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Should i have had a bypass instead
- Thread starter Slimslo
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Hi there,
I would say that it's very early days and it is a case of making the band work in conjunction with a new regime of healthier living... and I'm sure you will be well on your way....
Go for it precious... a good healthy routine and exercise and give yourself time... the bands do work for a lot of people. From your chart it looks as though you are losing...
What is it that makes you feel it will fail... ?
It's such early days and a really good contact who has recently had the band is Emma&Alex, she is away until next week, but she has done really well with it and has had a couple of minor blips but nothing she couldn't iron out and put behind her.
Really hoping you can take a positive view, I feel proud that you have been and had it done, please make it work for you...
If there is anything at all that I can do to encourage you, message me, but fight off those negatives, turn it into a positive hun....
Love and hugs, Bev xxx
I would say that it's very early days and it is a case of making the band work in conjunction with a new regime of healthier living... and I'm sure you will be well on your way....
Go for it precious... a good healthy routine and exercise and give yourself time... the bands do work for a lot of people. From your chart it looks as though you are losing...
What is it that makes you feel it will fail... ?
It's such early days and a really good contact who has recently had the band is Emma&Alex, she is away until next week, but she has done really well with it and has had a couple of minor blips but nothing she couldn't iron out and put behind her.
Really hoping you can take a positive view, I feel proud that you have been and had it done, please make it work for you...
If there is anything at all that I can do to encourage you, message me, but fight off those negatives, turn it into a positive hun....
Love and hugs, Bev xxx
Neen
WLS Moderator
It is rather early days yet!!! Have a look...http://www.wlsurgery.com/wlsurgery/125346-shoulda-hadda-bypass.html
You are not the only one to feel a bit doubtful but honestly it does work. Get yourself a healthy eating plan worked out and regular exercise. This is not initially a quick way to lose weight compared to the bypass, but over time both even out and it is possible to lose a lot of weight with a band and keep it off. If I have learnt anything (trial and error mainly) it's that I always do better following a plan and sticking to the rules of the band. Your provider should have given you all the eating guidelines but I also calorie count to make sure.
The good news is that healthy/cal controlled eating is a lot lot easier with a band rather than without...even if the band is not at the right level of restriction yet, it will help you put the brakes on bingeing etc.
Always phone your team if you are stressing and they will reassure you..it's normal for the band to work slower..it does not mean it won't work so please relax x
You are not the only one to feel a bit doubtful but honestly it does work. Get yourself a healthy eating plan worked out and regular exercise. This is not initially a quick way to lose weight compared to the bypass, but over time both even out and it is possible to lose a lot of weight with a band and keep it off. If I have learnt anything (trial and error mainly) it's that I always do better following a plan and sticking to the rules of the band. Your provider should have given you all the eating guidelines but I also calorie count to make sure.
The good news is that healthy/cal controlled eating is a lot lot easier with a band rather than without...even if the band is not at the right level of restriction yet, it will help you put the brakes on bingeing etc.
Always phone your team if you are stressing and they will reassure you..it's normal for the band to work slower..it does not mean it won't work so please relax x
ickle pickle
New Member
Hi Neen,
Don't want to hijack this post but just wanted to ask why you chose a band over the bypass and when you went for consultation was a bypass suggested rather than a band?
Thanks
Paula
Neen
WLS Moderator
I was not lucky enough to have a supportive doc and did not have the benefit of seeing this site early enough before my surgery. I had to go private and to be honest I could not afford the bypass , it was put forward as a better option due to my starting stats but we just didn't have enough cash available for bypass costs and I wanted to take the opportunity whilst we had some money (just sold our house and moved to rented)
I think also I was just so desparate and living a half life that I knew I had to do something.
Also a lady working with my surgery team had lost 14 stone with a band so that was one of the things that made me go for it. I didn't realise how important my previous eating habits were to consider..I just assumed merely having the band would be enough!
In hindsight, and ideally, given the amount of weight I had to shift (16 stone) I would perhaps have gone to another GP and tried to get funding for a sleeve or bypass.
However, I have lost just over 9 stone and what's done is done. I am hopefully going to lose the remainder of my excess and although it might not be a speedy journey , it's one I am going to persevere with.
I think also I was just so desparate and living a half life that I knew I had to do something.
Also a lady working with my surgery team had lost 14 stone with a band so that was one of the things that made me go for it. I didn't realise how important my previous eating habits were to consider..I just assumed merely having the band would be enough!
In hindsight, and ideally, given the amount of weight I had to shift (16 stone) I would perhaps have gone to another GP and tried to get funding for a sleeve or bypass.
However, I have lost just over 9 stone and what's done is done. I am hopefully going to lose the remainder of my excess and although it might not be a speedy journey , it's one I am going to persevere with.
