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Today, I HATED doing the shopping...

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FEDup1981

I WILL look like this!!
Oh i was so fed up. I came home with 3 tins of soup (got loads more in cupboard), some prawns and a piece of salmon, plus my highlights hot choc. And that was it for me.

I wanted my usual cream cake, crusty bread, pasties, sausage rolls, biscuits. All the crap that made me this size anyway. :cry:
Its just so hard when hubby and LO get what they would like.
Just wish i could get used to it.
 
it is hard at 1st, but its something we all have to get used to as we knew it would be this way after surgery. but when it really happens and its reality, it hits hard at 1st, you now have to focus on your own foods and not worry about what others are eating around you, as if you do your only torturing yourself and not allowing yourself to get used to "your" new way of life.

my shopping trolley each week is very similar to yours half of it has the regular food in for my hubby and son and the other half is for my food. i can not punish others around me or make them feel guilty for having foods that i cant as i chose to have surgery not them. you will get used to these everyday situations in your new life style, it just takes time to ajust.

liz x
 
You will get there!!! Its just going to take a bit more time and a lot more understanding. You're doing so well. Can I ask you Do you honestly think you were ready for this??? Do you believe you had enough knowledge and awareness form the surgeons team?? Do you regret having it done?? These are not questions of negativity, just wondered how you felt about the support from the team.
Take care xxGaynorxx
 
thinkbethin said:
You will get there!!! Its just going to take a bit more time and a lot more understanding. You're doing so well. Can I ask you Do you honestly think you were ready for this??? Do you believe you had enough knowledge and awareness form the surgeons team?? Do you regret having it done?? These are not questions of negativity, just wondered how you felt about the support from the team.
Take care xxGaynorxx
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i was thinking along the same lines gaynor, as its like a greiving process of leaving our old lives and starting a new one, does your providor have a weight loss surgery councilor as it could help you ajust and be able to deal with things better and help to get you through this greiving process that your experiencing right now.

liz x
 
I have the same team as Fedup. Apart from the group consultation I first went to back in october there has been no more information. Luckily I know deep down I will be ok as its not the food I really crave. Its the big portions that do me and this is why having the band is my best option to reduce this. I do feel though with the bypass its much different. I'm not saying that all bypass patients do pre op is eat, but its the food types they like and this being why they chose bypass over band. This is only my opinion and I would'nt want to upset anyone with this. Its just that its got to be hard when all the food you like is going to be a no no but with the band you can still have the meals but in smaller quantities. This being why I feel more councilling is needed because as you say Liz its like a greiving process they're going through. Sorry if I'm rambling but hope you understand what I'm saying.
 
sorry your struggling chick, I never felt this way at all in the early stages I just craved something to chew on....things will get better and you will be able to eat the things you ate before just less of them....I see it as before I could have a plate with a huge sunday roast on, now I can still have the same things but on a much smaller plate....its not about going without its about working with having less....hang on in there three months down the line you will think its all worth it...xx
 
Ive said it before and will say it again it is so important that we have the right psycological evaluation to ensure that our heads can cope with the ajustments we are going to have to make.
if i were you i would be asking my provider for a referal for some additional councilling. Really feel for you as it must be so tough when you are still craving foods. that you know arnt good for you.
take care
carole
 
so sorry you are feeling like this at the minute, im sorry i dont have the words to help you at all but i really can sympathise at the minute as i think im also grieving for the old foods i used to eat that like you said, made us the way we want to change. sending you a big hug xx
 
hopelesscase said:
Ive said it before and will say it again it is so important that we have the right psycological evaluation to ensure that our heads can cope with the ajustments we are going to have to make.
if i were you i would be asking my provider for a referal for some additional councilling. Really feel for you as it must be so tough when you are still craving foods. that you know arnt good for you.
take care
carole
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carole i totally agree with you, preparing the patient mentally before surgery is the key to a happier post op patient, there should be stricter guidlines in my opinion before surgery is given, and a few sessions at least should be complulsary with the psycoligist to help a patient prepare for what life will really be like after wls.
i also feel that providors should offer follow up sessions after wls to check how each patient has ajusted to the changes.
these are just my personal opinions on the matter and i in no way mean to upset anyone here.

liz x
 
Hi Fedup and everyone, great advice and thoughts on this issue, I've had the same problem but now my husband does the shopping for himself and my son. I go shopping for me ( 1 basket around morrisons). OH hides anything torturous in the potato bin. I know it's there but it isn't in my line of sight.
 
Gaynor: I was ready for the surgery, but not to happen so quick. I got 2 days notice, and just felt it wasnt enough to say goodbye to food! I dont truly regret having it done, but it is hard. And no, certainly did NOT have enough support from the team. Didnt meet my surgeon til the day of the op. Got his jumped up SHO at my inital appointment who told me if he was fat he'd take up running. Didnt get chance to ask any questions. Specialist nurse liz, is very nice and friendly, but only works mon and thurs, and i cant ring her everyday! I kinda knew the process id have to go through post op, but i never imagined it would be so hard. Its all my head wanting my comfort food.
HC - my psych nurse comes to my house once a week. And i can talk to her about it, but she doesnt have much experience with WLS or eating issues. In january, i had a "breakdown", my depression and anxiety hit an all time low, and tbh, im only just picking myself up. Ive had to change meds, cos the others were huge capsules. And im waiting for therapy. So yeah, i am an emotional wreck, and this has hit me harder than i thought.

Thanks to everyone who has replied. Sorry for the moan.
 
FEDup1981 said:
Gaynor: I was ready for the surgery, but not to happen so quick. I got 2 days notice, and just felt it wasnt enough to say goodbye to food! I dont truly regret having it done, but it is hard. And no, certainly did NOT have enough support from the team. Didnt meet my surgeon til the day of the op. Got his jumped up SHO at my inital appointment who told me if he was fat he'd take up running. Didnt get chance to ask any questions. Specialist nurse liz, is very nice and friendly, but only works mon and thurs, and i cant ring her everyday! I kinda knew the process id have to go through post op, but i never imagined it would be so hard. Its all my head wanting my comfort food.
HC - my psych nurse comes to my house once a week. And i can talk to her about it, but she doesnt have much experience with WLS or eating issues. In january, i had a "breakdown", my depression and anxiety hit an all time low, and tbh, im only just picking myself up. Ive had to change meds, cos the others were huge capsules. And im waiting for therapy. So yeah, i am an emotional wreck, and this has hit me harder than i thought.

Thanks to everyone who has replied. Sorry for the moan.
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Huge hugs fedup. Youve had some great replies already, especially the one from Liz (sorry Liz, cant rep ya!)

I can imagine it must be torment in the early days when the realisation hits that our favourite foods are off the menu for a while, and some of them off the menu permanently.

Sorry you are finding it tough hun, but I hope your message serves as a warning to other pre oppers to get mentally prepared.
 
Thanks, yeah, if its possible to ever really prepare ourselves!

I know i have no choice other than to get used to it, and it will take longer than others, so ask me in a year, when im (fingers x'd) 10st lighter if im happy!
 
FEDup1981 said:
Thanks, yeah, if its possible to ever really prepare ourselves!

I know i have no choice other than to get used to it, and it will take longer than others, so ask me in a year, when im (fingers x'd) 10st lighter if im happy!
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You will as long as you work with it and take the good advice offered on the various thread regarding nutrition. Shel, PG, HC, Silversurfer and a host of others give great advice. They have walked the path and can talk it.

You can do it.
 
fed up i think its a hard enough journey without the additional problems you have had. Chin up it will get easier and hopefully you will get the support you need.
take care hc
 
thanks :)
 
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