Half Ton Son - is this really a mothers love?

[ditzyangeluk]

Half Ton Son - CH4, Mon 12th at 10pm

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1109546/Pictured-The-teenage-boy-devoted-mother-overfed-ballooned-half-ton.html

 

[shelbell]

the adverts for this look really interesting, am hoping they cover the psychological side of things alot instead of just making it into a freak show.

 

[tammy]

I watched it on sky a couple of weeks ago. it was really interesting and sad i can see why the mum feeds him up as it makes him happy! sound familiar???

 

[brett30]

yea i seen this also feel sorry for the boy .. and i know the mother is just tending to him as she loves him .. i think she lost a son in the past and its the only one she has left so she does everything for him ..

tends to his every whim ..

 

[ditzyangeluk]

I see my sisters boys & I DO worry, but what can you do?

 

[kee28]

this is so sad i know how he feels to be traped in his body i feel the same about my self but im no way near that heavy so i carnt imagin how bad he must have been feeling bless x his mum reminds me of my sister with her son who is 10 but weighs around 11 stone but when he wants food she just gives it to him im like stop it he dont need to eat that much i have seen her feed him for diner a tin of eight hotdogs split betwen 3 rolls and chips and sauce nd he eats it all then he gets ice cream and eats that i will tell her to watch this program on monday might help her see what she is doing rong as its the kids that suffer in the long run

 

[weight loss hopeful]

Im watching it now on channel 4. It is such a sad story. I feel sorry for them both. I know how it feels to be trapped in a horrible body. Also want to cater for every whim of your children. I can see both sides x

 

[candie]

I've just watched it and am glad Billy is living apart from his Mum now.Otherwise he would've had no chance of success .

 

[j.u.s.t.l.i.z.]

:sigh: hhm was a very sad story, i think its good hes had trial seperation from his mum, as it will help him in the long run.
she was loving him to death, with food, he knew what buttons to press to get the food he wanted, she needs to stay away from him so he can progress further with his weight loss journey, hes done good so far loosing half his body weight.

 

[weight loss hopeful]

:sigh: hhm was a very sad story, i think its good hes had trial seperation from his mum, as it will help him in the long run.

Totally agree x

 

[Trendytracz]

ive justed watched it omg he is better off living without his mum

 

[andy12861]

can i just say im a 47yo man and i had tear's rolling down my face some of saddnes and some of anger what the hell was his mother thinking getting him into the mess he was at 57st. atleast at the end she snapped and made him stand on his own two feet she should have been done for child cruelty for what she did to him i do hope they do a follow up programme if or when he's lost somemore weight

 

[j.u.s.t.l.i.z.]

what the hell was his mother thinking getting him into the mess he was at 57st.

i think billy has suffered through his mothers greif for the loss of her 1st baby, and she wrapped billy in cotton wool and treated him this way as her coping mechanism, not realising that her love 4 him & to tend to his every whim was killing him, its good they are apart now, as her 2nd son is now paying the price 4 her greif from the loss of child no1.

 

[andy12861]

hi liz2008 i know that she lost her other son but please could she not see what she was doing to him.i really hope thay do a follow up programme and he lose's all the weight but omg what sort of plastic surgery will he have to go through in the end

 

[j.u.s.t.l.i.z.]

plastics wont matter to him as long as hes got a better quality of life, then he can bloom and learn to be a man instead of the baby his mum has made him.

 

[grom]

I missed the end of it but I gather he lost a lot of weight? Who did he end up living with? Did he have a bypass? I hope his mother got some sort of help cos she clearly needed it! How could she do that to him???

 

[LizzieBee]

I missed the end of it but I gather he lost a lot of weight? Who did he end up living with? Did he have a bypass? I hope his mother got some sort of help cos she clearly needed it! How could she do that to him???

He weighed 30 stone when the program finished. Don't think they said who he went to live with, but they implied it was a type of rehab centre. He had the bypass and his first meal at home was (OMG!) a big hot dog with lashings of mustard!

I, too, hope his Mum continued to get therapy - poor woman to channel her grief for one son into that twisted relationship with Billy (not to mention poor Billy!!!!). It makes you wonder if she will turn the emotional energy of her grief into guilt for what she did to Billy?

I think Billy will recover his emotional dependancy, with much help, but she is so totally damaged.

Is anyone going to help Dad - he must be a mess also to stand by and allow this to have happened without acting.

As Billy loses more weight, will he start to blame and resent his parents for the abuse?
Sorry - rant, rant!

Lx

 

[Brunetteandred]

I found this a very distressing programme to watch and at one point almost turned it off.

This was an extreme case of a grieving mother smothering her second child with her 'love' and grief. She fed him until he was so big he *had* to be dependent on her, which meant he couldn't leave her. Except we all know he would have; in a box.

She admitted she has abused him and I do hope she gets the help she so obviously needs. As for Billy, aside from the obvious physical obstacles, he has also suffered psychological abuse and will need help with that too. WE all know the surgery is a tool to overcome the physical effects of obesity, but the mental scarring will need addressing, or else he is set up to fall.

I do hope a follow-up programme is made, but sadly I did get a bad feeling about this case at the end of the programme.

 

[grom]

I agree it would be really interesting to see what happened next. I'm sorry I missed the end of it. The thought did occur to me too as to where the father fitted into it all as he just seemedn to opt out of it!

 

[fatbutnot4eva]

I too felt it was a bit dissapointing and wanted to see more, I wanted to see what he is like after a fewyears, see his mum sent to a centre to help her.
I felt so sorry for him and understand how he must have felt trapped.
I hope he manages to reach his target of 14 stone.
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