Katkit1
Not going anywhere!
Hi Slimslo
I think you will realise in time that you have made the right decision in going for the band. It maybe a little slower at getting started; but that is why you have the `fills` over the next couple of years after to get it, so it works for you and with you.
When you see how well Neen and others like her have done they are truly inspiring me. Neen would probably never have lost nine stone so far without its help. And as Neen says you make it work for you by watching and counting your food intake and also excercise. I`m hoping after I have had my band that I can stick with the programme and the amount I eat; what will be harder initially will be the excercise. I have some health issues including poor joint muscles (arthritis) but I am sure once I start to lose some weight things will improve and they will be less painful.
The way I see it this surgery is a new start for us all taking it one day at a time. No firing pistol, no race we are all proceeding under our own steam and if we work with our advisers and supporters and also with our own momentum; we cannot fail.
Good Luck hun I know you can do it.
Kat
I think you will realise in time that you have made the right decision in going for the band. It maybe a little slower at getting started; but that is why you have the `fills` over the next couple of years after to get it, so it works for you and with you.
When you see how well Neen and others like her have done they are truly inspiring me. Neen would probably never have lost nine stone so far without its help. And as Neen says you make it work for you by watching and counting your food intake and also excercise. I`m hoping after I have had my band that I can stick with the programme and the amount I eat; what will be harder initially will be the excercise. I have some health issues including poor joint muscles (arthritis) but I am sure once I start to lose some weight things will improve and they will be less painful.
The way I see it this surgery is a new start for us all taking it one day at a time. No firing pistol, no race we are all proceeding under our own steam and if we work with our advisers and supporters and also with our own momentum; we cannot fail.
Good Luck hun I know you can do it.
Kat
Thank you so much for your message. I sometimes feel like i gave wasted money and what if the port flips, or i am in that percentage that doesnt lose and i really want to lose this weight as it depresses me and makes me feel horrid. My partner is good looking has a fab body and looks the way he did when we meet 9 years ago i now look older than him..... this depresses me:cry:
Thank you all for your messages... i just need to get my act together and be as positive as i was when i had the band fitted.
I just feel really alone with no support group were i can see people or met up or something. I guess unless i start my own support group.... where other people can help.
I feel really low people. I dont even post as often as i used too cause i feel i dont belong to the elite club of slim banders.
cheers
I just feel really alone with no support group were i can see people or met up or something. I guess unless i start my own support group.... where other people can help.
I feel really low people. I dont even post as often as i used too cause i feel i dont belong to the elite club of slim banders.
cheers
Neen
WLS Moderator
Hi Slimslo xxx Sorry I didn't see this last post before
Elite group of slim banders? LOL hunny I'm not in that gang either! I have more weight still to go than you & I had my op 2 years ago!
Stop being so crazy hard on yourself. Being down on yourself like this is not going to force you into action, rather the opposite I would imagine.
You actually have done REALLY WELL since your op and have made a good start so stop looking at what others (specially bypassers ) are losing as it is a totally individual journey...
Concentrate on you and learning the new healthy eating and lifestyle habits and you will lose at the rate that's right for you. Also as you lose weight at a gradual rate you have time to learn the new habits that ensure you keep it off for good as well.
I know as soon as you have the op you want the wodge gone, but it won't be so quick as that, your body will now and then stall for no reason while it adjusts to weight coming off that it has carried for perhaps years.
Not only that but as you lose large chunks of weight your emotions will go loopy sometimes too.
Fat stores hormones that go back into circulation as it melts away so you will get wobbly moments and panic that you are never going to lose the rest. I should know! I've been wobbly for a long time.
Try to focus on the slim figure you want rather than the fat you hate and be kinder to yourself.
Elite group of slim banders? LOL hunny I'm not in that gang either! I have more weight still to go than you & I had my op 2 years ago!
Stop being so crazy hard on yourself. Being down on yourself like this is not going to force you into action, rather the opposite I would imagine.
You actually have done REALLY WELL since your op and have made a good start so stop looking at what others (specially bypassers ) are losing as it is a totally individual journey...
Concentrate on you and learning the new healthy eating and lifestyle habits and you will lose at the rate that's right for you. Also as you lose weight at a gradual rate you have time to learn the new habits that ensure you keep it off for good as well.
I know as soon as you have the op you want the wodge gone, but it won't be so quick as that, your body will now and then stall for no reason while it adjusts to weight coming off that it has carried for perhaps years.
Not only that but as you lose large chunks of weight your emotions will go loopy sometimes too.
Fat stores hormones that go back into circulation as it melts away so you will get wobbly moments and panic that you are never going to lose the rest. I should know! I've been wobbly for a long time.
Try to focus on the slim figure you want rather than the fat you hate and be kinder to yourself.
