Rude people or so called friends!!!

[goofy07]

I have just been out with friends work colleagues for a quick drink. I have known these people for a long time and thought they were friends.

when I left someone said something about my fat backside and another said well she hadn't seen that for years.

Why do they think they have the right to insult another human and supposedly friend.

I have to work with these people tomorrow and am currently sitting crying. I thought it would be safe to go to a colleagues house for a drink and avoid those staring eyes and comments about the fat person. I hardly go put for that reason so thought I would be among friends and safe.OBVIOUSLY NOT

I have now had a rant and will try to put it to the back of my mind and hopefully it won't be too bad tomorrow.

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[BEXS99]

Oh these people are so sad, don't let them upset u hun, rise above them as they narrow minded evil people! Hugs xxx

 

[pandora]

How awful for you , what gives people the right to insult others .
Well you can & are doing something about your weight , sadly they will always be nasty people , so you are the winner .
Go to work , do your job with professionalism & let them wonder why your attitude to them has changed
Head up hunni xx

 

[Miss DeeDee]

People like that bring out the worst in me, i want to smack them, who do they think they are GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

they are not worthy of your tears lovely - as cheryl said they will always be nasty - not worth it
xxx

 

[goofy07]

thank you to all of you

I know I have to rise above it but it still hurts.

tomorrow's another day and will just get on with my job and rise above it

thank you I can always rely on this site for support you are all stars xxx

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[Sharonimo]

I have to work with these people tomorrow and am currently sitting crying.

TOMORROW IN THE OFFICE:

"Thanks for your comments about my backside last night. Did you know I am [having weight loss surgery] / [on a medically monitored low calorie diet] ....? At least I have the opportunity to lose my fat ass, shame you cannot improve your IQ and your dumb-ass ugly personality. Such a pity."

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[Raynebubble]

Hun these people are just shallow and they are just trying to hide there own insecurities by insulting another person.. you are better than them remember that... rise above it and love the person you are now and the person you want to become... big hugs hun xxx

 

[helekisapa]

I know how you fell I rarely go out but when I do I have it from young kids and young men about both my size and breasts I have 2 sayings now.
Saying 1 about my breast size " your just jealous coz I have bigger breasts than your girlfiends".
Saying 2 I can always lose the weight but you will always be ugly

 

[Caren]

awww goofy bless ya heart i dont go out anymore either, just to work and bingo with my mum. Your fat ass aint as big as her fat mouth thats for sure. Its so easy to give you advice but i cant coz i'd be exactly the same as you. Hope you're feeling better now xxx

 

[Yvessa]

Personally I would be upfront and ask what they said. Explain what you overheard and tell them it was hurtful and you expected more from them. I know that's very easy to say and hard to do, but unless we educate people, they will never learn. And quite frankly, we deserve for them to learn.

And yes, I have done this before myself. But only had to with family, anyone else I've told has been uber supportive so I have not had to deal with a lot of negativity.

 

[Hollyhunny]

I think Yvessa is right,
you need to tell them the truth,
how your feelings are hurt.
If you don't tell them, they will keep doing the same stupid thing. Idiots do not realize they are idiots!

 

[pandora]

I agree with you in theory Holly , but I personally wouldn't have the confidence to do so

 

[goofy07]

yes I have not got the confidence to tackle the person in question as she is quite a forceful person so my solution just ignore it

but I have a very good memory and my time will come I am sure

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[Caren]

yes I have not got the confidence to tackle the person in question as she is quite a forceful person so my solution just ignore it

but I have a very good memory and my time will come I am sure

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it sure will honey, the lord pays debts without money xxx

 

[Tray3004]

Aw wot a bunch of biatches ignore them hun this time next yr ull be slim n they will still be cold hearted n callas x

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[Magsy]

What comes around goes around and just you wait hun their time will come. You are obviously a lovely person and you would not be as rude as them. Personally i am the kind of person that would say spmething, i would do it nicely in front of other people. Like ( I am sure that you felt i was out of earshot when you made such an unkind comment but i just wanted to let you know how hurt i am and i thought you were a nicer person but obviously i was wrong) and walk away with my head high, (think what a biatch). Hope your feeling better hun. xx

 

[fizzwoods]

yes I have not got the confidence to tackle the person in question as she is quite a forceful person so my solution just ignore it

but I have a very good memory and my time will come I am sure

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What goes around, comes around..... I having same sort of thing, I haven't heard them talking but I know that they are doing it about me when I am not there. :vibes::vibes::vibes::vibes:
I have to be careful what I say at work as its in a police station and everything is recorded and all has to be 'politically correct', I know if I confronted people, I would get on a rant and prob end up in trouble myself..

My advise, stuff em! Thats what I am doing and come 12 weeks time when I am ready to return to work (have my op in 6 weeks) I will be the one smiling and happy to see them struggling to shift the christmas pounds...

 

[angiemason]

i hope you are ok and i would love to say tell them to get lost or grow up but i would be exactly the same as you and have been before now but i really hope you don't let it get to you too much and try to keep thinking ahead when youve had your op and then revenge will be sweet and there's nothing mrs motormouth will be able to do to stop you feeling good take care xx

 

[Yvessa]

Thing is, a bully is a bully. Even if we do lose the weight, the person who chose to be a bully will find another way to poke at us. And because of who we are and how we are it will hurt. So I would still say something. Because if you don't, you are letting them carry on this playground bullying rubbish that they have gotten away with the rest of their lives. But I do understand that you feel unable to do it. Maybe an email?

 

[Cicca]

I'd say nothing, things have a way of coming back and biting people on the bottom. When you, the better person lose weight and you will, they will remember their words - you can enjoy every moment of next year if you go to 2012 Xmas party!

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