21lb in total ive lost since having band on 13th may (17days ago) and what did i get a telling off from the nurse cos i have been eating healthy soft foods b4 my time on her piece of paper!! no vomiting wretching or pain wounds healed nicely managing 40min walks daily feeling great. Im quite upset sorry 4 the rant:cry:
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Awww *Hugs*
You are doing well so you have nothing to be upset over.
Almost 2 stones in 17 days is amazing!
As for the nurse, she was probably worried that if you're eating things before you should that it may damage you in some way.
I'm a bit emotional at the moment too after my surgery, all you need is a bit of TLC and you will be fine x
You are doing well so you have nothing to be upset over.
Almost 2 stones in 17 days is amazing!
As for the nurse, she was probably worried that if you're eating things before you should that it may damage you in some way.
I'm a bit emotional at the moment too after my surgery, all you need is a bit of TLC and you will be fine x
Thankyou 4 replying, i do understand what nurses point is, me 17days included pre op diet as well, Its just i have never been able to loose that amount of weight its a massive thing for me i was even knocking myself trying to say well its only 8lb since surgery day but then for her to knock me i just wasnt expecting it TOTM lol
Karlos
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The weight loss would not have helped you if something had got stuck requiring surgical intervention to resolve it because you didn't follow the plan they gave you. The rules of post op eating are their for your safety which is far more important than how much weight you've lost.
kellbells
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Karlos said:
Karlos, That's the 2nd comment I've noticed of yours that is unhelpful and to be quite honest, rude too. You are allowed to follow a soft food diet after the band if you can't tolerate the fluid one. And if she had got something stuck requiring surgical intervention then her weight loss would've helped hugely as a lower weight during any surgical procedure is safer, so you are wrong on that.
Sam, well done my lovely on that fantastic weight loss, you should be very proud of yourself
)You do what feels right, we are all individuals with different tolerances so good for you.
As long as the clinic know what you're doing etc they will be in a better position to support you.
Let's face it, if you were suffering in any way you wouldn't be eating soft foods. You're an intelligent person who knows their own body and appear to be coping very well. Good luck xxx
Karlos
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I couldn't care less whether you think my post is rude, feel free to use the ignore option. You miss the point 21 pounds weight loss would have a small impact on the patients safety if emergency surgery carried out by a general surgeon rather than a specialist bariatric team who might not be available, was required not the huge one you claim.
The surgical team gave the OP an eating plan that she admittedly failed to follow hence the telling off by the specialist nurse, if she was "allowed" to ignore the plan why did the specialist take her to task? (Don't remember reading that you are a qualified bariatric specialist) and you telling her and potentially other patients who read this drivel that she did the right thing is frankly irresponsible and beggars belief.
The OP got away with going against her surgeon's advice, well done her, others might not be so lucky and your claim that we know our bodies post op better than the professionals during the healing process is simply ridiculous and dangerous. My advice would be follow your surgeons advice and you will be OK, stray from that and you put your safety at risk.
Natstar
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Hi Sam,
The nurse wouldn't have been happy as she is purely looking our for your best intrests. They give us the diet sheets to help guide us and also it helps to check everything is healing and your band has settled in well.
If you can hang in there and follow you sheet - it can be a major pain in the bum when you are desperate to get off liquids (believe me I'm only on week 2 of a 4 week liquid dtage) but it will be worth it.
You've done amazingly well on your weight loss so far so keep it up misses! xx
The nurse wouldn't have been happy as she is purely looking our for your best intrests. They give us the diet sheets to help guide us and also it helps to check everything is healing and your band has settled in well.
If you can hang in there and follow you sheet - it can be a major pain in the bum when you are desperate to get off liquids (believe me I'm only on week 2 of a 4 week liquid dtage) but it will be worth it.
You've done amazingly well on your weight loss so far so keep it up misses!
xx
kellbells
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Karlos said:
At no point have I claimed to be a bariatric specialist, something however I feel you believe you are.
