them as they were a bit mushy !!

 

[claudia24]

yes i did this i wrote to my family and my closest friends, also sed things i wish i had the couarage to say in conversation lol.

 

[gaelic girl]

I didn't write any letters to anyone. I personally felt if i did then i was recognising something might go wrong and although of course i knew there were risks it was part of my way of coping! Everyone reacts differently and it really is a very personal choice xx

 

[ladylite]

I havent written anything but I have told my closest friends and family that if anything goes wrong I am doing what I really wanted.

Not having any young children it is easier for me. Anyway nothing is going to happen to me.

You can tell them it isnt as hard as you think.

 

[Lisa J]

As Allie said it really is a personal thing. I didnt write any mainly because i would have soaked the letters doing them!

 

[thinkbethin]

I thought about it but did'nt do it. The thought alone broke my heart. I got the pen and paper ready but burst into tears and could'nt do it. Some do and some don't it is a personal choice. Anyway you're going to be fine ( positive thinking all the way) sweetheartxxxx

 

[Tyraboots]

I posted a similar question. Tried to write the letter, but my instinct wouldn't let me. I relied on my family and friends to talk about me if the worst should happen.
I had such morbid thoughts approaching my surgery, I even faltered when buying a slow cooker from argos in case I died before I got the chance to use it!!!!!
We are such incredible selfless creatures putting ourselves through surgery so we can be better parents. We really are excellent.

 

[phatmomma]

I'm 4 weeks away from surgery and always thought i wouldn't write any letters. But i think actually i will think seriously about it. Just to say the things you don't say everyday...

 

[daftmoo]

I'm just over 4 weeks away from my bypass and was thinking about the letter thing and sat down to write letters, but then a thought came over me. What the hell was I doing I'm having surgery to improve my life not end it. So I'm looking forward to the future,
Sue

 

[Pookiedoodle]

I didn't write any letters to anyone. I personally felt if i did then i was recognising something might go wrong and although of course i knew there were risks it was part of my way of coping! Everyone reacts differently and it really is a very personal choice xx

Same here. I refused to acknowledge that anything was going to go wrong. I remained 100% positive throughout the whole experience, it certainly worked for me.

xxx

 

[Porpo]

I wrote letters - just in case. I didn't want anyone blaming themselves for not stopping me and oddly it made me feel better doing it.
x

 

[wombat]

Thanks everybody for answering

I think I will write them. Mostly because if something will happen (I know it won't ) I want my 2 boys to know how much I love them!