Has anybodies marriage gone on the rocks after surgery .

[margaretmc]

Hi Everybody
Me and my ex get on great he even wants to come to London when I get my surgery . I know when its my turn I`ll be in floods of tears and scared but I can`t wait to get it . Take care .
MARGARET XX

 

[Postop]

If you PM me, I can send you an article that discusses this subject. It was the cover story in May 2005 - New York Magazine.

 

[margaretmc]

This is a link I was sent it should be good reading .


http://nymag.com/nymetro/health/features/1868/

 

[Snowcrystal]

This is a link I was sent it should be good reading .


http://nymag.com/nymetro/health/features/1868/

Thank you

Very interesting link...

Her ex-husband was really generous of his opinion of his ex-wife...I think he summed her up perfectly.

I also thought the bit where they go to the WLS group meetings where they learn to be thin people an interesting point...no doubt a lot of the post-op people will empathise with that.

~hugs~

 

[Snowcrystal]

And here is Lisa Marie Sohr in an interview (with 2 others) on MSM in case anyone wants to see.

Suddenly skinny - MSN Video

Oh boy this video is really interesting!

~hugs~

 

[gaelic girl]

Great subject Margaret. My hubby is a "big Guy" 6ft 5" and about 28 stone so he fully understands all the "weight issues". That said his 1st response was that i would leave him when i lost weight it really is insecurity cause he knows how much my weight bothers me and how little confidence i have so that makes me "safe".All of that said he is being extremley supportive of my surgery and we had a bad time a while back that nearly resulted in seperation but we got through that so i reckon we are stronger and will be fine xx

 

[Postop]

It was a rough article & I remember it came out right after I had my WLS.

I agree, though, that support groups can be helpful. I try to go to at least 4 a year to keep myself in the loop.

 

[OnceKnightly]

i met my husband when i was at my lowest weight (12 stone) and promptly put it all plus more on over time. he watched my confidence go and me not wanting to go out. he is supporting 100% in my decision for wls and wants me to be healthier. Only hope he is as happy when i get where i want to be and spend all his money on clothes.

My story is the same. I was 16 and size 10 when i met my OH. 23 years on he hopes the surgery will make me as energetic as i was at 16 (if you know what i mean!!!). Both my OH and our 10 year old son have been so supportive, but i think our son is going to find it difficult as he has never seen me thin.

 

[phatgirl]

I have mentioned before that I was actually worried that hubby who met me at size 22 would not like the smaller lady I am now, he has always claimed to love the larger ladies. At one point in our 13 year relationship he bought me a subscription to a plus size woman mag so he could look at the 'eye candy', lol. So I was worried as were some of my friends/family. However he has never been prouder of me, well maybe when I got my masters degree! He beams to people about me and my success and asked me to share photos with his family back home so he could brag! He has been a great support and seems to love the new happier, healthier, and thinner me. I worried for nothing however I was the lucky case where his self-esteem and love for me were not tied to my weight, it just sad that so often that is not the case. I know a lady who lost 5 stone from bypass surgery and then lost 15+ stone in the form of a husband less than 6 months post-op. Sometimes the wls journey is too tough on the partner and they feel too insecure or like the aren't needed anymore. It's a shame.

Nic

 

[margaretmc]

Great subject Margaret. My hubby is a "big Guy" 6ft 5" and about 28 stone so he fully understands all the "weight issues". That said his 1st response was that i would leave him when i lost weight it really is insecurity cause he knows how much my weight bothers me and how little confidence i have so that makes me "safe".All of that said he is being extremley supportive of my surgery and we had a bad time a while back that nearly resulted in seperation but we got through that so i reckon we are stronger and will be fine xx

Hi Allie
I hope you and your hubby grows old together hun . I`m the same about my confidence fell down the loo years ago .
Good luck and take care .
Margaret xx

 

[margaretmc]

Thanks everybody for leaving your comments it was great reading . And I`m glad all your hubbies are so supportive to you all . I know in my heart and soul that Michael still loves me and supports me with my surgery . He even said yesterday lets go away for a dirty weekend I laughed at him and said the only dirty weekend we`ll be having is if I fling mud at him .
Hi Nic good luck with your Masters Degree . Good luck and take care to all
of you .
Margaret xx