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tink1974

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i am finding it really hard today. My hubby went back to work this week and i have been at home with my 2 daughters (5 and almost 11) alone this weekend. He isnt home until tomorrow afternoon. Obviously to make matters worse its the weekend and school is off.

I am 11 days post op now and am feeling tired & still a bit uncomfortable.

Well i stood and made dinner last nite for my brother and his family who came visiting and that was really hard. Tonight I stood and made pasta bake for the kids. & thats when the trouble really began

My eldest dtr loved it. The wee one burst into floods of tears and said she didnt like it, even though she hadnt even tasted it. Well that was like a red rag to a bull. I have just shouted at her and told her that she is having nothing until breakfast time.

I am finding the cooking for my family really hard at the minute. I know that in another 5 weeks I can eat solids but it just seems to far away.

I have been grand up until now - think its maybe cos i am tired and sick of liquids.

I feel really bad now. Just wish my hubby was at home to handle it. I just feel like crying.

Sorry for my rant
:cry:
 
O Tink dont be too hard on yourself i am 20 months post-op and must say that the hardest time for me was the pre-op diet and the first 2 weeks after the op. You have been through such a stressful time and im sure most of how you feel is down to tiredness. Maybe the entertaining wasnt such a good idea, just give yourself time you will soon snap into the swing of things im sure and once that weight starts falling off it will all be soooooooo worth it! xxx
 
Hello Angel,

It's no wonder you are tired. Not only have you travelled and been through major surgery... everything is still unsettled internally & a young family to deal with ... I'm tired for you.

It's harder when you are left on your own feeling this way too... I've cleared two shelves for my family in the fridge and a shelf for me and I'm really hoping you can get some rest tonight after the children have gone to bed.

Thinking of you precious.

Sending a huge hug and lots of love xxx
 
Oh hunni -hugs- it must be the hardest thing in the world being mum, cooking for all and recovering... My thoughts are with you. I feel blessed I don't have too take on cooking responsibilities for a while yet.

-huge hugs-
 
tink1974 said:
i am finding it really hard today. My hubby went back to work this week and i have been at home with my 2 daughters (5 and almost 11) alone this weekend. He isnt home until tomorrow afternoon. Obviously to make matters worse its the weekend and school is off.

I am 11 days post op now and am feeling tired & still a bit uncomfortable.

Well i stood and made dinner last nite for my brother and his family who came visiting and that was really hard. Tonight I stood and made pasta bake for the kids. & thats when the trouble really began

My eldest dtr loved it. The wee one burst into floods of tears and said she didnt like it, even though she hadnt even tasted it. Well that was like a red rag to a bull. I have just shouted at her and told her that she is having nothing until breakfast time.

I am finding the cooking for my family really hard at the minute. I know that in another 5 weeks I can eat solids but it just seems to far away.

I have been grand up until now - think its maybe cos i am tired and sick of liquids.

I feel really bad now. Just wish my hubby was at home to handle it. I just feel like crying.

Sorry for my rant
:cry:
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Your doing too much too soon. Rest up hun xx
 
Im sorry you are feeling so poo! Im not suprised though....being a Mum is hard at the best of times never mind when youve just been through surgery! I hope you feel a bit better tomorrow....the early days are really tough (HUG) XX
 
Tink, haven't you got any friends or family who could come and cook for you to give you a break. It does sound like you're doing an awful lot so early on. Don't forget that you're not taking enough calories etc to give you the energy you need to keep going. If your brother visits again could he do the cooking for you?

Sending lots of love and hugs

Rebirthx
 
thanx everyone for your kind words. I am currently in bed (my eldest dtr wasnt too happy about going to bed at 7 oclock!!). Unfortunately my family and friends all live quite a bit away from me, so cant call on them. My hubbies parent live next door to us due to health reasons so I cant call on them either.
Once kids are away to school in the morning I will be heading back to bed.

I know its going to take time to get through all the different stages. Its strange.. I am really craving a piece of ham!!

Its at times like this that you realise how much picking food you actually do when preparing dinner!

x
 
Awww Bless.... rest, rest and rest as much as you can precious... plenty of healing to be done and we are thinking of you... sending a huge gentle hug and hoping by tomorrow, you can relax and switch off for a while... you have done so well...

Love and hugs Bev xxx
 
No more entertaining they should of helped more,you have just had major surgery.If you had a hysterectomy they would be fussing round you,same with wls!More frozen/micro meals for now Mrs!
 
hey hunni sorri i havnt bin in touch much. i hope ur ok and things get better 4 u, try and rest hun xx
 
Whoa!! Hold the horses.... What the heck are you doing cooking dinner for your brother and his family when your 11 days post op following major surgery! Is there not a fish n chip shop close to that he could have gone too? I really think it's blinking inconsiderate of them to LET you cook for them....

Now as for the kids, forget about it. Your daughter will have forgotten it within a day or so. Next time she pulls a face just tell her big sister to make her a piece of toast, she can eat that or go without..... I'm not one for cooking lots of different things for different people...

Now rest up and take some time for yourself xx
 
Hope you are managing to rest today Tink... thinking of you and sending love as always... keep in touch xxx
 
aw thanks Bev - u r so sweet. Yep once kids went off to school I got into bed. Stayed there the whole day apart from going downstairs for my liquids.

Feeling a bit better now -hope u r keeping well
xx
 
I feel your pain on this one tink. I've been on my own since 8 days post op caring for a 5,3,&19 month old.the first couple days nearly killed me. I was in tears by the time hubby got home from work. I still have off days and I'm almost 3 wks post op. I remember I had my daughters 5 yr well visit to her pediatrician on day 10 thank goodness a friend volunteer to help me. I hope things have settled down a lil and you're feeling better. :)
 
hi dee
yep things are bit better - just battling the tiredness. I dont know how u cope.. at least my kids are old enough to do things for themselved
 
Hi Tink. I'm so sorry I missed this..maybe I was being poorly. I hope things are a bit better for you now pet. I think the firt 6-8 weeks post-op are very hard for al kinds of reasons, and I didn't have small children to care for.
Can you stock your freezer up with ready-cooked meals for a couple of weeks, to make things a bit easier for you?

Sending big hugs your way
Grace xxx
 
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