Whats happened to me

[hopelesscase]

Twice now over the past 2 days i have see a couple of women who have really caught my eye obviously stuggling with the heat, sweating profusly, struggling walking, out of breath looking very tired and just looking as though they really couldnt be bothered.
What has shocked me is that i have wanted to go over to them and say hey you know it really doesnt have to be like this. Why did they catch my eye? i wouldnt of batted an eyelid to them in the past.
Its only when i got home and it was still playing on my mind that i realised that it was how i looked last summer on hot days and knowing how great i feel now i want to share that feeling with them.
I didnt and wouldnt approach them but i help but feel that i want to spread the word. There is a solution to yr problem. Just glad the dr told me.
hc

 

[Mazza]

Its partly beacause you obviously have a natural instinct to help people but also that you dont wish to see others suffer - you have empathy.

There are more and more obese people out there and Im sure many of them feel hopeless. Lets just hope that in years to come more is done to tackle the current problem and prevent it getting worse in years to come.

Maz x

 

[debbiejane]

im still one of those women waiting for surgery date, but i know what you mean i feel i want to tell people that i see or know that there is hope.hopefully by next summer i will enjoy it take care an well done on your w/l

 

[dreamofbeingslim]

Well done on your weight loss it must be fantastic not to be huffing and puffing in the heat. I hope this time next year I will feel the same as you. You look amazing in that lovely cropped jacket and your jeans.

 

[zetacatty]

Word is gradually spreading about WLS. At first it got a bit of bad press but as more and more obese people see celebrities such as Fern Britton looking gorgeous and ask for the op the more accepted it will become and these poor, suffering people will realise there IS an answer to their health problems. I know what you mean hc, instead of thinking 'am I as fat as that?' when I see an overweight person I now think 'Mmm - a band or bypass could sort that out!' and I haven't even had it done yet! Zxx

 

[phatgirl]

I know exactly what you mean Carole. I was over in New Brighton this weekend and the weather was lovely, so many people out and about. I was miserable last summer and would have really struggled to have a nice time what with being sweaty, my feet swelling and feeling generally miserable when hot. Instead I rode festival rides mostly filled with children (the only ones who are usually brave enough to spin wildly in the heat!) and walked in the sun. I can't remember a sunny day I have enjoyed like that in a really long time. And it is mostly down to my healthier body and comfort. Tis magic isn't it? I saw a few larger ladies and I could tell they weren't having as much fun so I can definately see what you are saying.

Brilliant post Carole!

Nic

 

[Brunetteandred]

I totally know where you are coming from, HC. I have enjoyed a fairly quiet weekend in the sunshine, visiting relatives and walking about. Lots. I am only 3 stone out of 10 down, but already I feel like I have a new lease of life and found myself looking at larger people and remembering how hard it has been for me and how hard it must be for them.

 

[j.u.s.t.l.i.z.]

Twice now over the past 2 days i have see a couple of women who have really caught my eye obviously stuggling with the heat, sweating profusly, struggling walking, out of breath looking very tired and just looking as though they really couldnt be bothered.
What has shocked me is that i have wanted to go over to them and say hey you know it really doesnt have to be like this. Why did they catch my eye? i wouldnt of batted an eyelid to them in the past.
Its only when i got home and it was still playing on my mind that i realised that it was how i looked last summer on hot days and knowing how great i feel now i want to share that feeling with them.
I didnt and wouldnt approach them but i help but feel that i want to spread the word. There is a solution to yr problem. Just glad the dr told me.
hc

hi carole, i had a very similar experience today when i was at a local car boot sale this afternoon, there was a larger lady walking along infront of me and she seemed very hot and bothered the way i used to, she was chatting to a freind with her and she was saying how she wants to walk more and today was a good start, and said shes not binging no more to her friend but now just has the bags of crisps and not the biscuits :sigh:, i wanted to stop her and tell her theres a permanent light at the end of the tunnel and explain about wls, but in reality we just cant as people would think we were crazy, people find there own way in there own time, but i was really tempted to interupt her conversation.

