A very uplifting day, if I do say so myself !!

[topsy]

Yesterday I had to go to the hospital for some bladder tests, I go there regularly and am on first name terms with the staff but not been since I started my pre-op diet so not seen them for a while. They were all very complimentary about my weight loss which felt really good. When I was wired up to the machine I had to sit on this funny seat and the nurse said to me 'you can't be that big, a lot of people get stuck in this chair'. I was so chuffed at that, hope she wasn't just saying it because she knows what i've been through.

Been a good day today, tummy isn't so sore and finding I can move around a lot easier. Even went for a long soak in the bath this afternoon, not supposed to, but changed the dressing myself so that I could and boy did I enjoy it. I also discovered that my bum doesn't hit both sides of the bath anymore which was rather nice.

Its our wedding aniversary today too but as we can't really go for a meal to celebrate (I'm not up to going out for too long just yet anyway), I agreed to give my pet man a good thrashing on the XBox..lol

I also had a call from a magazine that I decided to submit my story to, but will tell you all about that later should they decide to print, bit worried about the gorey pics going to print but still feel that I should publish this story, if nothing else it will shut up those that think this is the easy way out.

The only weird thing about today was for the first time in months and months I actually craved a cigarette. Was only fleeting but it definately was a craving. I was also a little bit hungry this evening which felt odd, but that soon went away with a drink.

I hope you all had a good day too.

Bonita
xx

Hi Bonita - glad to hear your still going in the right direction. I'm getting there slowly and i am enjoying sloppies and this has slowed my weight loss down which i'm pleased about as before i did this i was losing nearly a stone a week and i don't think that's the healthy way to go.

Happy Anniversary - just think for your next anniversary what you will look like pretty amazing!!!!

Keep up the good work - hugs with fairy dust xx

 

[rybens]

What a difference a day makes. Yesterday I was on top of the world, today I feel rotten. Went to the doctor and had my bloods taken, she is concerned that I'm too pale again and maybe not getting the vitamins in I need due to the sickness.

On top of that I got weighed and haven't lost anything since the last time I was weighed. Now that I don't understand because nothing much is staying down at the moment.

Also got the house upside down because we are having a new central heating system installed. I hate mess...

I told you yesterday that my story is going to be published in a magazine. I've chosen Thats Life magazine. Not sure when its going in (have to proof read it first and they need to contact the hospital for their side of things too), but the headline is going along the lines.... 'If you think Gastric Bypass is the easy way out, think again and read this!'

I was a little peed at someone I know telling me that I was lazy doing it this way, so hopefully this might go some way to changing peoples opinions, we'll see.

OMG someone thought you were lazy they want to read your amazing journy so far in this thread , you was a little peed? bonita id have been mega peed. Well done you for all you have been through you inspire so many people on here, and when every one reads the mag they will know that a bypass is not an easy option x

 

[Brunetteandred]

Hi Bonita,

Glad you are doing better and your weight loss is fantastic. Anyone ever says to me this is the easy option is on a one way trip to the dentist - for dentures! And your journey has been harder than most so far.

You rock it gf! :hug99:

 

[Snowcrystal]

You have been through an awful time Bonita but you have still been a huge inspiration.

Lazy?...What did they mean?

I hope this sickness clears up soon.

(((hugs)))

 

[fairyringuk]

Hi Bonita so glad to hear you are on the men all be it slowly.
Glad you are giving your story to a mag. think it will go a long way to deadening some of the myths regarding bypass. People are so ignorant thats the trouble.
I am pleased your hospital trips have not been too harrowing, and that you didnt get stuck in the chair lol, I am sure she was being deadly serious about that.
Hope your anniversary was enjoyable and that you did give hubby a 'good thrashing' lol thought at first you were getting into dominatrix Bonita roflol, anyway you are on the right path now and seem to be improving wound wise all the time.
Sorry you are being so sick hope that is easing, and dont worry about weight loss your body is just protecting itself against famine and storing the little you are keeping in. The weight will soon drop more soon enough, just you keep getting stronger and more able.
Know you are in my thoughts and prayers

Jay xx

 

[ladybird_gal]

Hi Bonita so glad to hear you are on the men all be it slowly.
Jay xx

Ha - you didn't tell us about that did you Bonita? lol
Sorry, but it made me smile. I do hope you're feeling ok and really beginning to feel a bit better.

gentle hugs (((hugs))) x x

 

[rybens]

i laughed at the same thing and thought lucky bonita! lol

 

[IslandBreeze]

I've just read all this and wow what a story! It's a very useful post and I think you've been very brave. It will be good for it to go in a magazine so it can reach a wider audience as some people do book ops without doing the research. I hope you are fighting fit soon.
x

 

[Bonita]

Thanks everyone for your recent comments. Went into town with my son yesterday and mentioned to him that I hadn't lost any weight this week so he suggested I went into boots and weighed myself again. You never know he said, so I did and guess what! I've lost another four pounds in three days, same scales so I know its not that, must have been having to do all that cleaning up after the central heating guys, they can come again...

