Totaly Minging and Vile

[BandyEmm]

As you know ive been away and in the bedroom of our apartment was a full size mirror, I saw my skin, my layers and i nearly cried :cry: its vile, minging, overlaping, stretched,rolls of fat where im loosing weight,

Normally i would have gone swimming, but i was too ashamed too :cry::cry::cry:

 

[cah-ching]

Hey don't put yourself down so much.

Ok you've got skin, but that can be remedied in time. Concentrate on the fantastic weightloss you're acheiving. I'm going to be honest with you and tell you that yo've lost 29Ibs according to your ticker ... you've got 87Ibs to go so there's more skin to come. However you have to see past all that and realise what an inspiration you are to so many banders out there.

Don't ever feel you should be ashamed or apologetic for your body or the way you look. If it doesn't conform to societies norms so what? The swimming would have been for you and your greater health ... you not going only served to highlight your insecurities and disappointment in your naked body. It's no good for you hun. It'll be OK because a year from now you can get the skin sliced off ... don't let it detract you from the main aim ... losing the 87Ibs.

:hug99:

 

[Neen]

Em , I should focus on one thing at a time. Get that excess weight off and keep exercising, you are young so I'm sure a lot of the problem as you see it , will right itself to a degree anyway and when you level off at your goal weight you might not have so much of a problem as you think you are going to.

Like CC says, you may even qualify for a tt on the NHS if it's really worrying you.
I think as you get closer to goal, you may not even be as bothered as your general confidence will be going up x

 

[Bev]

Awww Em., it's not going to go that quickly... you look truly beautiful and have gorgeous looks... think about moisturising and toning up Em., it takes time but it can't be done quickly... please don't feel despair. You are doing really well and it's perhaps time to build in exercise and get some support with this... if I were nearer to you, i would be behind you for sure and we'd be off doing something together...

Keep strong and your usual positive self...

Sending a humungous hug and love as always xxx

 

[dottychic]

Dont view yourself in this way Em, you are a beautiful young woman and even with the loose skin you will continue to be beautiful and healthy! The loose skin is your war wound from your weight loss battle, be proud of it. What you dont want to show you can cover up, I know swimming costumes are very unforgiving but there are many slim women out there with bodies they would rather hide for other reasons! Chin up and be positive XX

 

[gaelic girl]

Emm you are looking great and you should be very proud of your weight loss to date. Swimming is a great form of exercise especially for your abdominal muscles so if you can do it go for it Emm. You can/will get the loose skin fixed when you have achieved your goal. Please don't beat yourself up you are a beautiful woman inside and out xx

 

[ladylite]

I am going to be a bit controvertial here. At one time or another your body is going to detoriate, there is no hiding from it, it is a fact of life. As you get older all those things sort of happen whether you lose weight or not.

You are best to love the person you are and try not to ponder on the skin you are in. It is only skin, inside that skin is a lovely person.

I know how you feel when you look in the mirror and there standing is someone whom you dont want to be, the best thing is not to look, just have a little glance.

Concentrate on your good points, write them down and tell yourself how wonderful you are. You should tell yourself something nice everyday.

Cheer up hun, its not the end of the world, I know it is disappointing but you can get over this and as the others say you have other thing to worry about at the mo like getting to goal. Then if you still feel this way, which I hope you dont, you can concentrate on that part.

Big hugs you are lovely dont be upset.

 

[thinkbethin]

Just think how fab you look in your smaller size clothes. Once you get to your ideal bmi then go see the plastic surgeon as you may qualify for a tt on the nhs.xxxx

 

[Fat Again]

Im used to my melted candle look, it's quite extraordinary - I think it makes my body interesting and a bit different. There's alot of men out there that want that !!!!!!!!!!!!!

Have fun with it and learn to love it, its you and your reminder of what you once were. I love the way it all floats to the surface when Im submerged in the bath, it has me and my husband in fits of laughter.

You can have it all sliced off if thats what you want, but if like me you decide surgery ain't for you, accept the skin and move on.

No one knows what is under your clothes, hold in knickers will become your best friend.

xx

 

[BandyEmm]

Thankyou everyone, Maybe it was the shock of being the first time of seeing myself in a full length mirror for the first time in YEARS, I hate mirrors i really hate them.

I know its all part of loosing the weight and that i accept, i also know that when i get older everything will go south anyway.

Am sure it will shrink a bit over the time

Thank you for all the lovely comments xxxx

 

[ladylite]

I hope you have told yourself something nice this morning.