O/T I`m so cheesed off with my ex .

[margaretmc]

Hi Everybody
He said that even if I get the surgery that I`ll not meet another man because I never go out . I told him that I`ll not always be stuck in the house . He drives me so mad , he comes down every day to give me a hand but he rubs me up the wrong way and I tell him to get out and go to his own house . And he turns around and say this is half my place but he ends up going . Sorry for the rant . Take care .
Margaret xx

 

[Mixman]

Sorry to hear this Margaret. Us men can be absolute to$$ers at times.

He's obviously either too blinkered to see things will change in the future or he's secretly hoping you won't meet anyone because he will be jealous!

 

[Red 42]

of course you'll meet someone else Margaret :love:.....sounds like ex hubby is becoming worried that you won't need to rely on him after surgery!!

 

[j.u.s.t.l.i.z.]

yep hes starting to feel insecure and hes trying to make you believe that you cant move on this is his insecurities not yours, this is quite a common thing to happen, he be stuck for words when your out socialising in ya size 16's xxxx and you will deffo find another man no worries xxx

liz x

 

[Neen]

Don't let him control you and don't let him dictate how you feel about yourself. You owe him nothing, and he has no business speculating on YOUR future. What an a**--hole. You deserve a real man lovey and don't you forget it for a second x

 

[mandyl]

sod him,easy said than done i know. ill prob never find anyone then as i dont go out. sometimes i think oh god on own forever sometimes i think i dont care. chin up. hugs xxx

 

[margaretmc]

Thanks everybody the sooner I get the surgery and sell up the better .
At lease I`ll be nearer to my family . I know its not very nice but I said to him the only time I`ll have to see him is births , deaths or weddings . I had a little sleep so I feel better now . Take care huns .
Margaret xx

 

[gaelic girl]

Margaret
He sounds as if he has controlled you in the respect that you "need him" to help you out and he is quickly realising that he won't have that control for ever and that p.............s him off big time. There is a far better man out there for you as soon as you are ready xx

 

[margaretmc]

The best thing about Michael`s comment is I`m not looking , once bitten twice shy as they say . I`m looking for friendship and the is an awful lot of you`s here friends that is .

 

[leedsjeff]

Hi there im a bloke who waighed 22 stone i was stuck in house with disabilatis and i met the love of my life on a internet dating site we are now in a group of friends who all met on site. we are all on the large side and we go on holadays together i felt same after split with ex that id be alone for ever so if i can find love then anyone can and you can and will...jeff

 

[margaretmc]

Hi Jeff
I`m so glad you found a lovely girl on the web . Going on holidays all together sounds great fun and a laugh . Good luck and take care .
Margaret xx

 

[Snowcrystal]

Sorry to hear this Margaret. Us men can be absolute to$$ers at times.

He's obviously either too blinkered to see things will change in the future or he's secretly hoping you won't meet anyone because he will be jealous!

Mixman took the words out of my mouth...(except the to&&er term lol)...

Margaret you have a man's point of view here...I agree, your ex thought he would never lose you....he is getting worried now that you are about to turn your life around.

Good luck with the future Margaret...You'll do whatever you want to hun.

(((hun)))

 

[Big an Bouncy]

Who sats we need a man in our life to be a happy,healthy,exciting,interesting woman!He is deffo insecure,scared you wont need him anymore.There is a reason hes your ex,dont let him undermine your future one little bit.Show him what hes missing By finishing this journey to a new you,then sell up and dont give him your new address!!Has he got a new partner? Maz x

 

[margaretmc]

Hi Bnb
Funny you should say dont give him my new address , We were talking last week and I said I cant wait to sell up and move . And he said yeah when he comes over for a holiday he`ll stay with me and I said no you wont you can stay with Gaynor because I dont want you (him) knowing where I live .
Margaret xx
PS
I dont think he is seeing anybody because he comes here about 3/4 and stays till 10.30/11 pm .

 

[vanilla-cupcake]

Hi Margaret, ex's can be right pr!cks, he couldn't be any worse than mine, mine would give all ex's a bad name, let him say what he wants, who cares!! Once you've lost all ur weight the pubs will be sick eh the sight eh ye, he's just jealous cos he knows you wont need him once the weight comes off and it could be a new man giving ye a hand

Keep smiling girl x

 

[Gail-michelle]

seems to me your ex is feeling a little insecure Oh my how the tables turn I Lovvvvvvvvee It, especialy when our Margie is going to be a glammer puss!! you go girl give him what for and knock em dead!! (not literaly though L.O.L)

 

[Gail-michelle]

Oh Mandy (was that a song Oh well) I just want to tuck you under my wing and take you on a bloody good night out in blackpool by then you will have those blokes eating out of your high heeled stiletoe.arty0036:arty0027::bananalove:arty0023:arty0038:arty0019::banana dancer:arty0016:arty0048:

sod him,easy said than done i know. ill prob never find anyone then as i dont go out. sometimes i think oh god on own forever sometimes i think i dont care. chin up. hugs xxx

 

[quetiapina]

Hi Margaret, sorry to hear your ex is being undermining in such a way but it will have made him think when you said that you WILL be going out a lot more when you feel ready. I think the same as most here that he is getting insecure about you changing - and maybe your decision re WLS has already made you develop a bit and this is giving him a hint of the confidence you are likely to develop once it is all done.

Very best wishes to you
Jen x

 

[BlueDiamond]

Its funny you know as my ex gives me grief from time to time , prob when all is not well in his love nest..........and yes I was overweight when I was with him and guess wot ladies & gents........now I am slimmer then his current beau..................guess who's had the last laff....................me ;-))))))). Marg ya have to let me know when u come over to charring cross...its only half hour from me via tube. if no prior arrangements I pop in and chat the male nurses up , ermmmm..I mean I come and see you .....pmsl....................take no notice of your ex (easier said then done I know) . chin up hun

All the best - MeJulie xx

 

[margaretmc]

Hi Julie
Will do , but God knows when they will call me . Which is the nearest airport to Charing Cross . My son and his girlfriend got a flight into Stansted and then got the train into London . Is that the right thing to do . Take care .
Margaret xx