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backing out

Yvessa said:
This is not only normal but its a good thing. This is a stage that will affect how you treat your tool post op so make lists! Pros cons, things you hope for , relationships you want to happen. Be ready in your head even if your heart is terrified.
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Im totally ready in my head :) x
 
I think that most parents who undergo any form of WLS have these same fears.
I was actually crying as I was lying on the operating table as they began knocking me out!
I knew that for my daughter and I to have any quality of life together that I had to have my surgery. I truly believe that if I hadn't of gone through with it I'd be tipping the scales at 450 lbs by now if not more!
I can't begin to tell you about all the huge and amazing changes in my life since I've lost a lot of weight and I have no regrets whatsoever.
I hope that whatever decision that you make is the right one for you :)
 
When i had my bypass last June,i was the same. I have 3 kids and an amazing wife and thought i'd never see them again..it was awful. I knew i had to have it or i'd be in serious trouble. I remember waking up after the op and put my hand out for a Nurse to grab it to re assure me i was alive. That night after i'd come around a bit more i could not stop smiling...it was a great feeling. Since then i've lost 8st 2lb anf my life is changing for the better,day by day.
I can't tell you what to do but for me...i'd do it all again tomorrow..it really has changed my outlook on life so much more.
Best wishes hun.
Andy xx
 
I know what you mean. Apparently I scared my family cos I was ice cold and looked very pale and I kept trying to tell them I was alive and it was okay lol. But here I am 11.5 stone lighter. It was worth it.
 
Andy1968 said:
When i had my bypass last June,i was the same. I have 3 kids and an amazing wife and thought i'd never see them again..it was awful. I knew i had to have it or i'd be in serious trouble. I remember waking up after the op and put my hand out for a Nurse to grab it to re assure me i was alive. That night after i'd come around a bit more i could not stop smiling...it was a great feeling. Since then i've lost 8st 2lb anf my life is changing for the better,day by day.
I can't tell you what to do but for me...i'd do it all again tomorrow..it really has changed my outlook on life so much more.
Best wishes hun.
Andy xx
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Thank you so much for replying Andy im glad your surgery went well and you are feeling the benefits from it. In a way I wish they would just ring and say get ready you're in tomorrow that way I wouldn't have time on my hands to keep thinking I know that wouldn't happen but we can wish lol. Thanks again and congratulations on your loss so far xx
 
Yvessa said:
I know what you mean. Apparently I scared my family cos I was ice cold and looked very pale and I kept trying to tell them I was alive and it was okay lol. But here I am 11.5 stone lighter. It was worth it.
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Wwow you've done brilliant :) I know it will all be worth it in the end especially when the pounds start dropping off and when eventually I'll be able to run around with my son without fewling like im gonna drop dead because I cant breath xx
 
I would like to say a great big thank you to everyone that as responded to my post I really really appreciate you taking time to respond. Its also great to hear from people that felt the same way as I do and have come out the oyher side and are now feeling/seeing the benefits of weight loss surgery. Thanks everyone lynsey xxx
 
I had similar fears - was beside myself worrying that I'd leave my 4yo with no mummy

I had my consultation a week ago and plication surgery this am.

I've got zero pain and now sitting watching telly whilst drinking water.

So much more relaxed and stress free now it's done.

My husband and little one popped in about 4pm and I spoke to them again about an hour ago. Was VERY tired, but bright as a button now :)
 
Thanks for replying sarah. You're going really well it was only early I was saying good luck. Im absolutely terrified and its makimg worse becausr now ive got to decide sleeve or bypass. I just can wait for it all to be over and start recovering and moving some lbs xx
 
JoeH said:
Good luck with whatever decision you make, but the risks are quite minimal with surgery. It's no longer classed as 'pioneering' anymore.
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Not to be a negative so and so, or wee on anyone bonfire or even cause upset, but I couldn't not post as I strongly disagree with this statement Joe.

The risks are NOT quite minimal with surgery and it is not something to be taken lightly. If the risks were minimal there would be no second doubts, mortality statistics assosciated with it. I for one or cathycats wouldn't have wound up with a leak, internal bleeding, and everything else including a long term stint in hospital and in ITU on life support etc.. Blahblahblah! End of negativity..

Its not like having an ingrowing toe nail removed. Even with that u have the risk of infection and losing your toe. This on the bigger scheme of things can result in the loss of life. There was a post on here a couple of months ago by sharonimo I believe where someone died post surgery at her hospital.

I'm thankful I didn't become one of those statistics. It always happens to someone else, 1 in 500,000 chance. There's always that 1 person.

