Lou: firstly I second what everyone has said. What a beautifully worded, courageous letter. And that's coming from a professional writer! (me!).
I have also fostered, but only once, as I had 8 children of my own. We had him for almost ten years but it didn't end well; his mother turned him against us when she decided to take him back. I'm also a grandma (of 35!!) and a great grandma of 8 (one more expected any minute!).
As to sleeve, I'm a sleever. I agree with what's been said, but so far (5 weeks post op) I'm finding the weightloss very good, and I like it that I don't have dumping issues or malabsorption either. If you end up with a sleeve you won't be sorry..it's a very good second option.
Best of luck for Friday; and keep us informed!
Secondly