so scared!!!!

[wishiwasslim]

Hi all, im still booked in for my band on 29th oct but my feelings are all over the place!!
One miniute i want to phone and cancel the next i think of the worst thing happening, (my kids loosing their mum!) the next im thinking its my only hope left!
is it normal to have this rollercoaster of emotions its horrendus?
ive never felt like this before im gonna speak to them tomorrow to see if i can put my mind at rest! thanks for listening to the moan! x

 

[ditzyangeluk]

Oh yes, all very normal! atback:

I had a Bypass, not the band, but the emotional rollercoaster of ups & downs & bumpy bits is par for the course - right up to being put out for the op!! :devilangel:

You'll be fine!:flowers:

 

[alliecat]

Don't worry it is totally normal!! We have all had these feelings, after all it is a big decision to make, but for many of us the right decision. Ultimately, only you can decide, and I wish you luck with your decision xx

 

[shelbell]

Don't worry it is totally normal!! We have all had these feelings, after all it is a big decision to make, but for many of us the right decision. Ultimately, only you can decide, and I wish you luck with your decision xx

What Ali said

 

[j.u.s.t.l.i.z.]

its all very normal what you are feeling i and many others have experienced this emotional rollercoaster, just remember that the surgeon will be very experienced and you will be in very good hands, you are doing this for you and to make your life better.

best wishes
liz xx

 

[LancsLass2]

Hi all, im still booked in for my band on 29th oct but my feelings are all over the place!!
One miniute i want to phone and cancel the next i think of the worst thing happening, (my kids loosing their mum!) the next im thinking its my only hope left!
is it normal to have this rollercoaster of emotions its horrendus?
ive never felt like this before im gonna speak to them tomorrow to see if i can put my mind at rest! thanks for listening to the moan! x

Hi, I`d just like to say I`m having my band done the day before u and I too have 2 young children ( one being only 7 mths ) and I felt the same as you when I booked although now I`ve joined this forum my nerves have settled. I just see it as if I carry on like I have been doing and put on more weight then I`ll either die early and leave them without a mummy anyway or I`ll hit a downward spiral and be neither use nor ornament to anyone either due to depression. End of the day your kids will benefit from this op too as they`ll have a fit, healthy and happy mum.

 

[phatgirl]

Hi, I am having my gastric bypass on the same day you are and I go back and forth as well. It is very sane & normal to think this way, it is one thing to talk about, plan for, etc. a surgery but different to actually DO it. You are a good canidate or you wouldn't have gotten the surgeon's approval (he wants it to be successful almost as bad a you - remember that) and you have probably had to face some challenges to get to this point. You are ready, it will go well and at the end of next week we will both be post op and on our way to a better, longer, fuller life!!!

 

[wishiwasslim]

Hi, I am having my gastric bypass on the same day you are and I go back and forth as well. It is very sane & normal to think this way, it is one thing to talk about, plan for, etc. a surgery but different to actually DO it. You are a good canidate or you wouldn't have gotten the surgeon's approval (he wants it to be successful almost as bad a you - remember that) and you have probably had to face some challenges to get to this point. You are ready, it will go well and at the end of next week we will both be post op and on our way to a better, longer, fuller life!!!

Hi phatgirl
Where are you having your surgery? are you really scared? i know your right i am trying to imagine if the date goes past what would i feel if i didnt do it??? good luck with your surgery and let us know how it goes.x

 

[wishiwasslim]

Hi, I`d just like to say I`m having my band done the day before u and I too have 2 young children ( one being only 7 mths ) and I felt the same as you when I booked although now I`ve joined this forum my nerves have settled. I just see it as if I carry on like I have been doing and put on more weight then I`ll either die early and leave them without a mummy anyway or I`ll hit a downward spiral and be neither use nor ornament to anyone either due to depression. End of the day your kids will benefit from this op too as they`ll have a fit, healthy and happy mum.

