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My Gastric Bypass Journey -Onwards and Upwards-Well this is a start
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Perissa
New Member
I've just read this entire thread!
I have got funding for surgery and thought I was going to St Richards but turns out I'm not and I'm being referred to Spire in Southampton. So we have something in common.
Not only that but both have less then acceptable parents. I despise my parents and will have nothing to do with them. It was the best decision I ever made.
Just wanted to say Hi and say YOU ARE AMAZING!
I have got funding for surgery and thought I was going to St Richards but turns out I'm not and I'm being referred to Spire in Southampton. So we have something in common.
Not only that but both have less then acceptable parents. I despise my parents and will have nothing to do with them. It was the best decision I ever made.
Just wanted to say Hi and say YOU ARE AMAZING!
mandy-1975
Regular Member
hi boss..........
Not havign a good day at all, really need to go home to bed right now!!!!!!!!!
Hows You.......
Not havign a good day at all, really need to go home to bed right now!!!!!!!!!
Hows You.......
mandy-1975
Regular Member
Hi Perissa..........
I live in winchester, so when you get yours, I ll come see you!!!LOL........... my email is [email protected] email or msn me anytime..........
Im here for you
mandy-1975
Regular Member
Hi Everyone..........
Thank you for all your support and wishes, it has meant alot...... I am on a real downward spiral at moment, and finding it very hard to stay focused...... which is why I havent commented on much!!!!! but thank you all so much, it does mean alot to know someone cares...
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Thank you for all your support and wishes, it has meant alot...... I am on a real downward spiral at moment, and finding it very hard to stay focused...... which is why I havent commented on much!!!!! but thank you all so much, it does mean alot to know someone cares...
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mandy-1975
Regular Member
thanks guys, i know what you are saying, but my head aint getting round it....... everything is very very black at moment...... there aint no light!!!!! wish the tears would stop too.....
mandy-1975
Regular Member
Thank You for all your Support Sorry for being so Low
Hello Guys and Girls
Just wanted to say a huge Thank you to you all for your support and nice comments left!!!!:thankyou::thankyou: it has meant so much to me!!!!!
I will give you all a brief rundown on what has got me like this!
For those of you that have read my whole thread you will all understand about my past and issues with family and the one person who i thought was a friend!!!!!
Well I have been feeling low for a while, I felt that with restarting counselling soon I would be ok....
However, first day back at school last week and the suposed friend has left the school now and had caused loads of problems being saying lots of nasty things (too much to go into detail) which meant no-one would talk to me.... i have since spoke to alot of the people and things seem to off got sorted and people have relised and said sorry for believeing the lies...
But you know what playground gossip is like, unfortunately it takes me right back to being at school at 13 and getting bullied for having a child at 13...
Thankfully the teachers have been fantastic and very supportive.....
But it has left me completely devasted, and an emotional wreck!!!!!:cry::cry::cry::cry::cry::raincloud:
I went to my doctor yesterday and he has changed my anti depressents and upped my sleeping pills, and is supporting me...... he thinks that with the bypass and the huge changes that comes with that and the problems with my past and then this final blow... it has come to much for my mind......
See I think irrational, sort of mental torture myself that i am horrible and no -one like me, i know it sounds daft but i can't help it.........
I just wanted to let you know what was going on and how things were, and to say a huge thank you to those of you that have been there for me....
THANK YOUxxxxxxxxxxxx
Hello Guys and Girls
Just wanted to say a huge Thank you to you all for your support and nice comments left!!!!:thankyou::thankyou: it has meant so much to me!!!!!
I will give you all a brief rundown on what has got me like this!
For those of you that have read my whole thread you will all understand about my past and issues with family and the one person who i thought was a friend!!!!!
Well I have been feeling low for a while, I felt that with restarting counselling soon I would be ok....
However, first day back at school last week and the suposed friend has left the school now and had caused loads of problems being saying lots of nasty things (too much to go into detail) which meant no-one would talk to me.... i have since spoke to alot of the people and things seem to off got sorted and people have relised and said sorry for believeing the lies...
But you know what playground gossip is like, unfortunately it takes me right back to being at school at 13 and getting bullied for having a child at 13...
Thankfully the teachers have been fantastic and very supportive.....
