Gastric Band

[Banderbird]

I felt like that when I paid the deposit ... eeeek!

That's it, you're committed, no going back now - you're on your way to the loser's bench - woo-hoo!

 

[flutterby1966]

Exciting :talk017:

 

[top_kat]

Great news

 

[chappers]

Well, hubby looked quite crestfallen when I told him my news. He'd been jabbering away as he was tipsy after a night out with friends but was instantly silent! One way of shutting him up I suppose! Hey-Ho. It's my decision.

 

[sarahrob]

It is indeed. I can understand his being concerned at your undergoing surgery. Once you get the other side of the op things will be very different, I'm sure x

 

[salty]

Great news I am thinking about band In jan just doing more reading first x

 

[Banderbird]

The only downside is you can't have a birthday drink - but the longterm goal is so worth it!

I got through a friend's 40th alcohol-free, it's not that bad.

 

[chappers]

I've been out all day and got back late this evening. My info pack came from the hospital is I bought it up to bed to read. You could cut the atmosphere with a ruddy knife! He just asked me if the brochure points out where the nearest undertakers is. He's convinced I'm going die. I'm starting to think its wishful thinking!

So, he's gone to sleep and we're not talking. I'm so fed up with this. The Hospital is an hour away. I've got to be there by 7.00am - if I drive myself there I can't get back and my car will be stuck there. The consultant said I could be home the same day. Will they let me home in a taxi un-escorted? I do not have a clue what to do. :-(

I've never felt so alone in all my life. In his mind it's unnecessary surgery. It's like banging my head against a brick wall. Grrr!

 

[ICAWM]

I know it's easier said than done, but make your decisions based on what's right for you, not what will appease another. I'm not suggesting that his thoughts are irrelevant - they just need addressing differently.

You are never alone with this forum.

Speak to the hospital tomorrow, find out about being able to travel unaccompanied. Consider other friends or family.

Write down reasons you want this. Pros and cons. Or a letter. If you want to express opinions without a row, sometimes a letter can help. It can be read at readers pace and takes the anxiety and emotion out for writer. Throw in facts and figures.

Whilst it's not likely that anything untoward will happen, it is possible. But doing nothing about weight is highly likely to affect (if not already) your health and well being.

Stay positive and remember, never alone x

 

[sarahrob]

I was with THG, used their transport and was on my own, didn't cause any issues. My mum met me at my flat but I travelled alone.
I do sympathize with your hubby, but unless you've lived the daily grind of life with obesity it's impossible to understand how miserable it is. It's natural for him to worry about the risks more than thinking about the benefits I guess, because the risks are so immediate whereas the benefits are further away.

ICAWM's idea of a letter could be good, especially if he does view the surgery as unnecessary.

I hope you work things out Chappers x

 

[chappers]

Well I have good news and bad: as mentioned, I'm going in for my band on 3rd December. My pre-op diet starts 17th November and I am to have to the calorie controlled diet as my BMI is 31. I've explained about my husband being an arse and they said it would be OK to go home in a Taxi 24 hrs after. I'm to be at the hospital by 7am and out of my room by 10 so I would assume that should coincide with my discharge time the next day. The surgeon said that most go home on the same day but the nurse said that most stay in? Who knows but I would be happy to stay as I have no support here :-(

I'm feeling quite positive about the surgery and am looking forward to the New Year and the new me. However, on the home front, things are not so good. We had a few days apart at the weekend which was much needed. It wasn't a case of someone walking out, I had a planned stay with a relative and I was to join my husband on his boat for three nights but I didn't go, blamed a hangover! It was a huge relief to have a few days off. Plus, I caught up with an old friend. We had lunch and she was so supportive of my decision, I can't tell you what joy it gave me to have some one actually applaud what I am doing. Her husband's colleague had a band just over a year ago and he has lost 8 stone so far! Fantastic! And had with no problems at all.