Hi Lancslass2 Thank you for your comment i guess its a massive worry when you have kids depending on you! i know for definate i will get worse and eat more and more and hate myself more i am trying to think about life without the surgery and its not pretty!!!!!! good luck with your surgery let me know how it goes x

 

[tammy]

what you are experiencing is perfectly normal. you not only have to face the surgery but the massive changes to you lifestyle afterwards. i went through the whole am i doing the right thing thoughts but knew in my heart of heartd that if i didn't have the surgery i wouldn't be able to enjoy my children never mind see them grom up. i kept giving myself a good talking too about why i needed the bypass. it has honestly been the best decision i have ever made. just keep focusing on the positives hun. good luck with it all and look forward to hearing about you experiences xx

 

[phatgirl]

Hi phatgirl
Where are you having your surgery? are you really scared? i know your right i am trying to imagine if the date goes past what would i feel if i didnt do it??? good luck with your surgery and let us know how it goes.x

I am having mine at Hope hospital in Salford. Yes I am scared, I would be silly not to be but I know that I am doing the one thing that will give me a longer, happier life. Don't let your chance slip by. Just think if you had a bad heart and this were open heart surgery to make sure you live a nice long life. If the doctors agreed that you needed it, you wouldn't say no would you? Weight Loss Surgery saves lives and it could save yours. Think about that and it should all become clear for you. I wish you the very best with your surgery and don't let your cold feet run away with you. Keep letting us know how it is going for you, that's the support in support group!

 

[Kazcita]

Hey wishiwasslim

I'm having my band in on Monday. Although I am actually a lot calmer about it now, your post really resonated with me as I had completely convinced myself I was going to die on the operating theatre! I initially told Dr Sigurdson, my consultant at Dolan, that I only wanted the gastric balloon as "I had a morbid fear of the band" but he assured me that there are about 5,000 people getting the band each year in the UK and the VAST majority have no problems at all.

I agreed to go ahead with the band when both he and my co-ordinator said that many people who get the balloon either put all their weight back on upon its removal or end up getting the band anyway. But I was still worried sick.

I suppose it was finding the forums that helped ease my anxiety; there are so many people that have been through the band operation and even the bypass, and they have all come through it perfectly well and very few people seem to have any regrets.

At the end of the day the surgeon and anaesthetist (sp?) will be very experienced and know what they are doing. So we'll be fine! I know I'll probably be worried about it on the day but the thing that is worrying me most about it right now is negotiating the airport on my own lol.

Where are you having your op? Hope it all goes well - keep us updated. Lots of luck!

Love

Kaz xxx

 

[cazbandy]

All very normmal...I wanted to hide in the airing cupboard on the morning of my op and never come out....

But I focused my thoughts as to why I really want this done, for me my health is too important.

 

[serenitylove]

i think everyone has had these thoughts but if it helps i had my band 6wks ago and can honestly say having my c-section was worse your in and out befor you know it just keep in mind the results you want at the end of it, also once you get to the hosp there will prob be someone else there going thru same iv made a couple of great friends via my stay in and the people iv et in clinic

 

[cheryl]

your fears are normal. i had my op done on monday by dr sigurdsson at dolan. i was convinved i was going to die and leave my children without a mother all for the sake of vanity. my mum even had me make a will! well i lived. and i am so pleased i did it. it is ok. the wind pain is the worst. go for it! you have nothing to loose only weight!!!

 

[Curvy_Kapricorn]

Hi all, im still booked in for my band on 29th oct but my feelings are all over the place!!
One miniute i want to phone and cancel the next i think of the worst thing happening, (my kids loosing their mum!) the next im thinking its my only hope left!
is it normal to have this rollercoaster of emotions its horrendus?
ive never felt like this before im gonna speak to them tomorrow to see if i can put my mind at rest! thanks for listening to the moan! x

Hiya Wish,
I know exactly how you are feeling as i am booked in for my bypass on Nov 4th and these last few weeks have been such a rollercoaster.
I go from crying hysterically, to talking to myself in the mirror saying i am going to be fine, to sitting in front of the computer typing my final letters to my 8 yr old daughter and family. My mum is getting annoyed with me as i am convinced i am going to die!!! This month has been so hard also as i gave up my 40 a day smoking habit (commitment for the op) and also my pre op diet is not going as well as it should be because my body still wants to compensate with food for the lack of nicotine Arrrggggggggggg.
Claire x

 

[e.green69]

i agree with cheryl hun..
it wouldnt be normal if you didnt worry..
takecare emma

 

[lovebug]

Your only human. Don't be so hard on yourself. I know how u feel. I had so many different mixes of emotions but try and stay calm, youv'e not long to wait now and u will be ok. I did it and so many others have had too. Its normal to feel the way u do. Big hug to u xxx