Mental changes

[happy days]

Obviously we have all changed physically after wls but my hubby reckons I've changed.
I've always had confidence all be it false. I don't really know what he means and he said he can't really explain. Seemly iam frosty towards him but to be fair I have a very demanding stressful life and sometimes just can't be arsed. I can't help thinking that he thinks cos iam thinner I shud be like a nymph.

 

[Miss Tickle]

I don't have any words of wisdom but hope the two of you will be able to talk things through to find out what your expectations are of the new you and see if you can meet each others needs. I think I have changed and am maybe a bit more tolerant of dh as I was a tired grumpy old thing when I was big. I've noticed myself being a bit of a cow recently as I'm in pain and he seems to get the brunt of my frustration-I'm not as snappy as before though.
I am more interested in sex and have started to make more of an effort in this as well as every aspect of my life but by no means am I a nymphomaniac now ! Have to say dh is more interested as well. Probably coz he knows there won't be so may excuses put forward by yours truly.

 

[Mrs Quiggle]

I think it's very normal to have these changes and different outlooks on life. I certainly find people take me more seriously now I am slimmer and what other people call 'normal' A lot of people don't give as much to respect to a fat person as they do to a slim person and that's a fact.

I do feel different mentally. I feel as though society accepts me more now. Sad but true. I also feel daintier lol I know that sounds stupid but I feel more fairy like lol really sound stupid now. I'll get my coat.

Kate x

 

[gonnabethinner]

Very interesting thread ladies. Am pre op and feel i Have to wear the happy mask most days. It gets weary wearing it day after day. I wonder If I am sucrssful.in my weight loss journey will I Let the mask fall And what will my personality be like?

 

[rickysmrs]

Ihave read this with interest too because at the moment I am snapping and stroppy most of the time and I find myself apologising regualrly, thankfully i have a very understanding hubby (atm) because of unexpected hosp admissions lately my energy levels are going down hill fast and my 1st appt is looming. I have been refused three years ago at this stage because of my chronic fatigue and I suppose its just playing on my mind wandering if its going to happen again.. Oh well cant do anything but try n stay positive. x

 

[Minoots]

i was always the happy bubbly fat girl that was the life and soul of the party etc.

But that was not the real me.. as each of my 3 husbands have found out over the years. After a while you cant keep up that act anymore...

I am now on my own and loving my life. Because I can finally be me !!

I dont recommend that you go out and get rid.. lol. Just trying to show that fat people always put on this happy face and is it who we are ??

Good luck all.. xxx

 

[mummykcb]

I've noticed my personality has changed a great deal since deciding to have the op and actually going through with it. I speak my mind more and dont take no crap from no one. Its actually quite liberating tbh. People that i care about are still about, the rest can go do one.

 

[Lush121]

Sorry to hear you are having problems, it might be worth the two of you talking it through with a counsellor, such as Relate www.[B]relate[/B].org.uk as you have had a life changing event, and it will take time for both of you to come to terms with it

 

[angiemason]

i used to be such a yes sir no sir three bags full sir person, i was so scared of saying no to anyone i would struggle to do things i actually wanted to,( i was so scared people wouldn't like me or say something derogatory like too lazy to be bothered etc) now though i have learnt to say no and i do think i get more respect for this but i agree with Kate we get more respect from people when we are slimmer and not talked down to or ignored or treated like an idiot, I truly believe i am the same person inside i always was but have confidence to be me now x

 

[Carre]

Men can be so one minded lol, my hubby said " when you lose weight you will be up for it more " I mean my days are still long with 2 kids and part time work and all the house work to keep on top of (he dont do anything)!! I think hes thinking i start feeling good about myself i might turn into a sex slave ha ha ha ha ha he is so mistaken lol

 

[angiemason]

Dream on Mr