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Theres something i cant quite figure out...

JED

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There are some lovely lovely people on the site but so many myself included seem to be single or in trouble relationship wise surely it cant be down to being overweight can it ?
 
Bet it is mostly, Jed ... being overweight leads to low esteem & poor relationship choices. Not a problem you will have in 2012, my love. Hope you find your soul mate very soon, mwah xxx :):)
 
Size n shape never ever bothered me twink its always been about the person inside thats the important thing and as for meeting someone ive decided if it happens it happens ive been on me own for so long now it just seems this is how its meant to be lol
 
I've been with my husband for 18 years - married for 10 of them and thankfully we're going through a good patch at the moment (fingers crossed). But my weight is our biggest issue as he complains about my lack of self-confidence and lack of sex drive. I hope this will improve after surgery as I know how much he loves me even though I push him away - I desperately want to feel sexy again and to enjoy life to the full just like I did when we first met.

Sadly the way we feel about ourselves has an impact on our relationships even if our partner isn't bothered by our weight. Let's hope surgery can make us feel good about ourselves again and bring new life to old relationships or bring new relationships to our lives x
 
I'm not in a relationship as I feel that I dont like myself, so why would anyone else???
I hope to find my mojo in 2012 & maybe go on a date or 2 :)
xx

I was originally single/slim and left marriage as it was unhappy then he decided to beat me up, bless him! Bleurrggghhh! I got fat after :( xxx
 
Size n shape never ever bothered me twink its always been about the person inside thats the important thing and as for meeting someone ive decided if it happens it happens ive been on me own for so long now it just seems this is how its meant to be lol

You are a lovely man Jed & there is someone out there for you. I really hope you find her soon & have a great life together, but she will not find you in your living room so try to go out more anywhere that people mingle. My friend met her husband in the local library after many years alone :) xxx
 
well yes im single and yes prob cos im fat... ive been single for five years now, i have had a few people interested but i think i have had my own insecurities and turned them back... now they all in relationships... and now ive had my op im not ashamed to admit im getting a bit lonely now and it would be nice to have a cuddle and know somebody is looking out for me x
 
Maybe your right twink after all im 44 now and before i know wots wot ill be 50 but in my heart im still 18 thats the sad thing about it and now im kinda slim too its still not given me the urge to get out there and see what i can find although ive spent 100s and 100s on clothes and stuff and i feel fantastic but im still a couch potato i just go to work n go home. Maybe i need a social life bypass lol
 
Maybe your right twink after all im 44 now and before i know wots wot ill be 50 but in my heart im still 18 thats the sad thing about it and now im kinda slim too its still not given me the urge to get out there and see what i can find although ive spent 100s and 100s on clothes and stuff and i feel fantastic but im still a couch potato i just go to work n go home. Maybe i need a social life bypass lol

I bet if you got out & about you would have to beat them off with a big stick, lol. I am not talking nightclubs or even pubs. Night school classes are a rich vein of single women trying to improve themselves & if your confidence is up to it, the gym/exercise classes. There are so many nice women looking for a good man, I bet there are several on here. Good Luck, lovely xxx :)
 
I gotta admit the thought of someone looking out for you and caring about you sounds very nice and yes rayne i agree with you about the starting to feel lonely bit
 
haha we need a wls singles night
 
haha we need a wls singles night

I was just thinking that! Maybe there could be a dating thread - everyone (looking for love) fills in a dating profile and then pms each other (or something)? I've never been on a dating sight so don't know how it works but surely those looking for someone will have a lot in common if they're both members of the wls site? X
 
Don't know about you lot but I feel I have been in a relationship with crap food, far easier to come home and have a night in front of the tv with my food, I don't have to do my hair or make-up, it does not mind if I am in PJ's, it never judges me, it is always pleased to see me and happy to do what ever I want to!!!
So for me food has been my boyfriend for the last 4 years, hence now being a fat singleton! Like you Rayne I look forward to being a slimmer, happier, complete person really soon, that will be looking for a bit of human loving for a change!!
A singles page sounds good to me!!! ha hah haa ha
 
I was just thinking that! Maybe there could be a dating thread - everyone (looking for love) fills in a dating profile and then pms each other (or something)? I've never been on a dating sight so don't know how it works but surely those looking for someone will have a lot in common if they're both members of the wls site? X

There is already a section on here called Flirt Zone ... check it out. I haven't but can't hurt can it as it is a private forum :):) xxx
 
Being married 26 years has its down side as well, im very confident when out with hubby and its rare i go out without him to be honest but on the occasions i do i feel very nervous and want to hide in corners and fall down a hole.
Even going out shopping is making me better and i chat to people at the gym and the support group even ventured out with Cheryl a few times, hard it may be but getting out is the greatest way to meet others and build confidence baby steps to start with and im a great believer in there being someone for everyone who will love you for you and not want to change you someone who will be happy with a cuddle and back you up 100%
 
I too am a fat singleton , have been for 3.5 yrs now.
Strangely it was after I lost weight & got to a size 14/16 that I kicked my hubby out .
Like someone else said , if I can't like my why should I expect someone else to ??
I'd like the company of someone else , just not the intimacy , if you know what I mean .
 
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