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alphanerdage

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Howdy y'all! Just a quick note because I'm back and trying to do a good job. My name is Mike. I had WLS in 2004. Lost 180 pounds. Felt great. Fell into a bad few years. Regained 120. Depression. Today, I dove back into a proper life style. And I need a support system.

I'll be back :)
Mikey
 
Well done for getting back on the wagon! Depression is totally debilitating and I too have suffered wait gain from this!
Welcome and you will find support in bucket loads here!
Good luck xx
 
Hi and welcome, hope this site can give u all the support u need xx
 
Hi Mike thats what we are here for to give all the support you need... hang around and im sure we will get you back on track x hope you dont mind me asking but what surgery did you have in 2004? x
 
Well congratulations on getting your thread going. I suppose I should make the effort now as the day will soon be here
 
Raynebubble said:
Hi Mike thats what we are here for to give all the support you need... hang around and im sure we will get you back on track x hope you dont mind me asking but what surgery did you have in 2004? x
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Hi there :) I had Gastric Bypass on May 4th, 2004. It was while I was living in New York. In late 2004 I moved back to my native Canada. I've been living in denial of my failure for a long time. I'm here to gain back control... But only because I let myself down.

However, today I've only consumed 1200 calories so far, with lots of family activity intertwined and I feel really GOOD! I thank goodness I found this forum as an iPhone ap! That's so handy and cool.

Mikey
 
For the curious, I had gastric bypass surgery in 2004. It was a resounding success. My relapse was my own fault. Some circumstances were beyond my control. But ultimately, I've been making almost 4 years of irresponsible mistakes. Bypass is not a magic trick. It's a valuable tool only as successful as the strength of the patient. And I was very weak.

Mikey

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hey Mikey, welcome to the site, good luck with getting back on track :) xxx
 
Hi Mikey,
sorry if i'm being nosey but one of my biggest fears of having
my bypass is not being able to eat the foods i like eventually,
did your pouch just stretch that much?
Sorry i am being very naive, i know it a tool and you have to work at it but the pouch is so small so how do it happen putting weight back on!?? confused!! :) xx
 
Don't be afraid to be nosey, it's how we learn. And if my experience helps you, then it was worth it.

-a big thing for post op is you'll find your taste changes. No not your tongue, but your pallet and desire. In my case, I suddenly loved sea food and veggies I never touched in my life, because the satisfaction they brought physically was outstanding. The first time you cheat and have a sugar-dump, believe me, old desires dwindle. Sugar dump is like a bad trip for addicts. It changes everything.

-in my case, 3 major events contributed to the fall from tiny tummy grace. Divorce, then depression. Unfortunately both of these can be a common outcome of post op. even my doctors and counsellors warned me of this. Don't be afraid it may happen to you, but this was my case. Of course, I likely had Undiagnosaed depression long before my surgery, but it was there. It still is actually. However I now have pills, doctors and support.

The third part, which is very unique and god willing won't happen to anyone who reads this is I became homeless. Living on the street. No pity, please. It's just a fact. While living on the streets, I ate only garbage. That's all there was. $ went to $1.39 food items at McDonalds to survive. Between the quality and quantity, and lack of exercise. My stomach began to stretch. It wasn't quick, very slow. About 3+ years to ruin it. But my mentality changed. Every meal ... Up to the past week... Felt as if it was my last. So I gorged. This is common for poverty. Living moment to moment just to survive.

There's a few other items that lead to me failing...

But I'll save them for another day, because I am back, and making wonderful changes again. And I'm almost prouder than my
Initial surgery performance because before it was a combination of the surgery and my WILL. Now though, it's purely will.

Mikey

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WOW - you've come so far! Well done and all the best for moving onwards and upwards and the scales downwards, Mikey!
xx
 
wow Mike what a strong person you are :) i hope everything goes well for you not just the food stuff but everything in life xx take care and never worry about what you post on here someone will always be there for you :)
 
Hi :)
Good on you having the strength to turn your life around . May I ask , what is different to last week ? xx
 
Thank you so much for your honest answer and i am so glad that you are back on your feet and your in a better place to be able to get back on the loser bench, with all that has happened to you that should seem like a doddle, :)xx

Where are you from mike?
 
hi mikey,
i'm pre-opper,having gastric sleeve on 08th march. i don't know what kind of surgery you had but i'm really deflated and shocked as i naively thought you couldn't gain so much weight post op??!!
i am assuming that you couldn't 'overeat' rather, the small amounts of food you could consume were the wrong things ie., choccy, chips etc.,?
i genuinely take my hat off to you for getting 'back on track' mikey and i wish you loadsa luck but, as i say i am now totally confused.
loadsa love n' stuff
jan xx
 
alphanerdage said:
Howdy y'all! Just a quick note because I'm back and trying to do a good job. My name is Mike. I had WLS in 2004. Lost 180 pounds. Felt great. Fell into a bad few years. Regained 120. Depression. Today, I dove back into a proper life style. And I need a support system.

I'll be back :)
Mikey
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Just wondered which surgery did you have?

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I had good old' gastric "tiny sack, laser beams" bypass surgery.

No one should take my experiences as the norm. It's very unique. However none of these surgeries is without potential risk, or even failure. My experience has not changed my opinion. WLS is an incredible way to have a new lease on life, in hundreds of ways.

I'm proof it is not impossible to re-stretch your pouch. I'm not the first, I won't be the last.

I can't reiterate enough, depression and poverty are the main factors in my situation. And even those were more likely in my case because of lack of support. When I moved BACK to Canada, I discovered there were no groups for people like me. Which was unfortunate. There may be groups more commonly available in Canada now, but I live and work in a small town so im reliant on my own will.

What changed so that I am BACK trying to fix all these problems? Many things. But the EXACT moment was when my girlfriend was watching a documentary called My 600 Pound Life. It reignited all the feelings, fears, hopes, disgust, happiness... And I realized how food has once again become a crutch as it had been in my younger years.

And on a very personal level, im the host, writer and creator or a TV series here in Ottawa, which I'm very proud of. However, I had avoiding WATCHING my own show for months because I knew I would be disgusted with who I saw. Because its purely a sign of my failure. As the show grows, seeing myself has become unavoidable. And I hate who I see. It's superficial. I'm healthy. I'm happy. I like myself. So when I see this funny, talented, handsome man has blown back up into a pile of skin and fat, it hurts.

It hurts because I let my doctors down. My nurses. All the folks who worked so much to create this miracle for me, and I let them down. That was irresponsible of me. I owe them. My life.

My choice was not cosmetic either. My life was SAVED. I had hypo gonadism. An often overlooked condition that affects many obese men through out their entire lives. My body couldn't create adrenalin or testosterone. I couldn't break down any fat, or build any muscle. I was dying and gaining weight so fast that this surgery was the only solution.

And I squandered it. It's not too late to fix the damage. Physically for myself, but also out of respect for the medical staff who shared their talent and love to save me.

Mikey

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all i can say again after reading all that is i hope everything truly works out for you ..... i hope it helps the people who just think bypass ( or any other surgery )can't fail so carry on as they are realise that they have to work hard at it themselves too :) i hope if ever i start to fail i will remember your story x
 
Thank you for your candid reply , I wish you every success . It's s shame there isn't a support network , I hope your gf is supportive to you .
You will also find as you watch yourself shrink again life gets better xx
 
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