Mega eating!!

[tealovingsleever]

You really are very sad

Goodness what an intelligent response.

 

[Karlos]

ive tried to do this several times as i find you offensive. i am unable to ignore you as you are a moderator. if this could be rectified so that i could ignore you, i would welcome that change, you yourself recommend that we use the ignore facility frequently.

site response - "Sorry Karlos is a moderator/admin and you are not allowed to ignore him or her."

Oh right I get that. In that case the obvious advice would be when you see my icon and username at the side of the thread, simply ignore them and don't read the posts from me. Simples

 

[Karlos]

Goodness what an intelligent response.

:sigh: :cry: :wave_cry:

 

[Mazza]

And this petty squabbling is helping the original poster how exactly?

Please keep posts on topic.

 

[JoJoTGirl]

I did get that and you're obviously smarter than some of the internet numpties so I'm sure you realised my comments were not aimed at you, rather they were directed at all those who fail to prepare properly for their surgery and who see the weeks leading up to their date as a feeding frenzy stuffing their faces with all they can. They run the risk of being turned away on the daqy of their operation because they have failed to lose the weight they signed up to lose, or even worse in some cases turn up fatter than they were at assessment. That was why I made the comment that entering into a megafest of face stuffing leading up to our dates is dangerous and we should avoid it



We all have food addiction problems pre op, as you and others have said it's why we end up the size of a water Buffalo in the first place, and yes there are some who never break that addiction and ultimately fail. Those of us like you who make the lifestyle changes we need to make can go on to have fantastic lives post op. I stand by my comment that for some the timing is wrong and they are just not ready or committed to do their bit. Someone who feels that they have to spend the months between assessment and their operation cramming food down their necks should ask themselves if they are really ready and committed to making the changes they need for the rest of their lives. If they are being honest with themselves, and we have seen evidence of it here where people have cancelled their procedures because it's not the right time for them, for some right now is not right just now.



I didn't know you had paid for surgery, my I don't care comment wasn't targeted at you personally. The context of my comment was clear I thought. The NHS is beleaguered right now with calls for it to cut its costs and save money. Many naturally thin people see WLS as a huge waste of NHS and taxpayers resources and want the money spent elsewhere on genuinely "sick" people rather than fat greedy wasters like us. So as an NHS patient I believe I/we have a huge responsibility to do our bit and try everything we can to ensure the huge financial investment made in our futures gets a proper return.

I really care about NHS patients making the most of this very special gift. For those lucky enough to be able fund their own surgery that responsibility isn't there, it's your money if you want to throw it away because you don't care enough to make it a success then I don't care whether you're successful or not. Again this is not aimed at you, but at all private patients

Lol. Karlos, it was clear......I confess I was maybe goading you a little regarding the don't care if I'm successful bit! I have to say that, although I think you could probably be a little less blunt at times , most of what you say is actually quite true / insightful, especially about making a success of it if you've used valuable NHS resources. That's kind of why even though the idea was first put to me by an NHS consultant with the offer of a fast track (as I needed other surgery at the time) I decided that as I could pay, I should!

For me, this was a last resort after a lifelong battle to try and get control. A real chance to use a tool to help myself and the fact that I used hard earned /saved funds to do so coupled with my inherrant tightness, means I simply cannot piddle about and play at it! I am massively (well slightly less massively actually ) excited about the future as for the first time I know I can absolutely do this!

The fact remains however that I can absolutely identify with the pigging out before the op stage but in fairness, I only let myself do so for a couple of weeks.

Have fun out there guys and try and read between the Karlos lines. My hubs calls a spade a "bladdy spade!" so I'm quite used to it but that doesn't mean that sometimes you would much prefer a bit of rainbows and ponies hey?

 

[Karlos]

LOL I know you're right and that my approach is sometimes a tad blunt, however there are more than enough people here (Lots that don't know their backside from their elbow as it happens) that see the kittens and rainbows approach as being supportive, and in some cases it has a limited place.

The reality is though that we have had many years of us making excuses for failure, or even worse others making excuses for our failures and there comes a time when we have to stop with that crap, realise what we are doing is just the same old pattern of failure and reward we deployed when getting huge and not helpful. If all people want to read is others who may also be failing patting them on the head saying don't worry it will be alright, we're all human, how brave of you for telling us you're a plonker, etc then fine. Good luck with that but when you fail to reach goal, or are getting your excuses in about why you cant reach goal less than a year out, then don't come back here looking for sympathy from me. I love your approach, and the fact that despite qualifying for funding that you decided to pay for your surgery. I bet there are far more failures post op whose surgery was funded by the NHS than those who had to find the cash themselves.

No way will you fail to be anything other than a great WLS success story and in the time I have left I am looking forward to seeing you achieve the kind of results that simply blow me away when I read them