Theres something i cant quite figure out...

[Newmelani]

I am also single and can understand where you all are coming from. I would love a singles thing, but unfortunately it seems I'm the only one not in the UK..... I have gotten to where I don't want to go out anymore. I hate trying to find something to wear! And if I do go out, I always feel uncomfortable because everyone is smaller than me, I'm invisible, and I end up having no fun anyway. I very much look forward to finding out what it's like to be "normal" size. I'm kind of glad I don't have a relationship right now so I can figure out who my new self will be before I bring someone else into my life.

 

[phatmomma]

Well said Newmelani. My aim this year is to understand my own 'worth'. Although i quite fancy doing a bit of toad kissing along the way.

My biggest issue is this. Okay i'm still (according to statistics) about 3 stone overweight but i am in a size 16 (sometimes a 14) and if i say it myself when i pass a mirror i think ''damn you look hot'' but then i take my clothes off and think 'wtf'. I still don't like my naked body.

So this year i think if i can find a body i like naked n clothed then maybe i will realise i am worth more than i sell myself currently for!

We all need to love ourselves a lot more xx

 

[tranquil_butterfly]

We all need to love ourselves a lot more xx

Isn't that the key? Think about it don't we all want someone to love us for who we are no matter what size or shape we are? If someone is only going to love us if we are a size 10 or 12 then that in my book is not true love. is that person going to be there when the chips are down? Say you end up with some debilitating illness and you cannot do your own personal care anymore - is that person going to be there for you?

Loneliness is a terrible thing but don't let it blind you to a situation that can be far worse - and that is being with someone who does not really care.

For all of you looking I wish you the best of luck - I will do a Cilla and start looking for a hat

tranquil x

 

[phatmomma]

Don't be buying a hat on my account TB! If i'm ever stupid enough to want to do that again any hats brought now will be out of fashion x

 

[newcy]

Don't be buying a hat on my account TB! If i'm ever stupid enough to want to do that again any hats brought now will be out of fashion x

Don't take this wrong way as I love my husband to bits and would be devastated if my marriage ended BUT should I ever find myself single I don't think I'd be rushing into marriage for a 2nd time.

I'm very lucky in that I like being married and we have lots of fun together as a family but it's hard work - even after nearly 20 years together you still have to constantly work on your relationship. Also (no offence boys) but men tend to need quite a lot of giving from us girls and I'm not sure I could be hassled to do all that again. Plus, I don't think I could handle the whole dating thing again - I don't envy anyone trying to put themselves out there now.

Fingers crossed I never find myself in that position but good luck to all those singles looking for someone x

 

[phatmomma]

Don't take this wrong way as I love my husband to bits and would be devastated if my marriage ended BUT should I ever find myself single I don't think I'd be rushing into marriage for a 2nd time.

I'm very lucky in that I like being married and we have lots of fun together as a family but it's hard work - even after nearly 20 years together you still have to constantly work on your relationship. Also (no offence boys) but men tend to need quite a lot of giving from us girls and I'm not sure I could be hassled to do all that again. Plus, I don't think I could handle the whole dating thing again - I don't envy anyone trying to put themselves out there now.

Fingers crossed I never find myself in that position but good luck to all those singles looking for someone x

You are very lucky, i have had the 'pleasure' of two husbands... The first relationship/marriage lasted 22 years so it's not like i don't know how to put the effort in, however with all the will in the world some things just break and no amount of sticky back plaster can fix it!

There will be no third husband...