Going it alone

[Paula1975]

Hi

Has anyone started their journey with the support from family, yet as the date gets nearer you get the feeling that you haven't got the support you had at the beginning. I wanted my mum to be there the day of op, but i get the feeling she doesn't really want to be there after whats shes been like and said.

 

[Wendy1]

I had the same problem with my partner, it got so bad he didnt come to the hospital, we have regreted it ever since,and if we argue it allways comes up.
Your mum will regret it if she dos'nt go we cant go back in time it wont come up again, and you will allways remember, good luck xx

 

[chrisa]

WE were ok by the time the op date come round it was the realisation that the consultant recommended the bypass that was the big problem my husband did not want me to have thta he thought it was too severe and I would never be able to eat properley again, wrong. He had 18 months to get used to the idea, we are both quite happy with my progress and he has helped me an awful lot has been my rock when times were really hard, and has been annoying as only husbands can be. xx Hope you get something sorted xx

 

[newcy]

My husband and Mum couldn't have been more supportive. My Dad didn't say much - he doesn't like to talk about stuff like that but my Mum said he was fine about it.

I rang my Dad the day after my op from my hospital bed and he gave me a lecture about how I should have just changed my eating habits - I was furious! If he'd wanted to tell me that pre-op then I'd have listened to his concerns but I was lying there in pain with 5 puncture wounds and feeling a tad sorry for myself and he decides this is the moment to say 'I think you've made a mistake'!?!

We haven't spoke much since but I hope he took the hint that the horse had already bolted. He did the same thing on my wedding day - asked me if I really wanted to go ahead with this just as I was stepping into the church. I could see all of our wedding guests so it was a bit late to bottle out but I suppose at least he asked.

I know he finds it difficult to talk about personal stuff but I wish he didn't always have such bad timing! Never mind, at least he cares enough to say it even if it's too late x

 

[Tonibones10]

Ive got full support off my sister and well all my siblings but not feeling it from my husband but I know why its because he had a bypass 5 years ago lost 10 stone but is not back to old ways so has messed up abit so hes really jealous because im almost half the weight he was when her started his journey so hes scared of me loosing weight because he isnt xxxx

 

[Jcoco]

Ive had the support of my best friend and my sister. Haven't told my mum as shes been anti surgery from the start as shes a nurse and have seen where its all.gone wrong. I am so lucky to have my beet friend's support. Shes been a rock

 

[Tonibones10]

Ive had the support of my best friend and my sister. Haven't told my mum as shes been anti surgery from the start as shes a nurse and have seen where its all.gone wrong. I am so lucky to have my beet friend's support. Shes been a rock

My sisters a nurse too but knows if I dont have it I will end up dead anyway xxxxxxxxxxx

 

[mazd20010]

Have total support from my hubby and dad, sisters said all the right things at the time, but then I hardly heard from them after the op and didn't actually see any of them until 6 weeks after even though 2 of them live really close by, did bother me at first but got over it as friends have been more supportive xx