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Leaking like the Titanic..

So sorry to hear about the blackouts. I think they definitely need to be investigated and I am shocked that your problems are still not being taken seriously.

The B12 injections should help a lot; everyone I know who has had WLS is given B12 injections as a matter of course.

Your work problems are maddening and you must be royally sick of the judgemental attitude and sarcastic responses of some of your colleagues but right now the priority is your health, and getting you fit and well again. Jobs come and go; I know the employment situation is pretty dire at present and likely to get worse but you just don't need this added stress and you are likely to feel weak for some time yet until the positive effects of the B12 kick in. I am furious that you are still receiving little or no help. Is there an independent regulating body in the UK to help with bariatric surgery complaints? There might be. If so, contact them asap and tell them everything.

I really hope you feel stronger soon x
 
just have to plod on, keep my head and me chin held high. I refuse to let things beat me, though this week I have questioned multiple times "why me?" and "wtf next?"

Onwards and upwards is the only way I intend to go and believe me if it kills me, I will be going in that direction only. Ive come too far along and had too much plop to let it knock me down. Sometimes you just got to keep getting back up and taking it even if it hits you hard and hurts. This time last year Id have given up, but not now.

I have complained to the PCT I came under for surgery, and Ive been back to PALS so lets see what evolves. In the meantime, Ill keep eating the vits like smarties, grinning like an idiot and enjoying the positives; today I sat on the Peasant Wagon and was blessed to have a fellow passenger beside me along with my oversized back pack! I met my Mr Wonderful for breakfast and a spot of shopping and had a great day. Who'd have thought it eh? not me! Just a blip to step over and not a Canyon to fall into :)
 
I am very happy that you have a Mr. Wonderful! That's so sweet and your happiness will make the down days more bearable.

Even so you've been through a hellish time and it's not over yet. In your situation I would be checking out ways and means to get a second opinion on past and present problems and complications and on what should BEST be done to restore some kind of 'normality'. You don't need to tell anyone you intend to seek a second opinion; Softly, softly, catchee monkey! (Poor wee monkey, I always think lol). If possible it might be worth booking an initial, usually free 30-minute appointment with a solicitor who specialises in medical neglect/mistakes/complications. You need expert advice from someone who really knows what they are talking about.

I realise that you probably can't be bothered with even the thought of possible legal action but honestly your experience has not been good and you are still by no means out of the woods. You are not to blame for any of this, and you know it. Rather you have been snowed-under from the very start with serious, very scary complications that were not of your own making.

It's fantastic that you have lost so much weight; you look amazing now and very happy. Even so you still can't eat or drink properly, and that just isn't right. We tend to put up with far too much rather than 'hassle' people - but there are times when we need to hassle them, not only for our own sakes, but for the sake of those who follow after us.

What you're experiencing is neither normal nor acceptable and I'm truly sorry if I come across like an over-protective Mum but if this was happening to either of my grown boys I would be fighting like a cornered tigress to get any and all help needed.

Be happy, get lots of rest, and remember that you are a much-loved, very brave girl who deserves to feel whole again x
 
Thanks Doodoo x

The ball is already rolling on that one Girlygirl, ive been fighting since February and Im not about to stop yet.

Looking forward to seeing Psychologist again next week to ask why he couldnt see me when I was on death row. Could make for interesting conversation. Things are on the up, feeling better now eating b12 like smarties with the vits etc.. Now in size 14 work trousers and got a lovely size 12 blouse from tesco. :) Whats more, Im falling head over heels in love (god help me) :)
 
mollythedogsmum said:
OMG? U poor thing x I hope u start to feel better x you've been through the mill x x
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Still fighting and I'm gonna win!

Been to a support group meeting and the guest speaker was the director of nursing who wanted to discuss "our" experiences as a group and see how things can be improved. She now wishes she never met me, or 2 others who I had pleasure of being in hospital with.

She wasd genuinely horrified and speechless at the few things we touched on and has asked my permission to view my file and investigate further. She has also taken my details and is going to call me tomorrow to arrange a meeting between she and I (and my solicitor) to discuss my case from start to finish.

I feel like I have some kind paeric victory. I can't change what's happened to me, but be thankful someone is finally listening and wants to change things so they don't happen to anyone else! If something good can come out of this mess, I hope its that. I'm proud of me :) I know Paul was too as he held my hand and squeezed it gently when I found myself on the edge of cracking up tonight.

Came home, had a minute meltdown in the bathroom (talking always has this effect) but now I'm good to go. I've been truly blessed by someone or something to get this far and still have some fight in me. Maybe I can get it all out in the open, clear my chest, the air and move on to the next stage or chapter of my life.

Big steps all round today, progress in every angle :) not only did I have a good day at work but I managed a little soup (woohooo!) And spent the evening with Paul who has told me several times since we got home that he's proud of me, and the scariest bit of all! He loves me :) awww! Early days and baby steps in the right direction.

