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[Marie1986]

Wow! Really impressed with you TB! *big thumbs up*

Well guys and gals..

Spoke to my GP, i went in there feeling crap, only to come out feeling even more crap..

He basically told me how i should be lucky to have had this Operation as there are clearly better things to spend the money on.. and in this financial times of strain that he doubts that i will be able to have corrective surgery (for my excess skin)..

So yeah.. I feel like ive hit my goal on a promise and for him to say that to me, makes me feel like finished the race and havent got a medal..

Never once did he make an acknowledgement to my weight, to be honest.. he was half hearted throughout the whole appointment..

So im making another to see the Dr/partner of the surgery, whom referred me for the operation in the first place and see whether she can shed some light on the subjects..

No matter how many times people say i look ''well''.. I dont feel it..

Well i hope your all having a fabulous week and are looking forward to the weekend.. Ive been keeping myself busy, trying to take my mind off things..

Well my next appointment at Walsall Manor, is on the 9th Sept.. We'll see what they have to say then..

Hugs and Loves.. Marie x

 

[tranquil_butterfly]

Marie I think Walsall can refer you for plastics so don't give up.

You have done really well and you must not get disheartened by the GP you saw who needs to go back to school and learn about patient care! How insensitive. That really made me angry.

Keep your chin up.

tranquil x

 

[tranquil_butterfly]

Evening all

Not been posting much as I have been feeling really poorly and not coping with food not staying down. Had a sick free day today so keeping my fingers crossed. Booked the flights today so Jamaica here we come.

I am not buying any clothing for this holiday - I don't care if I look like some bag lady. I have tee shirts, shorts and skirts. I will take a belt and pins to keep anything I need up! Luckily the nearest resort to where my parents live is very laid back so I don't need to worry about dressing up. I doubt if I would manage eating out but if we do then the dress I intend to dig out and hope will fit by the time I get to November, will do.

People are starting to remark at work how "well" I am looking. Ming even said to me I was looking well and had lost a lot of weight. I am sure its not weight but my body shape that is changing and that is down to being more active. Just being able to get around normally and my clothes fitting better is a blessing to me. I am never going to be a size 10 - I will be lucky if I end up at 18 as my boobs are so huge and without surgery that is not going to change.

I am enjoying my bike although I have not been able to get out at all since Monday. Hoping to get out in the morning - may even try 3 times around the park. This time last year if anyone had told me I would be riding a bike again I would have collapsed in a heap

I just want to get healthy and stay healthy - that will be more than enough for me.

tranquil x

 

[Marie1986]

Marie I think Walsall can refer you for plastics so don't give up.

You have done really well and you must not get disheartened by the GP you saw who needs to go back to school and learn about patient care! How insensitive. That really made me angry.

Keep your chin up.

tranquil x

I know.. he got me really angry.. Im still fuming now.. Just cant wait to see someone who knows what they are talking about..

They exist right?

Fabulous news about your non sickness and your flights.. and im sure your looking every inch of fabulous..

Take Care.

Marie x

 

[Mio]

Feeling a bit low about my upcoming op, no idea why! Think I'm just really nervous about the whole thing, I've rarely been in hospitals before and only had a general anesthetic once which was a horrible experience and I'm just working myself up about it :-(

Dunno why I'm posting really, just wanted a bit of encouragement I think!

 

[BlueDiamond]

 

[BlueDiamond]

Feeling a bit low about my upcoming op, no idea why! Think I'm just really nervous about the whole thing, I've rarely been in hospitals before and only had a general anesthetic once which was a horrible experience and I'm just working myself up about it :-(

Dunno why I'm posting really, just wanted a bit of encouragement I think!

Try not to worry hun everyone has been in ur shoes, ur be in good hands just trust ur team and let them do their magic xxx

 

[Mio]

I'm not very good at relinquishing control - I'm usually the one telling people what to do, not taking orders *lol*

I can't watch anything on TV to do with hospitals or doctors now, even Casualty! Which is amusing cos one of my best friends is a doctor and we're going out for his birthday on Satuday Going to see the Priscilla stage show instead of our planned dinner-and-drinks.

