Was Insulted today

[PinkyButtonz]

Thanks everyone.

I'm think over it, but as I said it was a first for me. Plus I saw my unually layed back daughter want to ring her neck, but I told her your better than that.

I don't think Tourettes was a factor as I did come in contact with her again near the checkout. We were just a few yards away from each other. I wanted to see if she would make any more comment with her mum now pushing the wheelchair, but she said nothing. I don't think her mum heard her earlier comment.

It no excuse, but I think the wheelchair may have been something new to. It could of been on loan from the store as it was far to big for her. I'm a wheelchair user (have Lupus and back problem), but chose not use it that day because we needed the boot space.

Thanks again everyone XX.

 

[emmabeee]

I know exactly how u feel i just received this email from my brother in laws ex. Clueless as to why tho as i have never had anything to do with her.

'you'll always be a fat c*** ya wanna try leavin off the food for a bit instead of fillin ya fat ugly f***in face all day long yeah i have a big arse but f*** me u a ugly f***in fat munter'

I think someone is trying to stir up a lot of trouble so i let it go and ignored it, but it still really hurts, i mean this is the reason i got big in the first place, being bullied at school having these hurtful things drummed into my head everyday at a young age when i wasn't even overweight back then. Scarred me for life!

 

[teen]

I used to get it every day from one of the ladies I look after things like Go home you fat cow, move your fat arse, F off fat cow hope you die. Not nice but I let it go over my head because of her learning disability (she is 71). She will want me before I need her

 

[tesmaralda]

What a nasty so and so I would have followed her round and got in her way even more 8O)

 

[emmabeee]

I think its partly jealousy, something about you they like or not got themselves, so bringing us down makes them feel better.

One of my bullys at school said she bullied me because i had straight hair and hers was frizzy, she had spots and i never did!

I thought 'THAT WAS IT' ?????? OMG i allowed myself to be reduced to a depressed mess and confort ate myself to nearly 25 stone over the years for THAT!

I am just glad (in a way) it did happen because i am a better person for it today, i always look out for people and try to make anyone i meet happy.

 

[corrine82]

Being big most my life i got used to it and put up a brick wall but what upsets me most is when they would say it when i was out with my children thats mostly why i went through with the op as i am worried of my oldest being bullied for my size children today are VERY cruel as a few of you have stated my children are taught everyone is differant but you do hear some of the parents saying it then wonder where there children get it from !!!!

 

[emmabeee]

My eldest Jack came home a bit emotional once because someone had asked him 'why is your mum so fat?'

They weren't nasty but it was enough for him to get thinking, and he has heard people passing saying things, Our Jack an emotional lad and knows that being overweight is very bad for your health, i've made them very aware that they need to look after their bodies and stay fit and healthy.

Yeah they still eat, Maccy D's etc but i think they have seen how it affected me and don't want to be that way.

I think its helped my kids to be healthly and sensible but also be kind and respectful to the overweight society, cuz there is lots of us out there, we just hide away a lot because of all the nastiness thats around us.

 

[gingernutter]

I am so sorry to read these stories.

I can totally relate.

Even thou people say ignore it and it's their problems I can not ignore it. I am sorry but this has happened to me so many times. Shouting from car's, people treating me badly, name calling, people knocking into me (no sorry or excuse me). Where does it end. It is not something I like to talk about as it is so painful. It has made me feel angry. I always have my guard up.

I went into a shop to try a new top on and the shop assistant got the air freshener out and strayed it into the changing room as i left it,in front of me. She didn't have the good manners to let me leave. I would like to point out that I pay the best of care to my personal hygiene and they was no need at all to spray the room. Just because we are fat it doesn't have to mean we smell. Of course I haven't been back to that shop, so she wins.

The last time I flew was in 2007, I went to Boston, USA. On the return flight the passenger behind me rock my seat for the whole journey. At one point I turned around and asked her what is her problem and she said YOU FAT SLOB. I couldn't believe my ears. I said "you are letting yourself down, look at everyone looking at you, calling me names, you should be ashamed of yourself". I haven't flown since. I don't plan to until I have lost weight.

Last week I went to the local pool to go swimming with the hospital obesity group but as I approached the pool some children were shouting out of the window at me.

Do I sound fed up? YES I AM. I am fed up with people treating me so cruely.

So you are not alone with your bad experience.

 

[Caroline101061]

Some people are scum and of a subnormal intelligence and have to be pitied - of course it doesn't make the insults any less painful - honestly I retaliate now - Ive put up with it for too long and now its coming out and I feel that its better out than in - there was a guy who I sat down next to on the bus once who promptly got up and stood in the corner - I went for him verbally - asked him why he thought it was necessary to get up - did I smell - yes I was overweight but I had feelings and I wasnt an ignorant pig - He went bright red, got off at the next stop and ran down the road - small victory but it made me feel better.

 

[quetiapina]

Oh Ginger nutter, those things are terrible. Some people really should, in the words of Stewie Griffin, "Get back to the gutter they congealed in".

 

[PinkyButtonz]

This happened about 3 weeks ago now. I thought I was over it but I am very self concious, and weary of people when I go now.

Because of my weight I tended to stay home more than I use to. Since that comment I think I've relied on my daughter more and tend to go out with her if I need to.

 

[Caroline101061]

Look - you have as much right to be on this planet as everyone else and by staying at home, oiks like this win and you cant let them do that - dont you dare. Hold your head up, stick two fingers up at the world and walk tall - you are doing something about your weight problem - they have psychological issues that require years of treatment - you will be sorted much quicker!