 

[hopelesscase]

Word is gradually spreading about WLS. At first it got a bit of bad press but as more and more obese people see celebrities such as Fern Britton looking gorgeous and ask for the op the more accepted it will become and these poor, suffering people will realise there IS an answer to their health problems. I know what you mean hc, instead of thinking 'am I as fat as that?' when I see an overweight person I now think 'Mmm - a band or bypass could sort that out!' and I haven't even had it done yet! Zxx

I feel as though im a little different than some as i had never considered WLS. I ended up having a bypass after being told by an endocrainologist that it was the only thing he would do for me as although he could get the weight off me it would never stay off without changing how my body absorbed things.
so without him i would of still been that fat person struggling on obliviouse to the changes surgery could make.

 

[dreamofbeingslim]

Hi hopelesscase that is exactly what I was told at the obesity clinic. He said "You are very good at loosing the weight but you will never be able to loose it all and it stay off unless you have a gastric bypass."

 

[topsy]

In this day and age we now see people who are obese - when i was growing up i knew one person who was obese i went to school with her and she had serious endocrine problems and in her early 20's something was done and she lost her weight until she was healthy.

However, today is a different world from then. Our children no longer play out from dawn to dusk, we don't walk the couple of miles to walk or cycle there anymore and we do not take part in many outdoor activities. Years ago you shopped for each day or a couple of days ahead due to the fact we didn't have the appliances to cope with keeping food fresh or frozen until it was needed. Sweet treats only seemed to feature in family life at weekends or special occasions (my own mum would only buy one pack of biscuits for the week and once they were gone that was it)

Now you can walk down ANY high street and the norm is to see obese children and adults and the skinny's seem to be in the minority. WLS was unheard of back in the OLD days and people tried weird and wonderful diets or just had bulimia or anorxia (i know i've spelt that wrong). But now there is a solution to these problems and WLS is the quickest growing sugicial procedure carried out up and down the country whether it be private or NHS. Some people will always think there is nothing out there for them and others will not be happy with the way the are and want change and for them they will seek that change. I have noticed more and more whenever i am out the amount of obese people and it is a social tragedy but unless people want to help themselves or they have GP's who are forward thinking we will see this continue until the profile of WLS is raised in all areas of the media.

I also feel for anyone who is obese in any type of weather because it is totally c**p and whenever you look at nice clothes they just remind you how fat and ugly you really are and you feel there is no point in trying to make anything of yourself as when you look in a mirror you just see fat you don't see you........

 

[baby jayne]

Great thread HC. Topsy I can relate to the clothes in shops getting us down, I am hopeing that by August I will have dropped a few stone for my Holidays in order to look and feel a lot better than last year with swollen ankles and fatigue in the sun!!

 

[fat-girl-slim08]

I feel exactaly the same, everytime I see a larger person I want to tell them, that there is a way out and tell them all about my journey and that they too could do it too, I have all kinds going on in my head sometimes and really wish I could say something to help people, I remember not so long ago, getting ready to go shopping and I felt hot and sweaty,fat & Ugly, What ever I tried on I looked a mess in and really did hate myself, I would sit and cry and look at myself and really hate being me,It would take me ages just to get in the car because I didn't want anyone to see me because of my weight,i was so upset and at times really suicidal,I had a terrible time with anxiety. It really does upset me to see people struggling because not so long ago it was me.

 

[hopelesscase]

oh boy oh boy oh boy have your replies been reassuring i was begining to think i was turning into some closet preacher or something.

 

[iinklii]

I think it's only naturel to evangelise when you find something good. You just want to spread the word, share the joy.

I'm thinking it'll be quite hard to keep quiet eh?

 

[Caroline101061]

Its because your surgery worked for you and you want to share your story with everyone - quite common apparently! I had a similar experience with a guy in the park yesterday morning who was really struggling - Im only 3 stone lighter with a long long way to go but I want to tell people there is light at the end of the tunnel and it can be done and thus far I have had such a positive experience (seem to be lucky) that I want everyone to know!