who to tell about your surgery/

[afandou1999]

Hi im waiting for a appt to go in for a gastric band. my parents know about it but no one else. how many people have you all told as im not sure work folks should know or any one else, confused as who to tell. any help would be lovely. many thanks. ps im a single parent

 

[MissyMustDoIt]

im a married mum of 2...

my hubby knows...thats it

i know that this is a long, worrying process and dont want others burdened with this, nor do i want them trying to talk me out of it and getting upset when i tell them thats not going to happen.

Once i have had the operation i will be open to those that ask.

Im not ashamed of it...i just want my own opinion and influence....not that of others.

 

[safc_chick]

I told all family members just in case something was to go wrong and 1 close friend, thats it I had to have a hiatus hernia repair aswel so I just told work about that and my letters from hospital just said abdominal surgery so didnt see the need to tell them xx

 

[newcy]

I've told my parents and hubby but my daughters are young so I'm not telling them or anyone else x

 

[vickylou]

I have told my mum, sister inlaw and one of my friends

 

[Ruthiep]

I've probably told more people than most. All my adult married kids (7 of them) and their spouses know. Only one wasn't supportive; she looks like a pencil and is disciplined within an inch of her life; she can't relate to anyone who isn't like her. Hubby of course. A few close friends. Random people in my life like my hairdresser, beautician, manicurist.

Post op, (I'm now 7 weeks) one woman asked me directly if I'd had a gastric band fitted (I haven't, I'm sleeved). At first I just said no I haven't had a gastric band fitted, which is true, then, after discussing it with 3 separate people, all of whom said I'd misled her, I decided if someone asks me directly I'm not going to mislead them. So I went in to her and fessed up. My daughter's sister in law asked her if I'd had surgery so my daughter said "no comment" which is like saying yes and this sister in law is a right old blabbermouth so heaven knows who's left in NW London who doesn't know by now lol.

 

[Durhamlass14]

I told a few close friends and my direct family

After i returned to work I told people when I felt the time was right to talk about it

 

[toxingirl]

I haven't told anybody. Not a soul. I don't think that I could take all the negativity. I may tell people further down the line, I,ll see. Also, and I know this is wrong, I,m embarrassed! All my friends seem to lose weight with slimming clubs but I just can't.
So I only have this site where I can talk about it... xx

 

[Kat D]

I am having a band fitted on the 4th Feb. The only thing I haven't done is take an advert out in the paper or post it on my FB wall. I have told my family, friends and work colleagues but that is the kind of person I am... I haven't told my hubby's family but will if they ask. I think who you tell is entirely up to you and will depend on lots of things.

 

[afandou1999]

I haven't told anybody. Not a soul. I don't think that I could take all the negativity. I may tell people further down the line, I,ll see. Also, and I know this is wrong, I,m embarrassed! All my friends seem to lose weight with slimming clubs but I just can't.
So I only have this site where I can talk about it... xx

I know what you mean, im a bit like that but maybe after ive had my band i'll feel differently. thank you so much for your reply. good luck and i'll keep in contact

 

[afandou1999]

Thank you all very much for the replies, they are a great help. maybe after ive had my band i'll tell a few more people. i'll wait and see. some of the women i work with are a bit fattist, one even said "why had this bride put her picture in the local paper when she was that huge" and another one seems to be watching what i eat and will say things like "do you really need that or should you be eating that" makes me feel really down and then want to eat more. Anyway not for much longer i hope.:sigh:

 

[emma-louise]

It's a shame..but I felt it was best to tell hardly anyone.
My family and one very close friend knew about my surgery.
It was due to the fact that the general public don't have a great deal of sympathy when it comes to overweight people needing operations like ours,and we are seen as a drain on the nhs.
Good luck with your op x

 

[Raynebubble]

at first i didnt tell anyone i had even considered the op... then about 3 months before the op i found myself just telling people... and now 8 weeks post op i find myself telling complete strangers lol.
I think everyone is different.. im not too fussed who knows about my op.. but then some people would rather not say and i respect that.
I think its a thing which is personal to you and if you feel like telling certain people then do.. but dont feel like you have to tell people if you dont want to. xx

 

[angee]

I have only told two friends one very supportive and the other full of horror stories and advice re slimming clubs. I think it is the going abroad that phases them and possibly me as well if I am honest but hearing all the reports on here keeps the paranoia at bay

 

[Raynebubble]

I have only told two friends one very supportive and the other full of horror stories and advice re slimming clubs. I think it is the going abroad that phases them and possibly me as well if I am honest but hearing all the reports on here keeps the paranoia at bay

You will get some people who just havnt a clue... i have a male customer at work (i work on a till in a shop) and he always says... oh i think you are brave having that op.. i dont think i could do it!! but he says this every day and i do feel like punching him and saying..well people have had wors operations!!! but sometimes you just have to bite your tongue. But pre-op i told a friend i was having the op and she was all prase but her friend who was with her said...'well i know i dont know you, but i think you having that op is a bit lazy isnt it'!! well i cant repeat on here what i said as i will prob be barred lol.. but i put her in her place. I have since seen her and i said you know what im 4 and half stone lighter my life is on the up, my health is getting better and i wouldnt swap this op for anything.. and i walked off with my head held high xx

 

[toxingirl]

Also, I,m struggling with the lies that I,m telling!! I,m normally and open book and telling lies is alien. I can't just go away for 5 days without a very good excuse. Parent, kids etc. would be on me like a rash. Luckily I have a job that demands a lot of training and my own business for which training can be used as an excuse.... I,ll never get to heaven at this rate!!!
But I,m sure that I can pull this off. If not, I,ll have to fess up at some point.
Aaaaaagh xx

 

[miserable]

Only my OH knows and its because I live with him! Otherwise no one would know. But he told his parents just before my op as was very scared and stressed. But went through it all on my own on the op day and feel like for the first time I could have a bright future ahead of me

 

[ashlie1985]

I have such a close family who have seen me struggle with weight over the years so all my family knows and are very supportive I haven't put it on Facebook or told lots of friends but I would not mis led them if asked im sure people will
Be happy seeing a young mum of two looking healthy and happy and putting myself first for a change xxx

 

[pandora]

I've told anyone & everyone , being a nurse all my collegues understand the implications & thus are understanding I have had nothing but support . Only my ex sisters was negative .

 

[Tonibones10]

I've put things about it on Facebook but not said what its about then told people if they ask me but there's only my family and a couple of friends who know but not cos I'm embarrassed (tho sometimes I am) just because I've got enough to deal with right now to worry what people think of me, but I think the day of my surgery I willll tell everyone, just tell who you trust and If that's just 1 or 2 people then that's fine as long as someone knows hun, just remember you are doing this for you not for anyone else xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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