Hi Lovely FFBB,
My only concern (and I had this when you mentioned it a few days back) with postponing your surgery is your lack of willpower when the losses aren't happening. Now I know we are STILL going through it with the band, but the band still offers a lvel of support. Do you think you can continue the way you are doing for the next 3 yrs? Because (excuse the grammar) that's may be how long it'll take .... you're 313 now (which is excellent) but remember that there was a reason why you got up to 328Ibs in the first place. The band, bypass, switch or sleeve or any other op in between

won't stop you comforting yourself with food (may be the bypass will!), however the result of the ops will certainly restrict you and offer some damage limitation. I'm not poo-pooing your efforts or even saying you have no will-power I'm just saying that I don't want you putting off an op that will save your life (give you more time with your children and hubby) due to a false dawn with your milk diet etc.
Anyway I've chatted enough
I honestly do get what you are saying. With regards to the loses, well I have 4 months between now and then to make a decision. And I plan to discuss my issues with the dietician on Thursday. As far as my Will is concerned, my will has always been there and I have no doubt will continue to be there. I have my reasons for losing weight like everyone else and they keep me going. I am not bothered about losing tons of weight in a super fast time frame. I just want to see that I am regularly losing when I put my efforts in. I get that some weeks I may gain a pound or two....and others I may lose more. And that I will have several plateaus. So for me it isn't a matter of that.
I am sure that If I said I wanted to postpone my surgery for 3 or 4 months, that doesn't mean they are going to take me off the list, but I don't see why I don't give it a chance rather than just saying well I will just wait till I have the band put in. I would rather know that I was looking at things all the way through than half heartedly. Surgery was/is my very last choice. It was always my last resort and no something I take lightly. I would personally feel more comfortable, trying with WLR and being able to see how many calories I should be in taking in order to lose my weight, and see my exercise as well, then to just leave it all to chance.
The band is about learning to eat in a different way and to unlearn you life time of habits, ie. comfort, bored, emotional eating. I have been or some time now working with my personal psycho-analyst to discover why I eat sometimes....and I have...I am not done yet, but I know that it has certainly helped, even prior to my milk diet. So as far as my emotional comfort eating side is concerned, I get why and when I do it, and therefore I am able to make changed to that, which I have implemented into my whole way of dealing with things. So, for me I don't feel they will be issues.
Now, I am not saying that I won't over eat sometimes. Even people who are at a "normal" weight do that. But I am certainly more conscience of it all, now then I ever was years ago. I am certainly more aware of my in take, more than I was ever previously. NONE of my other diets, to include my body chef meals, ever made me responsible for what I ate. SW, never talked about calories...it was just eat unlimitedly. Weight watchers, talked about portion sizes, but again not so much the calories. Body chef, did it all for me, so I didn't have to think about it, so it makes you reliant on them and not yourself. Cambridge, just puts you into ketosis, and again teaches you nothing about HOW TO EAT, but just that you aren't eating anything. Atkins...just showed me the power of protein, but never really anything about in take and out take. And my eating healthy thing never worked, because, whilst I was eating healthy, I was still eating too many calories, and never really knew what I was aiming for. The cabbage soup, was just stupid....as was all the other "get weight quick" diets we all follow. This is not a diet, it is a change, of habits.
The idea of all of this is to change my eating, not my lifestyle, to learn to eat when I am hungry, and stop when I am full. To make not just good choices, but wise choices. For the first time in a really long time, I feel like I am in control, not the diet, me. Nothing is out of bound, just the amounts need to be considered. I have my portions cups, a good set of scales, and my exercise is in the bag. So I don't see what I have to lose but weight. And if it means I have to weight an extra 3-4 months to get my surgery then so be it. I would rather try this and know I have given my 100% effort, if it doesn't work, I am not out anything but a couple of months. And if I can lose the weight I want to achieve in that time, then, I know I can do it on my own without a band, and in 4-5 months time, I will have learned a lot about what I can and can't do.
So CC, I really appreciate what you are saying, and plan to make the decision, I think is best for me at the time. I appreciate your concern, your care and you efforts, so please don't think I don't, I do.
I just read what you put....do you think I am talking about continuing the milk diet forever? Cuz that certainly is not that case...I am looking forward to a nice chicken salad when I can manage some food....*LOL*