Post Op Depression

[sophiapink100]

Hi all,

I know this isn't post op diet but wasn't sure where else to put it as it comes under post op.

Anyway, I wanted to know if anyone else has suffered from post op blues/depression? So for about the last 3-4 weeks I have been extremely short with everyone, happy one minute and crying the next etc... It finally came to a head today when I had a massive row with my mum followed by me bursting into hysterics and telling her I don't understand what is wrong with me.

I just can't seem to shift this low, I have spent weeks pretending it isn't happening as I'm so ashamed, I told everyone that my unhappiness solely related to being fat and now I have shifted 6st 5lbs I am still unhappy ... How can that be?

Anyway enough rambling. Just thought i would see if anyone was the same xx

 

[ICAWM]

I know a friend who had post op blues following wisdom teeth extraction, so it is a thing!

This surgery also changes how your body processes different chemicals. No two people will react the same.

With us, we've battled our weight for a long time, possibly holding it responsible for our misery, lack of success or other weird things. As the weight falls away, other things don't magically resolve.

Combine all this with 'normal' post op blues and no wonder you're feeling grumps.

Speak to doctor, vent at us, speak to friends/family. I hope things seem brighter soon

 

[sophiapink100]

I know a friend who had post op blues following wisdom teeth extraction, so it is a thing!

This surgery also changes how your body processes different chemicals. No two people will react the same.

With us, we've battled our weight for a long time, possibly holding it responsible for our misery, lack of success or other weird things. As the weight falls away, other things don't magically resolve.

Combine all this with 'normal' post op blues and no wonder you're feeling grumps.

Speak to doctor, vent at us, speak to friends/family. I hope things seem brighter soon

I think it is probably relatively normal but it's the thoughts I'm getting that aren't. I'm driving my car at ridiculous speeds and don't care if I hurt myself, I am currently fearless which is unlike me. Going to call the docs on Monday

 

[Marcos]

Go out & buy yourself something that you couldn't before July.try to force yourself to counteract every negative thought with two positive,it's psychological warfare so you need to fight it accordingly.exersise exercise exercise,endorphins(the happy hormone) are your greatest weapon.watch a Peter Kay DVD AGAIN.as far as the car issue...put a drawing pin in your wellie!take it from me,a fellow depressant veteran for nigh on 23yrs.

 

[Yvessa]

I think you're right to call your docs hon as, although we all go through the post op blues, what you're going through sounds more than that. If you're not sure you can hang in there till monday please please walk into a&E

 

[sophiapink100]

Thank you both for your advice, I have suffered depression since I was a teen on and off but not been too bad for the last year, this has thrown me completely. The hardest thing is I feel like an utter failure and too scared to tell anyone x

 

[shell-]

Thank you both for your advice, I have suffered depression since I was a teen on and off but not been too bad for the last year, this has thrown me completely. The hardest thing is I feel like an utter failure and too scared to tell anyone x

You are not a failure! You've just done a brave thing and had an operation to improve your health and your life - that's something that does take courage and determination to get through!

I do understand how you're feeling, and it is ok to have self doubt and feel down, we're not saying that. But as was said above, if you feel like you might do something, or are really struggling this weekend, get to A&E; otherwise, get on to your doctor first thing on Monday morning.

You can get through this period. We're here for you.

 

[Yvessa]

There's no such thing as a failure hon. Not until you stop trying. We all have our small failures, things we couldn't get right, but we also have millions of triumphs. Your posting on here for help alone shows you're still trying and you're not a failure.

 

[sharon2014]

Sophia, I'm sorry you are feeling like this!

It can sometimes be a small thing that triggers that mood and it's hard to lift it.

I haven't experienced it myself but have family and close friends who have and it's not easy.

Please be strong and remember what a fantastic person you are, how these changes are to enhance your life. Please go speak to your doctor and tell them exactly how you feel!