But it has left me completely devasted, and an emotional wreck!!!!!:cry::cry::cry::cry::cry::raincloud:
I went to my doctor yesterday and he has changed my anti depressents and upped my sleeping pills, and is supporting me...... he thinks that with the bypass and the huge changes that comes with that and the problems with my past and then this final blow... it has come to much for my mind......
See I think irrational, sort of mental torture myself that i am horrible and no -one like me, i know it sounds daft but i can't help it.........
I just wanted to let you know what was going on and how things were, and to say a huge thank you to those of you that have been there for me....
THANK YOUxxxxxxxxxxxx
Thaialina
New Member
Hi Mandy,
Thanks for the explanation and email. It's really annoying that some people just don't grow up and treat others in the way that you've been treated. Although it gets you down it really isn't a reflection of the kind of person you are you know. I'm glad that you have your GP's support, but you have all of us supporting you too.
You are a lovely person and have a beautiful husband and son who also love you to bits. It's true that the surgery will have an effect on you and will highlight the issues that you have regarding the past and that so called friend of yours. What you need to do is make sure that you remember what's important to you in your life. Sod everyone else who may put you down, listen to the people that you know who value you and love you for who you are. There will always be people who like playing on our weaknesses, but there are always people who counteract that and make our lives worth living. Try to focus on the goodness in yourself and the people around you and be as positive as you can be.
You know I'm here to support you 100% and I'm sure that I'm not the only one. Have another look at the list that you wrote for me and try to change one little thing now, no matter how small it may be. I know you want to make changes in your life, so now is the best time to get started. Once you start you will bee motivated to do more because you will look at things from a new perspective. YOU CAN DO THIS MANDY SO GO FOR IT!!! YIPEE!
Thanks for the explanation and email. It's really annoying that some people just don't grow up and treat others in the way that you've been treated. Although it gets you down it really isn't a reflection of the kind of person you are you know. I'm glad that you have your GP's support, but you have all of us supporting you too.
You are a lovely person and have a beautiful husband and son who also love you to bits. It's true that the surgery will have an effect on you and will highlight the issues that you have regarding the past and that so called friend of yours. What you need to do is make sure that you remember what's important to you in your life. Sod everyone else who may put you down, listen to the people that you know who value you and love you for who you are. There will always be people who like playing on our weaknesses, but there are always people who counteract that and make our lives worth living. Try to focus on the goodness in yourself and the people around you and be as positive as you can be.
You know I'm here to support you 100% and I'm sure that I'm not the only one. Have another look at the list that you wrote for me and try to change one little thing now, no matter how small it may be. I know you want to make changes in your life, so now is the best time to get started. Once you start you will bee motivated to do more because you will look at things from a new perspective. YOU CAN DO THIS MANDY SO GO FOR IT!!! YIPEE!
charliegirl
New Member
Hi Mandy I know exactly how you feel as I felt it myself last year at work, the team I was working quite happily in suddenly got a new girl in it and one by one they froze me out to the point I would walk in for a ten hour shift and noone said anything. I had a cancer scare and had to have a little operation and when I returned only the trouble maker asked how I was but walked off before I could answer which made me feel humilated. I too thought it was because I am a bad person and it was my fault. I was lucky to have a very very supportive boss and he let me go and off load and even just cry in his office and he was my rock. I moved teams last october and was so pleased to be out of the old one, but the trouble maker is a smoker and when they go to smoke they ***** and she asked a good few of my new team if I had *****ed about them. They had to say no because I hadn't. After a few months I felt the old feeling creeping back in and was ready to throw the towel in when an off the cuff comment by one of the girls about her friend i.e. I know you and ??? have had a run in but thats nothing to do with me etc etc. The old me would never of questioned what she meant but I asked her nicely what she meant "run in" she had presumed I had had a row with her friend when she was not there as there was an atmosphere. I told her that atmosphere was coming from her friend and not me. We had a big long chat and she apologised for presuming and said she had no idea what their behaviour would seem like to me. Things have greatly improved and we are all on an even footing as she spread the word. You feel lousy now but honestly it will pass, you have the support of your GP, your husband and us lot on here, I only had my boss and he has now moved on 
I use this site to offload at times and people are always there for me....(((Hugs)))..hope this helps and sorry if its a bit garbled just up off a late shift....Linda x
I use this site to offload at times and people are always there for me....(((Hugs)))..hope this helps and sorry if its a bit garbled just up off a late shift....Linda x