So, we are ambling along. I'm sleeping in the guest room. I slept in there all weekend, it just feels more comfortable for some reason. Since I started the menopause I've slept in there a lot. I prefer it, and sleep better alone and had had nights in there previously. Sometimes I start off in bed with him and move out when he's asleep which takes about 20 seconds!!! But I think I'm getting tire now of his childish behaviour. After all these years, he still doesn't realise that he can't sulk me into bending to his will! Thinking back, he has never been supportive with any diet undertaking. I think he likes me fat because when I'm less confident, I'm easier to control, well, that's how it seems. Anyhow. Enough rambling. Hope you guys are all having a good week. X

 

[salty]

Well I have good news and bad: as mentioned, I'm going in for my band on 3rd December. My pre-op diet starts 17th November and I am to have to the calorie controlled diet as my BMI is 31. I've explained about my husband being an arse and they said it would be OK to go home in a Taxi 24 hrs after. I'm to be at the hospital by 7am and out of my room by 10 so I would assume that should coincide with my discharge time the next day. The surgeon said that most go home on the same day but the nurse said that most stay in? Who knows but I would be happy to stay as I have no support here :-(

I'm feeling quite positive about the surgery and am looking forward to the New Year and the new me. However, on the home front, things are not so good. We had a few days apart at the weekend which was much needed. It wasn't a case of someone walking out, I had a planned stay with a relative and I was to join my husband on his boat for three nights but I didn't go, blamed a hangover! It was a huge relief to have a few days off. Plus, I caught up with an old friend. We had lunch and she was so supportive of my decision, I can't tell you what joy it gave me to have some one actually applaud what I am doing. Her husband's colleague had a band just over a year ago and he has lost 8 stone so far! Fantastic! And had with no problems at all.

So, we are ambling along. I'm sleeping in the guest room. I slept in there all weekend, it just feels more comfortable for some reason. Since I started the menopause I've slept in there a lot. I prefer it, and sleep better alone and had had nights in there previously. Sometimes I start off in bed with him and move out when he's asleep which takes about 20 seconds!!! But I think I'm getting tire now of his childish behaviour. After all these years, he still doesn't realise that he can't sulk me into bending to his will! Thinking back, he has never been supportive with any diet undertaking. I think he likes me fat because when I'm less confident, I'm easier to control, well, that's how it seems. Anyhow. Enough rambling. Hope you guys are all having a good week. X

Hi chappers
How's the post op diet going?
I'm thinking king of booking my band in January

 

[chappers]

Hi Salty. I started today and so far so good. I thought I'd struggle portioning myself but what you have is quite a lot. If only I could do that all the time! I paid the balance today so there's o going back! I'm starting to get all my things together and keep going through my info pack. It's all beginning to feel very real. Where would you have your procedure? X

 

[top_kat]

So sorry that things are so difficult at home. Where are you having your surgery done? And is far from where you are?

 

[chappers]

Thanks Top Kat. I'm having it at the Nuffield in Brentwood. It's an hour from here. I'm going to stay in a Hotel the night before. It's ten minutes away in a taxi.

It's my birthday the day before. What a birthday it will be! I've got a dental appointment at 12, then I'll take the train to Brentwood, check in to my Hotel and spend the day there, alone, nil by mouth! Hah! The things we do aye?

How are you getting along? X

 

[top_kat]

Oh hun what a difficult time, if only it weren't so far away from me, I'd have picked you up and taken you home!

 

[chappers]

Oh bless you, thanks for that. I spoke to my eldest son today and he is going to come with me, lived him! He was quite appalled about his fathers behaviour. Anyway, he's coming Christmas shopping with me tomorrow and we'll make our plans. X

 

[Banderbird]

Ahh bless him, hope that makes you feel better!

Hope hubby comes round soon.

 

[chappers]

Do you know. I'm beginning to stop caring! I'm so sick of his childishness. I'm quite enjoying the idea of suddenly being in charge of my own destiny. I've even invested in a facial exercise machine today. I really want to make the best of myself and stop being a fat frump! X

 

[salty]

Do you know. I'm beginning to stop caring! I'm so sick of his childishness. I'm quite enjoying the idea of suddenly being in charge of my own destiny. I've even invested in a facial exercise machine today. I really want to make the best of myself and stop being a fat frump! X

I think you are very brave, this will be the new you! I just can not make my mind up whether to have it done or not!!!