Moving on, I have a ton of things I can do now I couldn't. I can run, I can swim, I'm living! Actually out there and living a life not existing like pond scum.. Floating around. My diabetes has gone, my blood pressure is that of a teenager, my cholestrol is normal. I'm in love, living a new extension of life. Looking to move on from the trouble, get it all resolved and start a family of my own. This time last year the existence I have now was a dream as I almost became that 1 person.

For me this surgery was do or die. If I didn't have it I'd have died. Having it almost killed me. I had my reservations before hand, backed out whilst waiting to go into theatre and talked myself back into it again. Its only natural to worry.

Please - not trying to terrify - just advise of both sides. I've had the bad stuff and some wonderful stuff. My advice to anyone and everyone considering surgery is do your homework and don't let the media glamour that portrays it as a wonder cure dazzle you. Its not all its portrayed to be. By doing research you can prepare yourself for any eventuality and make the right decision for you. What happened to me is rare, however unlike the magic of "the mythical fat-loss fairy" it exists. With everything in life some probs are easily fixed, others aren't and even when they are there may be knock-on consequences.

As I said firstly nothing against you Joe, you are a lovely guy, but I didn't agree with the statement, and if this comes across as being a bit ch, I'm sorry.

Whichever you decide will be the best for you. Each procedure has risks, some are less evasive but all have their own risks. Have a good look at each with your partner and decide together x good luck bab x
 
scooter81 said:
Not to be a negative so and so, or wee on anyone bonfire or even cause upset, but I couldn't not post as I strongly disagree with this statement Joe.

The risks are NOT quite minimal with surgery and it is not something to be taken lightly. If the risks were minimal there would be no second doubts, mortality statistics assosciated with it. I for one or cathycats wouldn't have wound up with a leak, internal bleeding, and everything else including a long term stint in hospital and in ITU on life support etc.. Blahblahblah! End of negativity..

Its not like having an ingrowing toe nail removed. Even with that u have the risk of infection and losing your toe. This on the bigger scheme of things can result in the loss of life. There was a post on here a couple of months ago by sharonimo I believe where someone died post surgery at her hospital.

I'm thankful I didn't become one of those statistics. It always happens to someone else, 1 in 500,000 chance. There's always that 1 person.

Moving on, I have a ton of things I can do now I couldn't. I can run, I can swim, I'm living! Actually out there and living a life not existing like pond scum.. Floating around. My diabetes has gone, my blood pressure is that of a teenager, my cholestrol is normal. I'm in love, living a new extension of life. Looking to move on from the trouble, get it all resolved and start a family of my own. This time last year the existence I have now was a dream as I almost became that 1 person.

For me this surgery was do or die. If I didn't have it I'd have died. Having it almost killed me. I had my reservations before hand, backed out whilst waiting to go into theatre and talked myself back into it again. Its only natural to worry.

Please - not trying to terrify - just advise of both sides. I've had the bad stuff and some wonderful stuff. My advice to anyone and everyone considering surgery is do your homework and don't let the media glamour that portrays it as a wonder cure dazzle you. Its not all its portrayed to be. By doing research you can prepare yourself for any eventuality and make the right decision for you. What happened to me is rare, however unlike the magic of "the mythical fat-loss fairy" it exists. With everything in life some probs are easily fixed, others aren't and even when they are there may be knock-on consequences.

As I said firstly nothing against you Joe, you are a lovely guy, but I didn't agree with the statement, and if this comes across as being a bit ch, I'm sorry.

Whichever you decide will be the best for you. Each procedure has risks, some are less evasive but all have their own risks. Have a good look at each with your partner and decide together x good luck bab x
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Thanks for replying scooter I really appreciate it. I am under no illusion that this is a big decision and the are risks involved. I for 1 know about risks involved with surgery as I nearly died having a c section and ended up in intensive care on a ventilator with all my organs failing because I had lost so much blood . I know there are risks and I know we have to deal with the consequences if things go wrong. I am glad you are on the mend scooter and after all the problems you've had that you are seeing the rewards. Thanks again xxx
 
I think we all go through feelings of "backing out and calling it off!" It is very scary, and I think too because it is something that we are CHOOSING makes it more SCARY!!! If it was ( God Forbid!) emergency heart surgery, we would STILL be scared but for me it would be a different type of fear, because I would know that I didn't have a choice!!! I have young boys too and the thought of me not being here to help raise them!!! OMG!!! I am realistic, If I keep going the way I have been I will develop many disease process' that will risk my health and that is what I want to STOP!!! God Bless!!! :)

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I keep going through phases at the moment I think the prospect of a new beginning to a slimmer healthier me us taking over. Theres the odd days now when things start playing on my mind and I start thinging abiut my little boy and what if 'the worst happens' but then I try to remind my self if I dont have this done its only a matter of time until my weight cases bad medical problems. Especially at the moment because I'm having major back problems and breathing difficulties. I dont want to be this way any more. X
 
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