Hmmmmmmmmm. I suspect I know the post you're on about Kelly.
But first and fore-most - I'm glad to hear hubby's out of surgery - I'm praying for a perfect recovery for him. What an awful thing to happen.
As regards the post: I can see where Phatmomma's coming from and to an extent I agree with her. But more about that later....
I don't know if that was the exact post which upset you, and in a way that isn't the point.
The thing is, Forums are scarily like real life: we think they're virtual and that no-one can therefore get hurt or offended, but we all get to know each other, appreciate some personalities more than others, take exception to others more easily...and YES, words can wound and hurt, just as they can in 'real' life. Just as in 'real life', we need to be careful not to be insensitive, don't we?
which is why I loved Mixy's post. Mixy, I tried to give you rep for it, but apparently I haven't been spreading the love round enough to do so! Oh and by the way, that little bug on your signature had me fooled, I was trying to swat the darn thing off the screen!
Anyhoo Kell....notwithstanding what I've said so far...I completely agree that as in 'real life', we need to remember to treat each other on here with respect, courtesy and gentleness. If you haven't been treated that way...and others too...I feel very sorry. I appreciate every-one's input and value it all equally.
And I think we need to be especially grateful to our wonderful moderating team, who all do a hard job well, gratis and with great wisdom.
Re: pre-op vs post-op: Like Julie (Phatmomma) said: I too was very virtuous about how I would be pre-op, but have discovered post-op that the reality isn't necessarily so easy....
....that said, if I'm making glaringly obvious mistakes, come on here to ask for advice, and get it...even though that advice may be hard for me to hear...well what did I come on here for if I didn't want the good advice which was going to help me?
And quite frankly, I don't care where the advice comes from....however, if I just came on for a moan and a bit of sympathy....well then maybe I should've made it clearer so, I didn't get the proverbial boot up the backside which some people felt was needed!
I suppose what I'm trying to say, in a very long-winded way is: we all need to be nice to each other, respect each other, but also take a pinch of salt if we hear something we don't want to or don't like?
I for one LOVE LOVE LOVE this forum. I enjoy the banter amongst all the different personalities and that very DEFINITELY includes you Kell, in fact I've missed you a lot since you returned to work.
I know for sure and definitely, I wouldn't have done anywhere near as well on my WLS journey without the help, support, advice, love, encouragement and the occasional well-needed boot up the rear I've needed along the way. I've made some real and special friend-ships on here too and the effect of that on my journey can't be minimised either.
I don't care whether you're pre-op, post-op, just thinking or long-in-the-tooth! I LOVE you all!
So I'm sending you ALL a big hug and no exceptions!
Grace xxx