I'm ready to take on the world :) and I got a batman to my Robin to help me on my way :)
 
Am sooo verry pleased for ya Scooter bout time too for everything thta is happening at the moment, romance, solicitor, nurse, food everything, I know there is a God and he has brought me through sooo many dark times, and am so relieved to hear your future is looking rosy what a nice change, enjoyyyyy xx
 
You go, girl! You have the love, support and good wishes of everyone here, as well as the sheer guts and determination to keep fighting for justice for yourself and for others, too.

It's never an easy decision to put your head above the parapet and speak out. When a person is weak and weary from physical illness - which in turn creates emotional distress - they often can't face the demands of a lengthy and complex complaints procedure. You can bet that the dodgy providers are well aware of this!

Since it often comes down to 'your word against theirs', and medical personnel tend to close ranks against the patient, the fight can be a long one. Patients are often accused of exaggerating, or of outright lying, which must be as heartbreaking as it is infuriating.

Baby steps, indeed; but as you say, it's all progress. Now you have the added love and support of your man. I am so thankful that things are slowly but steadily improving for you x
 
chrisa said:
Am sooo verry pleased for ya Scooter bout time too for everything thta is happening at the moment, romance, solicitor, nurse, food everything, I know there is a God and he has brought me through sooo many dark times, and am so relieved to hear your future is looking rosy what a nice change, enjoyyyyy xx
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Thanks x in the darkest time ever in my life I found a lot of important things - love, strength, will power and god. I don't know "his"name but I know he hears my prayers and has brought angelsinto my life. You guys, friends who shared this with me and carried me through it until I was strong enough to fight myself.

A few months back I wrote on here I lost the will to fight and live. Never thought I'd resort to that. So glad I didn't give in. These things are sent to try usand maybe some weird screwed up plan designed for me meant I had to go through what I have to get to where I need to go. Didn't give in and now I have my hearts desires - better health, better quality of life, better relationships with friends and family, new friends and brighter outlook on life. What's more I got someone to share it all with. Early days, yet I know things destined to get better and even if the chips are down I have what it takes to fight for what I want and believe. I will do just that. The old me would have just given in settled for second best but not anymore
 
girlygirl1 said:
You go, girl! You have the love, support and good wishes of everyone here, as well as the sheer guts and determination to keep fighting for justice for yourself and for others, too.

It's never an easy decision to put your head above the parapet and speak out. When a person is weak and weary from physical illness - which in turn creates emotional distress - they often can't face the demands of a lengthy and complex complaints procedure. You can bet that the dodgy providers are well aware of this!

Since it often comes down to 'your word against theirs', and medical personnel tend to close ranks against the patient, the fight can be a long one. Patients are often accused of exaggerating, or of outright lying, which must be as heartbreaking as it is infuriating.

Baby steps, indeed; but as you say, it's all progress. Now you have the added love and support of your man. I am so thankful that things are slowly but steadily improving for you x
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Thankyou x I was always to fight for what u want. If you want something good enough you have to work for it, and you will get it in the end. All my life (adult) I've fought to get through each day. Hoping the fascists, bullies finally go and do one. Now they have. I refuse to let what's happened fall on deaf ears. It only takes one person to listen for change to take place.

I feel better every day, I have what it takes to finally tackle things head on and ask the questions I need to know the answers to to move on. If one good thing comes out of this in the form of nobody else will get treated this way then mission accomplished. For me an appology would have cut it. I just want someone to say sorry and learn from this mess and get the help I need. I have issues and need some help with some things. Part of me wants to know what the hell happened. Part of me doesn't. I feel if I know the truth I can move on but not sure I want to open that can of worms.

My dad always said to us growing up that we should always shoot ourselves at the stars, if we miss we can still land among the tree tops. Never knew what he meant until now.
 
Sometimes I beg to differ! lol When it counts and its important stuff, yes. Sensible, always there, and loved with every ounce of my very being
 
My dear Dad was the same - hardworking, unfailingly honest, generous, modest, and completely devoted to his family. I am still struggling to come to terms with his recent passing. Treasure good Dads and Mums, everyone! They are a blessing beyond words x
 
girlygirl1 said:
My dear Dad was the same - hardworking, unfailingly honest, generous, modest, and completely devoted to his family. I am still struggling to come to terms with his recent passing. Treasure good Dads and Mums, everyone! They are a blessing beyond words x
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The mere thought of losing my parents sends me into a huge panic, I was there for my husband when his parents passed away and it was terrible, my parents are 70 and 71, moved into abungalow this year and my mum has had 2 major op within the year. She has 2 skin cancers on her eye which now need to be removed next week and a skin graft 2 days later, it is a worry. :(
 
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