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Putting yourself down...

Carre

Carre

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I can not wait to stop feeling like I have to make fat jokes about myself, cause I think that's what people are thinking.

It's crap how you act when your this down and fat, roll on next year!!!
 
Keep your chin up & focus on your weight loss journey. If you must think of jokes then think about those funny ones you're gonna be telling after your surgery. Good luck!
 
Bellydancer57 said:
Keep your chin up & focus on your weight loss journey. If you must think of jokes then think about those funny ones you're gonna be telling after your surgery. Good luck!
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Thanks I know I need to be positive about what's about to happen, I just can't imagine that yet!,
 
Honest Hun the time will go so quick til your surgery. Focus on eating healthily, getting into the mode of eating the correct things, preparing for life after surgery. Also try to get a little fitter as you heal quicker. Good luck.
 
Bellydancer57 said:
Honest Hun the time will go so quick til your surgery. Focus on eating healthily, getting into the mode of eating the correct things, preparing for life after surgery. Also try to get a little fitter as you heal quicker. Good luck.
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I know I will start getting in diet mode, I do my food shop on Fridays so I will prepare a shopping list ready xx thank u xx
 
Hi Carre.

What surgery are you waiting for? I'm pre op as well and now I have made the choice I just want to crack on. My company is having a product launch in London in 3 weeks and it's black tie and Im dreading it. I refuse to wear a dress and am getting really worked up about what to wear...as the only fat person in the company I feel like everyone will be judging me and looking at me because I'm the only one not in a dress. Would rather not go but no choice. In a years time it won't be a problem but makes you feel so inferior in the mean time...and yes I compensate by making fat jokes too. I'm so glad to have found this forum because everyone understands!
 
skinnygirlbreakingout said:
Hi Carre.

What surgery are you waiting for? I'm pre op as well and now I have made the choice I just want to crack on. My company is having a product launch in London in 3 weeks and it's black tie and Im dreading it. I refuse to wear a dress and am getting really worked up about what to wear...as the only fat person in the company I feel like everyone will be judging me and looking at me because I'm the only one not in a dress. Would rather not go but no choice. In a years time it won't be a problem but makes you feel so inferior in the mean time...and yes I compensate by making fat jokes too. I'm so glad to have found this forum because everyone understands!
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It's crap I know didn't go to a good friends wedding as all my old friends from school would be there and I'm just fat and ugly.

My best advise would be get yourself some pull me in knickers, long black maxi dress and a sparkle shrug, classic and hides a lot xx

This site is fab I love it and all the lovely people on here xxx
 
skinnygirlbreakingout said:
Hi Carre.

What surgery are you waiting for? I'm pre op as well and now I have made the choice I just want to crack on. My company is having a product launch in London in 3 weeks and it's black tie and Im dreading it. I refuse to wear a dress and am getting really worked up about what to wear...as the only fat person in the company I feel like everyone will be judging me and looking at me because I'm the only one not in a dress. Would rather not go but no choice. In a years time it won't be a problem but makes you feel so inferior in the mean time...and yes I compensate by making fat jokes too. I'm so glad to have found this forum because everyone understands!
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Oooh please don't fret about the black tie do. How about some black lovely wide leg trousers & a nice top with a bit of sparkle. That looks nice on larger sizes. I often used this 'look' when I was bigger ( size 30). I alway got compliments. Also black or any colour you want really velvet trousers & a long line jacket too hides a multitude of sins. Hope it goes well.
 
Tunic tops are also good, halterneck excellent if you've got a bit of cleavage.
 
Absolutely. I just strut my stuff now & still got a way to go. Wore my first fitted 18 on Saturday & it felt wonderful. Many aquaintances didn't even recognise me LOL
 
Thx 6 months last Saturday & winking at 14 stones 7lb (my next mini target). Can't believe how I've done it to be honest but I stick to the rules & do exercise regularly. I was 22 1/2 stones on my op day. Not saying it has been plain sailing all the way & you do have to work at it but it is the easiest weight loss I've ever experienced.
 
Wow...all that weight off in 6 months! Phenomenal. How are you finding it mentally if you don't mind me asking. I have seen the odd posts where people comment on your head not being able to keep up with how quickly your body changes? I am a little worried about not having to do something that's always been a big part of me life...eating. Do you loose the urge? X

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2 slightly different things for me. I am never ever hungry so eat to live not live to eat. Still love cooking, foodie programmes, recipe books etc but just don't eat much & only according to the rules. Hey I was in the food industry for over 25 years.
Second thing is how I cope with this extraordinary weight loss. I have always had lots of confidence & good body image to be honest so that has not been too difficult. I am obviously delighted in my shrinking frame & that my back pain has gone. I found the comments such as you look like a new woman, it doesn't look like you, I didn't recognise you etc at first a bit sad as it is still me. But now my head has caught up with it I realise people mean it as a compliment & I now just enjoy.
 
I agree nice pair black Wide leg velvet trousers
And Think this time next you all will be gobsmacked at me! Dont worry hune u r doing something about it. We all know how u feel everyone on here has been there really feel.for you.
 
Carre said:
I can not wait to stop feeling like I have to make fat jokes about myself, cause I think that's what people are thinking.

It's crap how you act when your this down and fat, roll on next year!!!
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Oh I stopped all that nonsense a very long time ago. I am who I am people can take it or leave it but I am not anyone butt of a joke and I do not feel the need to make myself the butt of a joke.
Don't get me wrong I have a sense of humour but I am no less a human being than the next person because I have more weight on my body.
You just need to start loving you for exactly who you are right now, wobbly bits and all.
You do not have to make fun of yourself and if others are thinking that well that is their own issues of insecurity. If they really need to put someone down that way to inflate their own ego says more about them in my book.
Love yourself at the weight you are, don't go wishing and thinking life will be perfect when you reach the weight you want, life is perfect now, YOU are perfect NOW! Today is all you have my dear, tomorrow never comes :)
 
Thanks gonnabethinner. I'm really struggling at the moment with people seeing me at this size ...stupid I know. I just can't wait to turn up next time a lot smaller...it will be like sticking two fingers up at all those who judged me because of my size. I love this forum and the masses of support. I really appreciate everyone's opinion and am astounded by others successes x

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