BANDERS UNITE ! Get to know each other chatter !

[Rache]

Hi All. I hope you've had a better day than I have.

I really need to get well ... this bloated, bladder pain, excessive flatulence thing is also distressing me.

Onwards and downwards x

Hey CC

Have you ever done a food diary? it may be paramount in you working out which foods are causing you the most problems.

I know if I have too much dairy I'm evil to be around (my poor daughter has suffered this morning because I've had some cereal with milk!!)
Too much wheat also gives me gyp.
Try a diary first off then you have more info to provide a doctor with xx

 

[Mazza]

Hi Janey

My provider does aftercare only packages, here is a link to the page.

They do fills in Birmingham too.

Weight Loss Surgery Group - Right for me

Maz x

 

[Fattyfattyboomboom]

Thanks Jenn.... where do you see her if you don't mind me asking?
Can never hurt to have too many options can it so the info would be greatly appreciated.xx

Well in actual fact she comes to my house to see me, and is far from birmingham, but, she may know people....they all seem to know each other, I live new lowestoft....so I am WAY far away. She may be able to point you in the right direction.

 

[Mazza]

Grrr I think I have read one to many 'poor banders' responses today, all those fills and having to work so hard!

I never have and never will want a bypass. I had the band because a) its what I wanted and b) because it suited my way of eating as a tool.

I dont recall anyone being 'forced' to have one or being given the wrong advice, some went with it against advice given but are working hard to make their choice work!

Anyway, I will be back but I just needed to vent! x

 

[Neen]

Hi girls ! Just popping in quick !
Thanks Jenn I am doing OK..really looking forward to starting my new RC style regime on Tues ! Got lots of nice low fat ingredients in and hoping to lose more weight week 1 than Dean (tee hee not really )
My first goal is getting under 15 stone so that's what I would like to do before Christmas .

We'll do anything we can to help Rache x I might try and send you the Anthony Robbins road to slimness as that had a pretty good effect on me...there's a lot of stuff on the comfort eating in it and it was very interesting.

Mazza ... know what ya mean!!!
Please stay around..I know it's driving you mad....
I am going to stop moaning and pull myself up and start putting more effort in...and stop trying to bend the rules of every diet I go on thinking I know better...I don't!!!

 

[cah-ching]

Mazza ... know what ya mean!!!
Please stay around..I know it's driving you mad....
I am going to stop moaning and pull myself up and start putting more effort in...and stop trying to bend the rules of every diet I go on thinking I know better...I don't!!!

DOn't you dare worry. I think Mazza will be back. Besides I don't believe her rant was aimed at you, when I read it last night I felt it was aimed squarely at me - which is OK! She is/was right! You haven't been moaning ... I have.

Lets move on, continue this fantastic framework of wupport and shift this fat suit.

Have a good weekend folks. I'm just about to head off down the M40 now.

 

[Neen]

NO it wasn't!!!!!
I think when we feel low we straight away make anything negative apply to us ....aint the case CC and please don't try and own any of that.
I want to help you and so does Mazza and everyone else on here x

I took a lot of things personally on here in the past...from advice about what makes a band work to lack of replies to my threads...it's exhausting taking everything to heart like that and you mustn't OK xxxxxx

 

[cah-ching]

NO it wasn't!!!!!
I think when we feel low we straight away make anything negative apply to us ....aint the case CC and please don't try and own any of that.
I want to help you and so does Mazza and everyone else on here x

I took a lot of things personally on here in the past...from advice about what makes a band work to lack of replies to my threads...it's exhausting taking everything to heart like that and you mustn't OK xxxxxx

Hey it was. However I am not angry or upset. I read it last night and I wasn't upset then and I'm not now. I'm still posting right? I even apologised another thread.

She has every right to feel angry and frustrated. It's bad enough the lack of banders on here ... without the same banders - me - moaning about the band! lol I'm letting the side down.

I don't bare any ill-will. Nor am I angry. I'm upset with myself because one of my biggest faults is the pressure I put on myself and the expectation I put on myself this then transcends itself in the way I post and how I feel about myself!

