OkieGirl
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I blame the weather - I can eat for England when it is cold! Seriously, you are starting to process some very difficult emotions and it is natural to go to what you normally do for comfort. Are you getting any psychological support to work through things? I too have been struggling recently as life has been somewhat challenging! I have learnt not to beat myself up and to learn from each experience. It takes time though to get our heads around thinking about food differently. It is hard and it takes time to learn new habits and new ways of reacting. Be kind to yourself, and also take some time for some fun.
In one of your earlier posts you blamed everything on yourself. I used to do that until a therapist gave me a book to read - 'A Hundred Years of Psychotherapy and the World is Getting Worse' by James Hillman and Michael Ventura. It opened my eyes to the fact that no one is an island and that society and people are interconnected and therefore we are all in varying degrees depending on the hand that life has dealt us, a product of our life's experiences. We all have shadow sides and no one is all good or all bad. We can take responsibility for our own choices but it isn't good to take on responsibility for things that others have done. x
@SAM55 I'm not having any counselling at the moment, but I think it would be very good for me in the long run. I must remember that I'm trying to change a lifetime of bad habits and that it's not going to happen immediately. It's a case of being really bad about trying to run before I can walk. At the very least I think that just being more aware of what I'm doing rather than just mindlessly heading into the kitchen and shoveling in the food is at least a step in the right direction.
I think I'll find that book and give it a read. I'm terribly hard on myself and am often my own worst critic and for some reason it does seem that I am far too willing to take the responsibility for the actions of others. Thank you for your reply and I totally agree with what Bling said!