So much *****ing ?!

[tesmaralda]

Ok as as forum moderator everyone is entitled to their opinion and their say, but please can we do it a sensible and calm way. everything that is posted in a forum is 2d and is said without the emotion that is behind it being seen. If people do find threads or pots upsetting or offensive please use the report button. It is impossible for the moderator to read through so we do not always see all posts.

If you do have issues with individual members then please air them in private as it can appear that people are ganging up on others and making emotions that are already running high even worse (by the way I am not saying that is what is happening before you all shoot me down in flames).

I don't want to lock and delete this thread so please can we leave this alone. Sometimes people use are forum as a way of writing down our thoughts as way of making sense of them and sometimes comments can get in the way of those logical thoughts so please try and see it from all sides before you judge people.

Hoping peace and tranquillity will be restored as soon as possible.

 

[tesmaralda]

No it's fine hun I didn't take it personally LOL My tongue was firmly planted in my cheek

However I am really annoyed that there have been interesting threads recently that I've missed, I get a tad bored of the "is it OK to eat crisps at week one if it's a flavour that I don't normally like" LOL or "what have you eaten today? I ate half a peeled grape and didn't feel any restriction have I broken my pouch?" stuff LOL In future if there is something I should see can someone please send me an email to my Blackberry LOL

As for nasty PMs well I've had lots as you'd expect, ranging from "Everyone says you're just a knob" to "I hope your cancer kills you quickly" but it's just water of a duck's back to me. I never give anyone I have never met (Nor most people that I have LOL) the power to effect the way I feel. This is a great resource if you use it correctly and take the good advice from those who know what they are talking about because they've lived it, the drama and other tripe is just froth and wind to be honest

Good to see you back Karlos and that its not you at the heart of things I was getting a bit bored of it lol. Nice to see you x x x x

 

[lamornamiss]

No it's fine hun I didn't take it personally LOL My tongue was firmly planted in my cheek

However I am really annoyed that there have been interesting threads recently that I've missed, I get a tad bored of the "is it OK to eat crisps at week one if it's a flavour that I don't normally like" LOL or "what have you eaten today? I ate half a peeled grape and didn't feel any restriction have I broken my pouch?" stuff LOL In future if there is something I should see can someone please send me an email to my Blackberry LOL

As for nasty PMs well I've had lots as you'd expect, ranging from "Everyone says you're just a knob" to "I hope your cancer kills you quickly" but it's just water of a duck's back to me. I never give anyone I have never met (Nor most people that I have LOL) the power to effect the way I feel. This is a great resource if you use it correctly and take the good advice from those who know what they are talking about because they've lived it, the drama and other tripe is just froth and wind to be honest

Duly noted and I will facebook you if I think we need you to tell us how it is

 

[lamornamiss]

Good to see you back Karlos and that its not you at the heart of things I was getting a bit bored of it lol. Nice to see you x x x x

Yes its nice to see that Karl isn't at the centre for a change

 

[Karlos]

Yes its nice to see that Karl isn't at the centre for a change

Give a dog a bad name or what

It's never me LOL what happens is that I post sound reasonable and sage advice with only the best interests of the one week out pizza eater in mind, and the shreddies knitters, and the professional offendees all pile in with an axe to grind LOL :cry::cry: making me out like some kind of WLS anti Christ, makes me cry into my glass of freshly squeezed kitten juice it does

 

[Miss Tickle]

Give a dog a bad name or what

It's never me LOL what happens is that I post sound reasonable and sage advice with only the best interests of the one week out pizza eater in mind, and the shreddies knitters, and the professional offendees all pile in with an axe to grind LOL :cry::cry: making me out like some kind of WLS anti Christ, makes me cry into my glass of freshly squeezed kitten juice it does

PMSL- you are SO naughty Karl.

 

[Sharonimo]

I chose to ignore one of the offending women a while ago after she replied to one of my threads in a patronising and sarcastic manner, but then got a private message from her hassling me even more!

Absolutely not me (just for clarification -- I am sure Snagglepuss would also confirm this).

I don't think I have ever sent fellow forum members abusive Private Messages.

It is, however, true that I have asked 3 particular members to respectfully not comment on any of my own (personal) threads in future, as I had been offended by a number of inter-related comments.

(And have said that out of mutual respect, having had a disagreement, I would likewise stay away from their own personal threads.)

Some of you might say "well that's not democratic, that's not allowing for open debate between all forum members" -- who in their right mind would want negative comments on their own personal threads, when certain people have already proved a regular pattern for replying in a way which appears to be negative / snide / etc ???

This would not apply (say for instance) if I was posting just general weight loss discussion news / articles about bariatric surgery etc.

But I have also apologised personally to Lamornamiss for having blown my gasket a few days ago in a way that appeared I was pinpointing Lamornamiss in particular -- and it was just unfortunate after a lot of separate events involving the other people which had collided on one day.
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[Sharonimo]

recently I feel as though the sly comments and the not so sneaky digs aren't worth coming on here for or posting

Unfortunately I recently felt that two particular members (who most of you like and find to be friendly and supportive) made comments that I personally could only interpret as negative and snide (to me).

