Charliegirl - agree with you, apnea is no laughing matter, i had it for years and its finally getting better, waking up feeling tired, headaches, falling asleep at work etc, thankfully its one of the first things to improve post bypass.
Dont worry about Foella, she's what they term as a 'troll' on chat sites, trolls pop up spouting congecture and negativity whinding others up, then sit back an revel in the chaos they cause, i doubt she's had the op, and doubt she would understand what its like to live in obese body all her life as most of us have. The only way to combat a troll is to treat it with the contempt it deserves and ignore their comments and attempts at whinding issues up !