ladylite
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Brilliant Mary, I like it X
Yeah I know but I always seem to forget it myself until I tell someone then I remember how I learnt it on a Assertiveness Course.
Brilliant Mary, I like it X
lol mine to..is that what they are teaching them in schools nowwa days lollol.....I think my kids went on that course, they sounds like a broken record sometimes, can I have ....can I have........can I have lol XX
To me she sounds like a sad, lonely old girl with no idea how to express herself. She just lashes out at people with her tongue to make herself feel good.
I personally agree that you shouldnt tell your OH not to see her, he will eventually make up his own mind, it will come dont worry.
I would also phone her and explain to her why you are not going to see her. Have you heard of the broken record technique, it is an assertive technique.
Say something like, "I am sorry to have to tell you but I wont be visiting you anymore because you alway put me down and make me feel insecure".
She will probably go off on one, but you must not get drawn in in any way, just say
"I appreciate what you are saying but I wont be visiting you anymore because you alway put me down and make me feel insecure".
She will probably then go off on one again and you stay on track and say
"I appreciate what you are saying but I wont be visiting you anymore because you alway put me down and make me feel insecure".
Usually after the third time they will listen to what you say, at least you have been up front with her, not that she deserves it. If not you just repeat it like a broken record you then dont get thrown off track of what you want to say.
Only a another suggestion for you to think about. Good luck with her. You are doing so well and you dont want anyone spoiling it for you.
Oh why do OH's have to have MIL's