 

[OOnion]

Nope I've just been really busy and only just seen this tread

Now I've been really quiet lately as I've been really busy with work and trying to stay alive so I'm sure this thread isn't about me Is it?

However I guess I would be guilty of being one of the "know it all's" who you and others are alluding to, who posts patronising comments that often seem harsh. I frankly couldn't care less what anyone thinks about my posts and anyone who thinks I'm a keyboard warrior who would never say the things I say to someones face, really doesn't know me at all I am a firm believer in telling it like it is without the kittens and rainbows approach and if people don't like what I say then use the ignore function.

If you want advice from those who have made this a success then take the rough with the smooth, they post years after they have reached goal because they care about your ultimate success, if you want me to tell you that its OK to drink booze two weeks out or eat crap at a month out then sorry but that particular shop is closed for business, there are plenty of sycophantic members here who post absolute drivel because they know no better and think that telling you everything will be OK is the best for you, it isn't but I'm sure they will satisfy your bad choice approval needs if you let them

No it's not you...next contender!! I think we come from similar pods - I can do a bit of fluffy for very short moments in time, but like to call a spade a spade (or a fork if I'm feeling difficult that day).

I can only speak for myself, but am sure others would echo my views - I respect and value your opinions so much as I can see what a success you have become and that's the type of person I want to learn from...find your advice easy to understand and I love your direct no nonsense approach!
xx

 

[Sharonimo]

I think it's unfair that some people feel bypassers are taking over the forums.

It is absolutely true that on almost all weight loss and bariatric support forums, bypassers will always be the majority and outnumber the other members and all other types of surgery.

However, I have found a few (very few) places online where I can communicate with fellow sleevers:

1. One is a US sleeve forum where 90% of participants are American (this is only useful up to a point, because all the info about food and meds never relate to UK products).

2. A specialist Facebook group for UK Sleevers only.

Unfortunately recently a few bypassers infiltrated that FB group (including one from here).

There are so many places and groups online where bypassers can share information and be the majority crowd, to find that a few were then infiltrating a specialist sleevers only group was quite irritating.

It was a combination of these things (and a number of posts which I took personally negatively) which caused me to blow my gasket.

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Some of you might say "well why not just post there then?" but FB behaves quite differently to a forum -- it is a much more conversational medium (what did you eat today? here's a photo of my meal / etc) and has very fast, quick moving convo's ...... it is not possible to keep a diary thread or any permanent threads that you can keep going back to within FB.

 

[OOnion]

Hiya hun.... i agree with you.... i havnt really been on or posted much as i had posted in a thread and then got a nasty pm on another site saying i was out of order for making a suggestion... i wouldnt mind if i had been out of order but all i said was..... why dont you try having toasted bread!!
anyway i hope you are all ok and doing well... hi to all the new peeps here and hope your weight loss journey is a sucessfull as mine so far x

Ohhh and I thought you had gone quiet as you been busy with a secret admirer?! Have noticed you lack of presence and missed you! Drymouth spray queen! x

 

[OOnion]

What was playground bullying? This thread was started over a argument yesterday. Not the weekend threads that got out of hand.

Fuffs I did not start this thread directed at anyone or any particular thread but just to a general vib I had picked up on over the last few visits to the site. Reading some threads with similar levels of tension just made me want to fill the room with some love and bring it back to ground! xx

 

[Sharonimo]

If you do have issues with individual members then please air them in private as it can appear that people are ganging up on others and making emotions that are already running high even worse.

I had tried initially to do this after the first disagreements last weekend.

I don't want to lock and delete this thread so please can we leave this alone.

Apologies I only noticed this response from you Tesmaralda after I had taken the time to compose several responses to a few comments that appeared to have been levelled in my direction.

 

[emma-louise]

Well I think all this bickering is boring,clearly some people just need to get a life!

 

[OOnion]

Well Thanks Ladies and Gents, I think this has sparked some good comments and has woken Karlos and Rayne up so, clearly some good has come... and with that I would say
Amen to all, The End
xx

 

[emma-louise]

Well Thanks Ladies and Gents, I think this has sparked some good comments and has woken Karlos and Rayne up so, clearly some good has come... and with that I would say
Amen to all, The End
xx

Here here...lol

 

[angeeb]

Well Thanks Ladies and Gents, I think this has sparked some good comments and has woken Karlos and Rayne up so, clearly some good has come... and with that I would say
Amen to all, The End
xx

eeeh....we all like a bit of drama really

 

[mayamoo]

Gobsmacked never noticed any nastiness only support and sound advice, hope there is much more of it to come x

 

[Caren]

Don't be upset, Sophie ... you are none of those things & those of us who have taken the time to get to know you, are fully aware that your motivations were to help not bully mwah xxx

aint that the truth!
I have found Fuffs and Yvessa two of the most friendly and helpful people on here, and as a prospective sleever, ive never ever felt intimidated or bullied by any bypasser. Of course there are a lot of them, its the most popular op. I love you girls and really hope that this hasnt made you leave or clam up xxx

 

[OOnion]

Clam up Caren ?...who said anything about having a smear?! x