Had an interesting conversation with my sons doctor. he's a young guy about the same age as my son and they get on famously, but when he found out about my surgery he kind of bristled up. 'I won't refer my patients when they ask', he said, 'mainly because if the type of thing that happened to you'.

Cheeky young pup, doctor or no he soon got the sharp end of my tongue. 'Who are you?' I asked, 'god?' What right has he even got to make that decision? After he sat further back into his chair shocked that I was rounding on him, I explained that if a patient is asking for this you can rest assured that its as a last resort and the surgeons will never go ahead with it unless all the pre-op tests are done and they are sure its as safe as it can be, also its their decision to make with the patient not his. I did ask him if he got a patient coming in with cancer would he refuse them a specialist? He thought that wasn't the same thing, but I soon pointed out that some cancer patients had a longer life expectancy than I did pre-op.

I also explained that yes what happened to me is rough, but I still don't regret it and would do it all again tomorrow if I had to. He is slim and doesn't know what it feels like living with the life sentence of obesity. Not sure it worked, but if your looking for weight surgery and in Burton on Trent, do not go to Dr Hallam, as nice as he is, he doesn't believe in weight loss surgery....lol

I also (and this is the best bit of yesterday) went into Asda and bought some trousers off the peg, size 22. 'This is wishful thinking' thought I as I took them home.

Tried them on expecting to sit on the bed upset because they wouldn't go up my fat legs but WAYHAY... They are too big!!!! So its back to Asda later for a smaller pair, size 20, not been that for some years now, is that what people mean when they talk about thinking with their fat head?.

Today I'm off to see my Neurologist. Not seen him since April and last time he weighed me I was quite a bit heavier than I am now so looking foward to seeing his face when I walk in. Its thanks to him that I got to have this surgery in the first place as he made the original referal so looking forward to this appointment, I owe him a huge thank you.

Hope your all having a good day dispite the miserable rain and catch you all later.
Bonita
xxx

 

[rybens]

::::I also (and this is the best bit of yesterday) went into Asda and bought some trousers off the peg, size 22. 'This is wishful thinking' thought I as I took them home.

Tried them on expecting to sit on the bed upset because they wouldn't go up my fat legs but WAYHAY... They are too big!!!! So its back to Asda later for a smaller pair, size 20, not been that for some years now, is that what people mean when they talk about thinking with their fat head?.:::::
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Wow bonita what a great feeling , look at that ticker fly ill be looking forward to seeing some photos of your new wardobe lol x

 

[WilliamK]

If there was ever a post to show how outcomes can vary its this one. I cant imagine what you went though bonita especially the stitches bursting etc but how well you coped with it after says a lot about your character, your amazing simply...

William xx

 

[Mimsie67]

Hi Bonita,

I haven't been able to get to a computer for the last few weeks, but I have just read all of your thread.

All I can say is WOW what an amazing and insperational person you are. Even with all that you have been through, you have remained positive. I am sure that you have had your down days but I would have been on the floor by now if I had been through all of that.

If anyone deserves all the luck in the world it is you and I can't put into words how in awe I am of you.

You done absolutely the right thing but posting your story because as people have already said we need to know the bad aswell as the good.

A true gem. Please keep us up to date with your progress and I wish you all the love in the world.

Take care of yourself.

 

[dreamofbeingslim]

Well done Bonita on your next 4lbs off and size 20's that is fab.

I bet that doctor won't be saying that to anyone else again, like you say its not his decision.

You are a true inspiration even after everything you have been through you still don't regret it and would recommend it.

Your neurologist will be blown away with how well you have done.
Take care.

 

[fairyringuk]

So glad you are feeling so much better Bonita and great news about the trousers
LOL didnt realise I had missed out the 'd' on my last entry and had you on the men instead of on the mend, roflol neither wonder the others laughed
Good for you for putting the young doc right they need to be aware of whats going on with patients

Jay xx

 

[Snowcrystal]

Good luck at the neurologist today.