 

[BlueDiamond]

I'm not very good at relinquishing control - I'm usually the one telling people what to do, not taking orders *lol*

I can't watch anything on TV to do with hospitals or doctors now, even Casualty! Which is amusing cos one of my best friends is a doctor and we're going out for his birthday on Satuday Going to see the Priscilla stage show instead of our planned dinner-and-drinks.

I noticed ur from London, where u having ur op & where in London ya from ( Hope ok to ask) xx

 

[Mio]

I noticed ur from London, where u having ur op & where in London ya from ( Hope ok to ask) xx

Heh - no worries! Getting banded on 13 September at the Whittington under Dr Sufi, but I live in Stoke Newington. I understand he's one of the best people to be with, so I'm really lucky

 

[tranquil_butterfly]

Hello all. Hope everyone is well. I am still feeling out of sorts and so not posting so much but I am reading. Just do not want to depress everyone. I wore trousers to work on Tuesday. I have only ever worn trousers a few times the last was probably about 15 years ago. So no one I work with now had ever seen me in them. Anyone would have thought I went in there naked given the reaction. I bought them a few month ago and they were a bit tight on the tummy so hung them up and forgot about them. I tried them on Sunday and now they are a good fit - a little baggy round the back so I thought I would be brave and wear them. Two people in my team remarked they had never seen me in trousers. Everyone else just stared. I should have felt really self conscious but it was funny really.

I think my body shape must be changing a lot because people are now coming up to me and remarking at how much weight I have lost. I know it is not pounds so it must be the exercise toning me up. It is encouraging and it has made me relax a bit more about things which is helping with keeping things down. The little experiment I have been trying is helping. I cut my food up into very tiny pieces before I eat. I am then chewing things to death before swallowing. I am also putting my fork down between mouthfuls. I have a break after every 5 minutes and if I feel I want a bit more I carry on. I was not getting any warning before I was too full until it stuck and had to come up. Now I am getting a better feel for it I stop now before it is too late. I like my food to be hot so now I am having to adjust to it being not so hot as I eat because it is taking a lot longer. I will keep trying this and see how it goes.

I am still struggling with anything solid for breakfast and lunch at work is difficult but have mangaged to eat salad with tuna mayo and salad with crab sticks so far this week.

My tickets for the holiday came yesterday so I am officially on holiday countdown

Have to see the doc tonight about my BP. It has been really high so I am resigned to having to go back on the meds I was taken off earlier in the year. Suppose it is bettwer to be safe than risk a stroke etc.

Working at home today so better clock in

Have a blessed day all.

tranquil x

 

[Macy moo moo]

Hi hon
Sorry you're feeling out if sorts. Sending big hugs. Nice story about the trousers tho! ;-)
hope you are feeling more like your normal self soon. Take care, Sarah xx

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[BlueDiamond]

 

[tranquil_butterfly]

Evening Julie and evening all. Ming is not leaving. I am devestated. So I will be removing the ticker and resigning myself to living hell at work.

Well I heard from the doc and I am going back on more BP meds. I feel ok about it because something needs to be done. I take BP readings every morning and the one this morning was scary so it needs to be controlled and it has given me the impetus to concentrate on me and get things sorted. I will go and have my holiday and away from all the stress of things I will take time to think about the future. It will make me focus on things - like not having a job that is so high in terms of stress that it will finish me off. Having wls and a second chance makes you face up to some realities as to why you needed it in the first place and I am at that point now.

This is not a negative - it is positive - it is about taking control of your own destiny - we only get one life.

tranquil x

 

[Katkit1]

Hi tranquil - just been catching up with all the posts!

You have done really well with all your cycling, I guess all that excercise is really shaping you up, thats why everyone at you work has noticed! Well done for walking home also, especially as there were riots on at the time....Brave Lady!