I have parents in the advanced medical field who work with bariatric patients on a regular basis and I to have had some general nursing experience so i am not completely naive to this much to your displeasure, I'm sure. I have not given any advice, I simply gave my opinion that she would know if a soft diet was causing her problems. Again, a soft diet is allowed. She's not stuffed her face with meat and pasta! She's been sensible and her body would tell her if it were not tolerating it. I'd also like to point out that at no time whatsoever have I said not to follow medical advice. I don't need to tell an adult this like you feel you have to, they know. I thought you pointing it out in bold letters was unnecessary and given the heading of the post is 'upset', don't you think your implied tone was upsetting to someone who knows they've strayed from the medical advice given?
masonrules
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As lurking new member (and pre-opper) the nicest thing about this site seems to be the fact its non-judgmental and supportive.
Won't be rushing out to eat soft food before I'm meant to (and Sam wasn't suggesting anyone else do this too!) but I think Its important that people can feel able to be open and honest about how they're getting on without being told off by other members....
When my time comes in (16 days now!) I'm certain that I won't end up doing everything by the book, even if I try my very best to (pretty certain I'm going to forget not to drink with meals sometimes!)
Theres another thread about fizzy drinks going on at the moment too....I think its reassuring to see that not everyone's perfect.
And well done on the fantastic weight loss!
Amy
Won't be rushing out to eat soft food before I'm meant to (and Sam wasn't suggesting anyone else do this too!) but I think Its important that people can feel able to be open and honest about how they're getting on without being told off by other members....
When my time comes in (16 days now!) I'm certain that I won't end up doing everything by the book, even if I try my very best to (pretty certain I'm going to forget not to drink with meals sometimes!)
Theres another thread about fizzy drinks going on at the moment too....I think its reassuring to see that not everyone's perfect.
And well done on the fantastic weight loss!
Amy
Karlos
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You're assuming the nurse was rude based on what the OP posted; they might have been nothing of the sort. Their main concern is our safety so when they see us blatantly ignoring their advice ignoring the eating plan they gave us to follow, the kittens and rainbows approach is not at the forefront of their mind. It matters not one jot what you paid if you cock it up and they have to open you up.
Karlos
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Well you feel wrong. I am no expert that’s why I followed the rules and the plan I was given rather than putting my safety at risk. Expert no, experienced and successful as a post opper who followed the rules yes
I see a pattern forming here as you’re two for two. I couldn’t care less about you or your “nursing experience” I’ll take my advice from the professionals thanks
I have always been proud of my comprehension skills so I took your statement and I quote “You do what feels right, we are all individuals with different tolerances so good for you” as you advising the OP that ignoring the rules was in fact the correct thing to do, in fact rather than advising her to follow her surgeon’s advice you praised her for knowing better than them. Go figure
It’s not about tolerating the food, as a bander she is less unlikely to have an issue with food post op than a bypass patient anyway, it’s about that forkful that gets stuck, or causes the band to slip etc, all the things that they warn against when they give you the meal plan to follow. Your body might well detect a slipped band however by then it’s too late. I'm surprised someone with your "nursing experience" with advanced medical field parents can't see that
Once again I’m not interested in what you thought about my post. This type of bleeding heart thread always gets the puppy and ribbons brigade telling the OP everything is fine and the nasty healthcare professional was out of order to tell them they did something stupid, my concern is not whether I upset the poster, they were lucky they broke the rules but got away with it, the next person who reading the usual crap that follows thinking its safe to ignore their surgeon and be as stupid might not be.
kellbells
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What a nasty 'man' you are. People are seeking reassurance, not lectures! If you're 'an experienced' wls patient what are you doing on here? You're negativity is not appreciated. I've even received a personal message from someone on here about your rudeness so I know I'm not alone with this.
And i'm afraid your 'comprehension skills' have let you down, because all of that last post was complete and utter nonsense and purely your misinterpretation. Never mind. Why listen to me? I'm merely a fellow wls patient.....oh, and a professional. Nurse.
And i'm afraid your 'comprehension skills' have let you down, because all of that last post was complete and utter nonsense and purely your misinterpretation. Never mind. Why listen to me? I'm merely a fellow wls patient.....oh, and a professional. Nurse.
claire-anna
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Crikey... I take it Karlos is perfect.???..remind myself never to post anything I need support with... Oh wait is this a support forum??? Confused.com
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