Angry at the uncertainty

[sav1990]

Now I am overweight well not just overweight I am bloody humongous (308lb) precisely. I have put on weight due to depression (comfort eating), pregnancy x 3,etc, etc,etc. Now I put on weight due to pressure, stress of life call it what you may but I could personally do without the medical profession putting on more pressure on me and stress. I have been referred for WLS....I have tried countless methods of losing weight lost loads and put even more on you named it I have tried...I can't keep it off....yes it is in my mind but it's my body that's paying for it.,...Now I bet most of you will think it's unfair the wait the uncertainty that is placed upon you waiting and waiting and even more bloody waiting. If they told me to jump through loops I would if they told me I had to walk from John O' Groats to Lands End (it would probably kill me lol) I would...it's this feeling of helplessness that's leaving me frustrated to the point of tears...if a patient went to the doctors with depression they wouldn't say sorry you're not depressed enough we can't help you...if someone is cutting themselves (self harming) they don't get told it's your fault YET a patient that is overweight morbidly obese in fact they often get told it's your fault (like we stupid and can't figure it out by ourselves) where does that help? And who does the waiting time help???? If they told us from the source GP ok we going to refer you BUT meanwhile you need to start losing even if it is 1lb by the time you get to see someone NOW that is a step forward but I am at the stage I want to do something I feel the need to do something but I am frightened to lose just in case I am o.0005% of the bmi qualifying stage just in case they say no your not FAT ENOUGH..... arghhhhh sorry rant over.

 

[mybeaut]

Hi sav, I understand what you're saying, have you seen your gp yet?

 

[sav1990]

Hi sav, I understand what you're saying, have you seen your gp yet?

I have and she referred me but could not give me an idea if I will get fundinv(I do meet the the criteria on bmi over 50) its not the waiting so much for the op it's the not knowing if I get approval now thats the killer x

 

[mybeaut]

yes I know what you mean, I was referred by gp had to wait 3 months for consultant app (last week) but he said that I have to see the dietician monthly for 6 months and as long as I don't gain weight they will apply for funding and as far as I understand with a bmi of 54 they will do it.. eventually!!

I told him I wanted to start losing weight now but was worried that they would say 'you're doing fine by yourself carry on!' but he said they wouldn't as I have the starting bmi of over 50.

I know its frustrating and I just want someone to say YES now! but we just have to play the game and keep fingers crossed

 

[Lincs Lass]

I totally understand your frustration having had to go through the application process twice - all that waiting around, mugging the postman, 24 hours until he arrives next dragging.

The lack of clarity regarding what hoops different areas insist in doesn't help, and the lack of clear information too.

I hope you hear some positive news soon x

 

[sav1990]

Have had a weight lifted if you pardon the pun lol....spoke to PALS useless no idea of anything but my doctor did mention what hospital it might get referred to and I took the opportunity to ring them...very nice lady that told me once the paperwork been received and they have dealt with it they will be able to guide me as to what the different stages will be for my own personal case...NOW...that will be so helpful no guideline on time but guideline on the next stage PERFECT xxxx

 

[moomoo1]

iv been lucky and had a very short wait for fundiong thios time round but for my initial app 4yrs ago when I was banded it seemed a never ending wait. when I was in the mdt Friday I was shocked at how long the process had taken some people

 

[lindy62]

hi , I started my journey in July 2011, so it's taken nearly 2 years for me to get my date at Sunderland, I'm due to have sleeve on 29th June. But when I seen my gp she told me straight away I had my funding, so it was the long waiting list at the hospital that was the problem. I will say it's taken me about that time to get my head round the whole process, so sometimes it makes sense because it gives people a chance to read up on the whole process, to speak to people on this and other sites to find out the true pros and cons of the surgery. I have read stories about people going through the whole process in a matter of weeks and then they find it's not what they thought it was going to be and some have even regretted the surgery. So I think some doctors know exactly what they are doing with the long wait. I have spent my two years wait on this site learning everything I can so I can make my journey as smooth as I can. Hope your wait is not too long, but your in the right place to spend your time learning, sending you hugs and keeping my fingers crossed for you

lindy62

 

[Nickynoodles]

Hi Sav1990

Big hugs, i know what the waiting is like and its horrible.
Stick with it and whilst you are waiting try to surround yourself with working on yourself.

All the best

Nicky x

 

[soohoo]

hiya everyone.i know what you mean about waiting.psyciatrist this next week.but the most annoying thing and I know all this is precaution.sleep apnea.i have to sleep with this mask on for 6 weeks.im still practising.i have a problem sleeping under covers cant swim under water in shower I panic when water gets on my face.i am a impatient person.i thought I would have had it all over now.but when I read other people for one reason or another 2 years waiting.i shouldn't moan.i havnt even gone on the waiting list yet till all the reports from the specialists.good luck to you all and take care