Sods law

[Frosty]

Hi all

Just a short story of why me.

Ive been suffer from being affraid to go out it started when i got very heavy.

As you know i had my bypass in april and ive done well with it all.
But ive suffered from stress and depression.

But to get over my going out problem i started by going out for a drink and once i had a drink i was ok, i did this just to get the ball rolling.
I stopped drinking and stayed in for 4 weeks but on sat i thought i would go and see a freind .I plucked up enough courage to get up and go out.

I hadf a good evening said my goodbyes and came home. But sods law kicked in and as i parked my car up out side my house 2 people were standing there. and said hey you why are you following my wife about .

I explained they must have the wrong person and that i lived here thats why i parked here.

Then the man attacked me. Now why oh why des it happen to me. i dont feel im a bad person but i seem to attract it.

Lucky for me but unlucky for him i used to be a british full contact kickboxer champion. but a very unfit one , but be as it may i lost my temper and hurt him as i had my children and wife in the house and i didnt know what they were going to do.

Now why do i feel so bad and guilty . should i feel bad and speak to the police or just let it blow over . as im worried the police will knock on my door and arrest me.

I know its not to with weight loss but your the only guys i can really ask for advice as going from very over wieght to losing it fast has mixed my head up.


so what do you guys think


Mark

 

[mandy-1975]

Oh Mark!!!!!!!!!!! Im so sorry..........that you are having a rough time......... it is hard metally i find with the bypass.... now i have spoke to a collegue and logically you should report it as it was an attack on you!!!! but for your own safety you should report it!!!!!

Im alwasy on email if you wanna chat.........

thinking of youxxxxxxx

 

[Cowgirl]

Mark

This was a bad situation agreed, but not an everyday one. I'm sorry yo had to go through that especially when it takes so much for you to go out in the first place.

It seems your mind hasn't caught up with your physical body yet. You obviously still have the "Fat demons" inside you and need to release them. What's your GP like? Would they refer you for councelling? What about your aftercare at the hospital where you had it done, could you contact them and ask to see someone?
Unfortunately, we can all extend a kind word and support to you but no one can change yor inner mind until you are ready to let it go. I think councelling would be really good for you.

Big hugs, Ginaxxxx

 

[phatgirl]

Have to say I agree with Gina & Mandy. You are in a bad 'headspace' and could probably use some help to talk it through. Weight loss unfortunately is only a tiny chip of a bigger iceberg for many of us, it is best to ask for help to carry the heavy bits.

So sorry that when you were brave enough to get out it resulted in such bad luck. You should however report it, it puts your family in danger not to do so. Best of luck with it and hope things resolve well for you.

 

[gingernutter]

Hi mark, I am so sorry you have had this bad experience. I don't know what to say. I would be tempted to advise you to report it however would this cause you or your family even more trouble? Do you feel the matter is finished?

 

[charliegirl]

Hi Mark sorry for what you have experienced but please dont let it put you off going out to socialise, this will help your state of mind I am sure. With regards to reporting it to the police I would be unsure, whilst it was an attack on you you know the law sits in a strange place about folk fighting back. I would think long and hard about that one. I think anyone of us would of defended our family so there is nothing to feel bad about. The scum that did this to you deserve all they got in my opinion and you should not let it bother you for another moment.....(((((hugs)))).....xx

 

[Frosty]

Hi all

Thanks for your kind thoughts and words.

Ive decided not to report it to the police as i cant give them any information that would be anygood as it not very well lite and noone in the street knows who they are . so im guessing they were just agro chancers.

If i report it ill have the police round asking questions which i dont really need as i like the quest life. Plus the fact becaue i fought back as was mentioned i coul dget in trouble myself.

Ill put it down to experience i think and i think the person who attacked me will defo think twice about doing it to someone again .

Thank all again . its nice to be able to get things off your chest

 

[tammy]

God Mark what a nightmare for you. at the end of the day you were defending yourself and those idiots started it. try not to let it knock your confidence hun you have made huge steps forward don't let them ruin your progress x

 

[Silversurfer]

Hi Mark

Guess they picked on the wrong person saturday night, irronic really picking a fight with the ex british kick boxing champion

I understand to a degree about how you feel about going out as i feel like this sometimes myself, despite losing six and half stone since my op in August i still feel fat, and have this impression that other people see me this way, mad really as i know i'm not anymore, guess the fat ghost is still with me

Take care mate

Richard

 

[wobbles]

Yikes Mark, that's awful!! Bloody hooligans looking for trouble, and they stumbled onto the wrong bloke!! Good on you for fighting back, and don't feel guilty at all because i have no doubt they picked you to pick a fight with. People get bashed to death in their front gardens these days, you could have been one of those people.

I hope your luck changes soon mate.

 

[Brunetteandred]

Am sorry you had this happen to you hun.

I would leave it and see what happens. Have you seen these guys before? Did they seem under the influence of something? If they are local idiots you are more likely to get a brick through the window than a call from the police.

If you do speak to the police, you need to say it was in self defence and that you thought you and your family were in danger. That is the key thing.