Waitibg for the sleeve

[adrienne]

As anyone else experienced negativity for their nearest snd dearest ?

Mine are telling me not to go through with I should do it on my own ?
It's making the process a lot more difficult, admittedly I have about 5/6 stone to lose so not a huge amount, but it is a lot to me and I struggle with yo yo dieting !

 

[clare-revised]

5/6 stone now...who knows where it then leads to...before you know it perhaps 7/8 then more....
It's your surgery no one else's & the responsibility of choice ultimately can only come from you.
Surgery is not a miracle, it doesn't fix a lifetime of bad habits.
In the initial stages of recovery you will be very restricted with your choices due to liquid/pureed/soft food stages, eventually you get to lead a normal life with smaller portions & a tool to help you stay there at a healthier weight.

Read as much info as you can to help with your choice, info is def without doubt the key.

You will always find support in here xx

 

[cld86]

Hi, pretty much everyone I have spoken to have said that im wrong and should do it on my own, yet these people sound very bitter whilst discussing it. Someone else I spoke to said it could be jealousy issues.. either way, we know what's best for us and thats what matters x

 

[cld86]

Plus thats why im here, to talk to other people in the same boat. No one judges us here x

 

[los in it]

I have only told 1 sister and my best mate at work and my manager
im sure my family & friends will support me
just want to get nearer the date of surgery
stops all the talking about it for months and feeling that all are watching every thing that goes in my mouth giving myself too much pressure
good luck in whatever you do
x

 

[Crystalrainbow]

Its not easy but ultimately its your call I think you know what is right for you and others should respect that and support you. I was lucky it was only hubby really to know, he came along to all my appointments so knew what it was all about...... everyone else just got told i was having it. One friend was a bit odd and made some odd comments but figured that's just jealously. Do your research, take your family along to the appointments and do what is right for you x x

 

[adrienne]

Thank you all
My partner is not supportive at all but I'm
Going ahead !

 

[WeightlossDreamer]

ultimately the decision to have surgery lies with you, you know your body and its limits. As claire said it may be 5/6 stone now but could easily creep up to 7/8. I chose only to tell me parents and closest closest friends my brother and sister dont know neither do a lot of ym other friends. I didnt want anyone elses negative opinions as above all it was my choice. Ive been very lucky in the sense that me and my husband were both banded together. I would say its your decision but they will soon change theyre negativity when your health improves. Good luck x x x

 

[valentine]

Thank you all My partner is not supportive at all but I'm Going ahead !

Good for you.... I know a couple of ladies who had surgery and hid it from their families until they had shed the excess weight.... Both go them had around the 5st mark to lose...

When their brothers etc started saying how much happier they are now they had "cracked" the dieting lark was when one of them revealed they had surgery...

I have been banded 10 years nearly and only my family know and a couple of mates.... I even had a year long relationship without the guy ever knowing....

I'm waiting for revision surgery now to bypass and the only people that know are my mum my partner and my partners family...

Hope all goes well for you cxxx

 

[WeightlossDreamer]

Can I be cheeky and ask why your having revision surgery? X

 

[valentine]

Can I be cheeky and ask why your having revision surgery? X

My band has slipped and as it's 10 years old and I've also had esophagus problems they think bypass is best way forward for me .. I have major spinal problems that affect my mobility considerably and the weight gain is making things worse....

It hasn't slipped too badly as mine was stitched I. Place all them moons ago... But they think there is going to be too much scar tissue to replace it now anyway.... To be honest after the last few years I will be glad to be rid of it ... Nothing like having a dysfunctional band that one minute has no restriction and then I try to eat something healthy like fruit or salad and it strangles me making me vomit for hours..... Vicious curl for me I'm afraid... So I eat slider food as I'm so paranoid of the sickness now....

And your not cheeky at all x x x

 

[WeightlossDreamer]

Aww Hun sorry to hear that at least your getting everything sorted niw!

 

[BandedHun]

Hey adrienne,

I just see this first post of yours. I am in the same situation. I ve used my entire life savings. So far everyday I've had three or four nitty gritty sniping comments from my other half , like yours he is not supportive at all. As for my over opinionated family I have not told them and I do not want to tell them. I feel my childhood has a lot to do with my food/weight problems and for me more negativity in my life could potentially make me crumble. I think my 9 year old daughter is the most supportive person and influence in my life, she's my best friend. She thinks if it makes her mummy happy then it has to be good. I don't want her subjected to a mother that's on and off the diet.

I feel your pain in respect of lack of support sweets but mine is my dirty secret. Sounds crazy but this is for me only. I do feel like I've failed but then part of the reason I'm so scared for the past 11 months to sort myself out and go back in "another fad diet" is fear of failure ... Again... But the band for me is my last option to sort my life out. I have read some amazing success stories with low BMI patients.

I hope your sleeve goes well darling , please say in touch.


How's your pre op diet going? Have you had any weight loss? Xx

 

[adrienne]

Hi
Pre op diet is ok but I have slipped a couple if times ? haven't touched alcohol though.

I've told my family now, and it's a case of I'm ruining my mums holiday blah blah , well I'm
41 and I want this, although I have to say I'm really scared I'll wake up and be told he couldn't do it due to liver not shrunk enough or something!!
Our surgery is the same day
Keep in touch
How's your diet? Xx

 

[adrienne]

I sent you a pm banded hun
Let me know if you got it cx

 

[The Old Woman]

You do not need people criticising your decision, it's really nothing to do with them. I am a believer of not announcing this and just tell folks that you are dieting and cutting down to be healthy. Hope the other half supports you once post op as this would be helpful, perhaps he is just worried. Good luck.

 

[valentine]

Hi Pre op diet is ok but I have slipped a couple if times ? haven't touched alcohol though. I've told my family now, and it's a case of I'm ruining my mums holiday blah blah , well I'm 41 and I want this, although I have to say I'm really scared I'll wake up and be told he couldn't do it due to liver not shrunk enough or something!! Our surgery is the same day Keep in touch How's your diet? Xx

You won't be ruining anything... People fly home from bypass/ band/ sleeve surgery when they go abroad for it ... I flew home 4 days after having my band...

I know another lady that had a bypass and was home from Lyon 5 days later...

You will be on the flip side of surgery and losing weight ... You will probably be much happier knowing your weight loss has begun and enjoy every minute of your holiday with mum...

Sometimes I feel that people like to put hurdles in other peoples lives just to get their own way..

The emotional blackmail tactic is the strongest weapon we can wield ... Have your surgery if it is what you want... It's your life that's paSing you by and 4 weeks is plenty of time to heal for a relaxing hol with your mum...

Much love trace xxxxx