Some good advice here honey and I am glad it seems to have worked itself out for you.
I've been in line management for nearly twenty years, but my daughter is harder to manage than any of my staff ever were
One thing that my lovely lady and I agreed early on is that we would always sing from the same hymn sheet. We would always back each other up and always give a consistent message in our dealings with our little one.
Kaylian was taught a work ethic from an early age. From 11 years of age if she wanted money she worked for it. Each week she would clean my car inside for her pocket money.
If I needed any help at work with mail shots etc, she would be paid to stuff envelopes in her holidays. She was also employed by me to draw computer schematics of water systems for my company where she was paid for each one she did.
When she left school and went to college she got a part time job at weekends, and now has a good job and at 21 she bought a brand new Seat car and has more money than me in her savings account.
Parenthood is chuffin difficult, and I am not criticizing anyone here for the way they have brought up their kids, what business is that of mine? and I have no desire to offend. However comments such as "well there are all like that these days" is untrue. My little one was taught that she needs to contribute and pay her way from day one.
Kate you are a tough cookie I love your stuff girl.