Enough of the pity party. Time to pull my stockings up and get on with it! Need to have my lunch first though ... lol.

 

[Neen]

No I am going to disagree here...I know of 2 or 3 that hack me off but they do not post anything positive, I have replied and tried to help and they don't take anything on board and try and help themselves...nor do they attempt to help others or show willing to try and change the bad habits...you are definately not one of them darling xxxx

 

[cah-ching]

Anyway ........ we want to lose weight. Lets concentrate on that

I'm sat with a towel around me as I went to the gym this morning, and waiting for pasta to boil, but I'm wondering if I have time to eat .. as I do need to get going.

May be I'll buy a sandwich on the way. x

 

[BlueDiamond]

Afternoon laydee's xxx Hope e1 is well xxx

 

[BlueDiamond]

Hello I thought I would copy and paste this from other thread that cc wrote ( hope thats ok ) MeJulie xx

Hi,

If you had your time again would you have had the band fitted?

Hello CC, thanks for writing this post, this has been something I have thought about lately because my weight loss is STILL stalled, Its been almost 14 weeks since I had my band fitted and its been 11 weeks since I lost any weight at all, I know most of you know that in this time I have only had one fill, and had to have my port resighted.

With regards to your questions would I have the band fitted again - In a flash!!! - I was offered the bypass initially and I turned it down, I have lost one stone since my banding op, but I also have NOT gained anything either, and tbh if I hadnt of had this wls done I would have defo gained more weight and then some , that is one thing I am sure of

Before my banding op I was given all the low down and in's and out's of the surgery and I knew this was the slow boat to china road, and I made the decision to go ahead with the band no one else, and not forgetting I am still very early days yet and I am due to have another band fill on the 19th Nov and I will assess things once again after christmas, one thing I have stopped doing is weighing myself daily now which has helped my moods and not seeing the scales fluctuate on a daily basis, I didnt really believe it when people sed "chuck/hide the scales away" but I can say I 100% I totally know why now Thanks in advance for reading - MeJulie xx

 

[cah-ching]

You have a good day too MeJulie x

 

[Mazza]

Grrr I think I have read one to many 'poor banders' responses today, all those fills and having to work so hard!

Just wanted to say that this was about 'me' and how I was feeling after reading responses to threads - not indivuduals starting threads or asking for help.

I never have and never will want a bypass. I had the band because a) its what I wanted and b) because it suited my way of eating as a tool.

Again this is me but I dont appreciate people generalising that 'we' go down this route because of a lack of nhs funding or poor advice!

I dont recall anyone being 'forced' to have one or being given the wrong advice, some went with it against advice given but are working hard to make their choice work!

Anyway, I will be back but I just needed to vent! x

I thought this thread was the right place to say this without being judged further. Nothing that I said was directed at anyone it was just how I was feeling - can I not do this?

I would never target anyone or critisize them, I just wanted to get something off my chest.

 

[cherry]

sweets just wanted to say it didnt come across to me you were doing this......think emotions were running high with peeps through the ups and downs of the wls journey we all have to take.... tomorrows a brand new day xxxxxxx

 

[Neen]

I know you wouldn't Mazza xxx It's not your style and you have always been tactful and fair xxxx

 

[Mazza]

Thanks Kelly and Neen x x

 

[Neen]

I think we are all very sensitive because losing weight is so important to us or we wouldn't be going to such lengths with WLS etc.
I take things to heart easily and it's usually a misunderstanding of what is really meant.
I think being sensitive people we always think negative things are about us and it has caused so much misunderstanding and upset in the forum before...probably will again too...simply because everyone is a bit vulnerable and needing help x

 

[cherry]

i think you ve hit the nail on the head!!! that sums it all up there xxx

 

[Mazza]

Thanks girls x I just want to reiterate thats just how I was feeling and it was not a dig at anyone!

I try my hardest to help people and sometimes I need help too - and I have always got it.

BUT! sometimes I will need to get things off my chest and I hope to carry on with that in a supportive non judgemental way.