I hope you berating your son's doctor about weight loss surgery changes his mind as he should not be so adversely opinionated about any procedure....if he can't 'cure' you he has to abide by the patients rights to look at every available avenue to give themselves a better quality of life...And of course, no surgeon in his right mind would just do this to just anyone.

Oh, btw....good luck too on the magazine thingy...it will be a fantastic read.

(((hugs)))

 

[Bonita]

Can I say thank you to the last few posters (seem to have lost the thank you button on here somewhere..lol)

Well it looks like my story will definately be published. The mag read it back to me, To be honest it did make me sound as if I'm a panicky/dramatic type of person, but what the hell, if it gets the message across thats all the matters.

This morning I had a visit from Pauline the sister thats in charge of the district nurses, we have found a dressing thats not making me itch ....HOORAY!!!!.... So they are going to start coming every other day now. As nice as they are, it's a bit of a bind having them coming daily because they can't give you a time, so I'm tied to the house until they have been.

I'm also on a bit of a high because, the first words that came out of Paulines mouth were, 'my god I haven't seen you for a couple of weeks but you can really see the weight dropping off'. Whats more I managed to file and paint my own toe nails today, a small milestone I know but for me it was a brilliant feeling.

The visit to Mr Mahmood (my neurologist) went well too. He's managed to find an oral suspension I can take rather than having to crush the Diomax which burn my mouth, and was really pleased with the weight loss. He kept repeating it over and over again as if he couldn't take it in. I don't have to go back for three months, but if the headaches get any worse, then I can just ring Notts and book in for another Lumbar Puncture to take some fluid off my spine like they did on ward 11. As soon as I hit 12 stone I will be admitted and a shunt fitted which hopefully will sort my neurology problems out once and for all.

I'm really starting to like this being slimmer, I know I've a long way to go, but for years everywhere I went I was always the biggest person around, not anymore. In fact I find myself wanting to walk up to bigger people and tell them all about WLS. If I wasn't worried they might be offended I would. I've also noticed that my hips aren't as painful nor am I anywhere near as breathless as I was.

If this is how things are going to improve after just two months then what are things going to be like in twelve months?? I can't wait!!

 

[topsy]

Bonita that is wonderful - and as you lose more weight then i'm sure you will see more and more health benefits and compliments too. Remember this time next year you will be doing things with your family you haven't been able to do for a long time.

And as for having 6 grandchildren!!!!!! i am well and truly gobsmacked!!!!!! i thought you were pushing it having children as old as you did but grandchildren - you most certainly do not look old enough. As you lose your weight you will be able to give your grandchildren a run for their money as they have to keep up with their lovely slim Nan. Hugs and fairy dust to you always xx

 

[ladybird_gal]

This morning I had a visit from Pauline the sister thats in charge of the district nurses, we have found a dressing thats not making me itch ....HOORAY!!!!.... So they are going to start coming every other day now. As nice as they are, it's a bit of a bind having them coming daily because they can't give you a time, so I'm tied to the house until they have been.

Good news about the dressing Bonita!

I'm also on a bit of a high because, the first words that came out of Paulines mouth were, 'my god I haven't seen you for a couple of weeks but you can really see the weight dropping off'. Whats more I managed to file and paint my own toe nails today, a small milestone I know but for me it was a brilliant feeling.

Hurrah - it's a lovely feeling isn't it!



I'm really starting to like this being slimmer, I know I've a long way to go, but for years everywhere I went I was always the biggest person around, not anymore. In fact I find myself wanting to walk up to bigger people and tell them all about WLS. If I wasn't worried they might be offended I would. I've also noticed that my hips aren't as painful nor am I anywhere near as breathless as I was.

I know exactly what you mean. I keep smiling to myself.

If this is how things are going to improve after just two months then what are things going to be like in twelve months?? I can't wait!

Great post Bonita. As ever, you are a great inspiration. x x

 

[phatgirl]

Oh Bonita, your post made me smile, you are such a positive star.

Nic

 

[fairyringuk]

Bonita so pleased they have sorted the dressing out that will make your life a bit more pleasant, also glad the wound seems to be doing well.
You made me smile too, I feel so pleased for you, it must be wonderful having people really notice your weight loss and be pleased for you.
You are doing so well and as you say only two months in, but what a two months, Nic is right you are such a star, sending a big cyber hug

Jay xx