Bad news about Ming......after all the expectation, stress and worry.....and she`ll still be there to plague you. You most definately need a holiday. When is it you take off?

Like you I have had trouble keeping food down and nothing much seems to suit me. I also have tried eating smaller bites and chewing like no tomorrow....but it has`nt helped much. My dietician made me an appointment to have a bit taken out of the band to help......but I had to cancel the appointment as I had an accident and can barely move.
I have been off work for the past two weeks and not going out is driving me round the bend!

Hope everyone is keeping well.....have to go now before my back gives in. Night night all xx








Love Kat x

 

[tranquil_butterfly]

Hi tranquil - just been catching up with all the posts!

You have done really well with all your cycling, I guess all that excercise is really shaping you up, thats why everyone at you work has noticed! Well done for walking home also, especially as there were riots on at the time....Brave Lady!

Bad news about Ming......after all the expectation, stress and worry.....and she`ll still be there to plague you. You most definately need a holiday. When is it you take off?

Like you I have had trouble keeping food down and nothing much seems to suit me. I also have tried eating smaller bites and chewing like no tomorrow....but it has`nt helped much. My dietician made me an appointment to have a bit taken out of the band to help......but I had to cancel the appointment as I had an accident and can barely move.
I have been off work for the past two weeks and not going out is driving me round the bend!

Hope everyone is keeping well.....have to go now before my back gives in. Night night all xx







Love Kat x

Hi Kat. Lovely to see you hear again. So sorry about you accident. I hope you make a full recovery soon. If they think you need a defill then I hope that you can get there so it can be done as soon as possible.

Ming now staying is a devastating blow. The stress of everything has just been too much. I picked up the prescription for the additional BP meds yesterday so I am now back on the toxic combination which I have worked so hard to get off. I recognised there was no choice - my BP is escalating and I have been and still am sufering with terrible headaches as a result.

My holiday will make all the difference if Ming doesn't kill me off before I get there - I fly on 5 November


Not keeping food down is no fun - I never expected to encounter this but it comes with having good restriction and making the adjustments that brings.

Well this evening will be a test for me. It is my birthday today and I am down in London staying with Mr TB's mom. We are going out to a fish restaurant not far from here. Mr TB's mom kindly got a copy of the menu to see if I would be able to eat there which was very thoughtful of her. I just hope the band is not too tight and I can relax and enjoy it. There are lots of things on there that I think I will be ok with, and they do salad too. I am just scared of having an episode in there. I didn't have much food wise yesterday as it took us over 4 hours to get here due to torrential rain and delays on the motorway. Mr TB's mom made scampi and salad for me. I was worried about the breadcrumb coating but I took my time with it and the salad and chewed everything well and it was fine. It was a small portion and it kept me full for the evening. So I need to keep experimenting with portion sizes and textures of food.

Have a blessed day all.

tranquil x

 

[mellyb28]

Happy Birthday TB! Have a lovely day and enjoy your meal out x

 

[Macy moo moo]

Happy Birthday TB
xXx

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[MrsPill]

TB- I hope your meal was good and you managed to enjoy it. I know you've said before that eating out is a bit freaky for you as it is for a lot of us, but its a social thing and we need to learn to cope with it I guess. I went out with my work the other day for something to eat and I couldn't relax and didn't really enjoy it very much but I'm not giving up. I'm off to my sisters today for Sunday lunch- hope its easier there.I have to conciously say to myself before I start eating " eat slowly"!! Otherwise I shovel it in and before I know it, its coming back up again haha. Its not quite as scary as I thought it'd be though- just a bit unpleasant.

Anyway, have a nice Sunday everyone. We're into a new weight loss week again xx

 

[tranquil_butterfly]

Thank you all for the birthday wishes - I had a lovely day. The meal out was fine. I had fish and salad. I ate slowly and it stayed down. I really think that if I think about it too much it just makes it worse so I need to relax more.

tranquil x