 

[PinkyButtonz]

I am so sorry to read these stories.

I can totally relate.

Even thou people say ignore it and it's their problems I can not ignore it. I am sorry but this has happened to me so many times. Shouting from car's, people treating me badly, name calling, people knocking into me (no sorry or excuse me). Where does it end. It is not something I like to talk about as it is so painful. It has made me feel angry. I always have my guard up.

I went into a shop to try a new top on and the shop assistant got the air freshener out and strayed it into the changing room as i left it,in front of me. She didn't have the good manners to let me leave. I would like to point out that I pay the best of care to my personal hygiene and they was no need at all to spray the room. Just because we are fat it doesn't have to mean we smell. Of course I haven't been back to that shop, so she wins.

The last time I flew was in 2007, I went to Boston, USA. On the return flight the passenger behind me rock my seat for the whole journey. At one point I turned around and asked her what is her problem and she said YOU FAT SLOB. I couldn't believe my ears. I said "you are letting yourself down, look at everyone looking at you, calling me names, you should be ashamed of yourself". I haven't flown since. I don't plan to until I have lost weight.

Last week I went to the local pool to go swimming with the hospital obesity group but as I approached the pool some children were shouting out of the window at me.

Do I sound fed up? YES I AM. I am fed up with people treating me so cruely.

So you are not alone with your bad experience.

I am so angry .
Yes I know these things go on but the more I read of the different experiences I get angry, I think what a world we live in.

What give these idiots the right to verbally abuse any one.

It makes you wonder how this adults/kids were brought up (dragged up). I brought my daughter up to be excepting of everyone.

I come from a very colourful family, all shapes and sizes and I have worked with the disabled and elderly.

Fortunatly the envoirment my daughter has been brought up in comments about peoples weight, colour, sexuality or disability are unacceptable.

 

[kphorrox]

that is absolutly disgusting for anyone to make such poisoned verbal garbage comment.i too believe in what goes around comes around.
rise above they obviously have their own issues.

 

[margaretmc]

Hi Pinky
That is awful and coming out of a 15-16 year olds mouth I blame their parents . My son is 27 and my daughter is 25 and they never swear in front of me or their dad . If I ever heard them talking to any one like that I`d slap them up the side of the head . But if I was you Pinky I wouldn`t
stay in because of her lifes to short hun . All the time I`v been fat the was only one man that was nasty to me and I give him what for . All the other people have been very nice . Chin up hun good luck and take care .
MARGARET XX

 

[topsy]

This happened about 3 weeks ago now. I thought I was over it but I am very self concious, and weary of people when I go now.

Because of my weight I tended to stay home more than I use to. Since that comment I think I've relied on my daughter more and tend to go out with her if I need to.

You have nothing to be ashamed of, you have done nothing wrong - it is obvious that you were brought up with manners and these low life are not. So are you going to be a victim and let them WIN!!!! Or are you going to show the world what the good Lord gave you?????

You are a wonderful person no matter how big you are no matter how small - you matter to the people in your life and your matter to the people here on this forum, NEVER be ashamed of being who you are - in all of us there is a special piece of us that is sacred and serene. At times like this find that piece and allow it to show you how wonderful you are.

Sending lots of hugs with oooodles of fairy dust to make you sparkle like the star you are x

P.S. look at some of my thoughts for the day they are very applicable at the moment for all of us x

 

[PinkyButtonz]

Look - you have as much right to be on this planet as everyone else and by staying at home, oiks like this win and you cant let them do that - dont you dare. Hold your head up, stick two fingers up at the world and walk tall - you are doing something about your weight problem - they have psychological issues that require years of treatment - you will be sorted much quicker!

So True
Thanks

that is absolutly disgusting for anyone to make such poisoned verbal garbage comment.i too believe in what goes around comes around.
rise above they obviously have their own issues.

I believe also what goes around comes around or you reep what you sow.

Hi Pinky
That is awful and coming out of a 15-16 year olds mouth I blame their parents . My son is 27 and my daughter is 25 and they never swear in front of me or their dad . If I ever heard them talking to any one like that I`d slap them up the side of the head . But if I was you Pinky I wouldn`t
stay in because of her lifes to short hun . All the time I`v been fat the was only one man that was nasty to me and I give him what for . All the other people have been very nice . Chin up hun good luck and take care .
MARGARET XX

Thanks Margret,

At least part of the world will be a better place with children like ours .

 

[dreamofbeingslim]

I know exactly how you feel. Myself and my twin sister who is also big were shopping in Sainsburys when 2 teenage boys probably about 14 started laughing and pointing at us and saying things about our weight. I couldn't wait to get out of the shop my husband was furious he said he wished he had been with us and he would have told them about how rude and disrespectful they were. I will never forget this and am always concious of people looking at me. One thing I really hate is mirrors in shops when I see a reflection of myself. Thankfully my children would never dream of behaving like this because we have brought them up correctly. Even if I say something about myself like I wish I wasn't so fat they turn round bless them and say no your not mum. I know they are only trying to make me feel good.

 

[CHUCKY]

sending you a hug to cheer you up

 

[LBD]

OMG that is truly appalling. Where do these youngsters get it from? The thought of my children ever using language like that or indeed insulting someone in that way just makes me feel physcally sick.

I'm so sorry that you were treated that way. Don't waste your time on such nasty rude people. Nobody deserves to be insulted like that. You will always be a far better person.