We are all here for you love!!! Xx

 

[sophiapink100]

Both of those messages mean a lot, I am not typically one to talk about my problems etc but feel it is a lot easier to vent on here than to my friends and family. I don't think it is just the operation I think it is lots of things that are stacking up and caused me to go into melt down. I will call the doctors first thing Monday morning and make sure I get an appointment for that evening after work. Thank you for your support it means so much x

 

[sophiapink100]

Sophia, I'm sorry you are feeling like this!

It can sometimes be a small thing that triggers that mood and it's hard to lift it.

I haven't experienced it myself but have family and close friends who have and it's not easy.

Please be strong and remember what a fantastic person you are, how these changes are to enhance your life. Please go speak to your doctor and tell them exactly how you feel!

We are all here for you love!!! Xx

Thank you Sharon. It's been going on for a few weeks but I've been in complete denial over it. I think it is because I'm now having to deal with the demons that lead me to have a food addiction in the first place, added onto several other things that are going on at the minute. I have suffered quite badly with anxiety and depression for years on and off but I am very much a pull yourself together make yourself happy kind of person. This time I just can't, it's possibly the lowest and lonliest I've ever felt

 

[sharon2014]

Aww big hugs love!!! Xxx

I wish something I could do to help! Xx

 

[sophiapink100]

Aww big hugs love!!! Xxx

I wish something I could do to help! Xx

Your support is lots of help xx

 

[Bear]

Sophia, I can't pretend to know how you feel, but I would say that you need to be completely honest with your GP. Don't hold anything back and tell her/him exactly where your thoughts have been.

You can and will get through this. Xx

 

[Crystalrainbow]

Huggles firstly sweetheart get yourself to your gp and get some help. You are no way a failure just going thru a rough time right and god knows we all need a little help from time to time stop being hard on yourself too, you have been thru such alot recently.... not only the op but the smoking too.... your body is now changing and your having to face up to your demons , which for so many years we have hidden away from thru food. I went thru the exact same and suddenly we no longer can turn to our old comfort (food) for me i found as my weight started to vanish my problems began to get closer and closer to the surface. I fortunately got some counseling, which helped me thru. Of course i still have my weeks, but i have learned to deal with them slightly different now, coping strategies everyone is here for you sweetheart. Chat to your gp, ask for help.... in the meantime, keep talking and huge hugs x x x x x

 

[Yvessa]

If it's hard for you talk about it,you could print this thread and show it to them hon.

 

[sophiapink100]

Huggles firstly sweetheart get yourself to your gp and get some help. You are no way a failure just going thru a rough time right and god knows we all need a little help from time to time stop being hard on yourself too, you have been thru such alot recently.... not only the op but the smoking too.... your body is now changing and your having to face up to your demons , which for so many years we have hidden away from thru food. I went thru the exact same and suddenly we no longer can turn to our old comfort (food) for me i found as my weight started to vanish my problems began to get closer and closer to the surface. I fortunately got some counseling, which helped me thru. Of course i still have my weeks, but i have learned to deal with them slightly different now, coping strategies everyone is here for you sweetheart. Chat to your gp, ask for help.... in the meantime, keep talking and huge hugs x x x x x

I am going to call the gp first thing tomorrow and also take yvessa advice and print this off, as I know I will go in there and forget everything I wanted and needed to say. I have been on the waiting list for CBT for ages but don't seem to be getting anywhere with it. Glad you are finding it easier here's me hoping it's just a blip xx

 

[sophiapink100]

Sophia, I can't pretend to know how you feel, but I would say that you need to be completely honest with your GP. Don't hold anything back and tell her/him exactly where your thoughts have been.

You can and will get through this. Xx

Thank you. I am going to call them tomorrow, will update you all on that x

 

[Yvessa]

Did you get in touch with them hon?

 

[sophiapink100]

Did you get in touch with them hon?

I did, had an appointment today. She has given me tablets and also a card with private counselling details on as the list for nhs is so long I've been on it for months already. She said I was interesting as she can't analyse me because I'm so animated - just told her I am an expert at poker facing everyone, done it half my life. Think the counselling is the way forward xx