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[CharChar]

Well I am down to 29 days til my surgery. Not to many supporting me. My mom is to the best of her ability.
She is terrified, but I guess she is just being a mom.
My brother is health nut and says I can do it without surgery.
I know when it comes down to it he will be there for me but ease up.
My husband is getting better, he thinks that we will lose the things we like to do......eat together. But he did say he wants me to be happy.
But dammit this is not why I'm doing it. I NEED to be healthy.
Sorry just venting.
I do have 2 very close friends that are excited for me.
Any who, that's why I like this site.
But I think y'all are not in the US. I keep having to do math to see how much your losing LOL!!!

 

[FuturePerfect]

Hello CharChar. Where are you in the US? What procedure are you having?

 

[CharChar]

RNY.
I'm just used to using stones to measure weight haha...

 

[OOnion]

Has your husband not seen 9 1/2 weeks? Thin health girls have to eat too! Good luck x

 

[lyndajoan]

hi charchar
i to have not got many people to support me
my perants know and are worried just like your mom,
myson is happy for me he realises if i dont have this surgery
i may not be around for long, sad but soo true,

the reason i have not got many people close to me who i have chosen not to tell
is because i dont want to leave myself open to their
negative responses,
ie. (ooh are you having that surgery were they cut half you
stomach away i have read that a girl or man died of
starvation from that, )
so that is why i would rather not tell to many.

this forum is all the advice and support i need.

and i am sure you will get as much out of it as i have.
good luck charchar i look forward to reading how you get on. xxxxx

 

[mariew]

Hello again Char. Not long to go now, when do you start your pre op diet? Will you be on it over Christmas?
Have you asked the hospital where you are having your surgery if there are any support groups in your area? Perhaps if you can find some people who are post op it will give your husband the opportunity to learn a little more about both the surgery and how life will be for you both afterwards. My husband was worried too, but even though I am now on Purées I simply have the same as him, I just put mine in the blender!. We just use no fat or sugar in the cooking now, so it benefits us both. He now agrees it was the best option for me. Hopefully your family will be the same.

 

[CharChar]

Thanks everyone...
I'm so much more at ease about my hospital stay and being sick.
I have a very weak stomach and vomiting is my main concern...
Thanks again for all your support....
If u only knew

 

[angiemason]

my husband was so worried about me he didn't talk about it at all i kept thinking he didn't want me to have it done but he has been fantastic since and is very proud that i have managed to have the courage to go through with it even when i was so scared i wouldn't wake up and sent my children letters just in case.
I joke with him now that he will have to put up with me for more years because of the surgery poor thing