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Feel a bit of a fraud for being here now...
- Thread starter Gerry
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Went to see the GP this morning and she was really happy for me that the funding has been aproved. She's doing the referal for me so now I am back to waiting - this time to hear from Charing Cross Hospital. She doesn't really know how long it will be before I hear anything, as I'm her first bariatric patient. I'm sure I read somewhere (possibly on the Charing Cross site) that referrals are usually seen within a fortnight. So may be just after I come back off holiday.
Can't wait to join the loosers on this site
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Gerry
Can't wait to join the loosers on this site
.Gerry
mandy-1975
Regular Member
Thats great news Gerry, lets here something gets moving soon....
Thanks for the good wishes girls - very much appreciated.
I won't be around for the next week, 13 of us are off to Blackpool. Don't think I will be sunning myself on the beach though somehow - was pulling the carpet out of the car earlier and I've done my back in (one of the problems I have repeatedly). Can barely move and even in this hot weather, I am sitting here with a hot water bottle behind my back to help with the pain.
Rotten start to the holiday, but still, never mind.
Chat to you all in a week.
Gerry
I won't be around for the next week, 13 of us are off to Blackpool. Don't think I will be sunning myself on the beach though somehow - was pulling the carpet out of the car earlier and I've done my back in (one of the problems I have repeatedly). Can barely move and even in this hot weather, I am sitting here with a hot water bottle behind my back to help with the pain.
Rotten start to the holiday, but still, never mind.
Chat to you all in a week.
Gerry
Trinaweena
New Member
Hi Gerry,
Have a great hol and great news on your referral, another step nearer to been a new you on the outside but still the lovely person on the inside.
Take care
Trina xxxxxxxxxx
Have a great hol and great news on your referral, another step nearer to been a new you on the outside but still the lovely person on the inside.
Take care
Trina xxxxxxxxxx
Many thanks for the good wishes everyone. We had a nice break in Blackpool and not bad weather either. We all (13 of us) had an old time pic done which was really super and is very special to me as I've always wanted one of the whole family and now I have it. Already has pride of place on my wall.
Anyway - best news now is that I have my date for my initial consultation :bliss:
Friday 26th September at 12:00. Had rather hoped it would be sooner, but hey ho. It looks from that like the op may end up being just before Christmas, which I am not too sure about. Nothing to do with the Christmas dinner thing. Just that if anything happened, it would spoil everyone's Christmas, and also they don't want me being ill. I think this year my Grandchildren are going to be here for Christmas too, so may ask for New Year if it comes to that.
Must away as I have visitors all weekend, so need to pay attention to them, just wanted to let you know that I have finally got my date - yippeeeeeee!
Gerry
Anyway - best news now is that I have my date for my initial consultation :bliss:
Friday 26th September at 12:00. Had rather hoped it would be sooner, but hey ho. It looks from that like the op may end up being just before Christmas, which I am not too sure about. Nothing to do with the Christmas dinner thing. Just that if anything happened, it would spoil everyone's Christmas, and also they don't want me being ill. I think this year my Grandchildren are going to be here for Christmas too, so may ask for New Year if it comes to that.
Must away as I have visitors all weekend, so need to pay attention to them, just wanted to let you know that I have finally got my date - yippeeeeeee!
Gerry
Have been in a bit of a funny mood of late. My ex husband is quite ill. The eventual outcome is inevitable although no one knows how long. Suffice to say things are progressing that way, although he is now out of hospital. My four eldest kids know that he's ill and what is wrong. However the two youngest don't know. The youngest, who is 14, got very upset when she learnt her Dad had pneumonia, as that was what her Grandad (my Dad) died from. She doesn't know what else is wrong with her Dad as I have kept it from them because if it came out, then it is likely she would be bullied at school because of it (he is HIV+). Things are heading towards the serious side, and I don't know what to tell them, if anything. They are both doing their exams at school. I don't know if it would be better not to tell them, as that way they wouldn't worry so much at this crucial time, and then when anything happens tell them what the cause was, but not about the HIV until they have finished school and are away from those who would be likely to say something unkind. Or if I should tell them to prepare them, but then they would be worrying and it may still be some time before the worst happens.
I also feel guilty because my youngest said to me that she didn't want me to have the op in case I died. I told her that I have spoken to lots of people on this forum, who have all had their ops and come back from them and are making good progress, and that she shouldn't worry, but I know she does.
I don't want to change my mind, and have said that I am doing it because I want a greater chance of being here for them than just turning my back on my weight issues and not live long enough to see them grow up.
Really I think their Dad should tell them about his problems, but he can be rather insensitive and not think about how he breaks the news. My main concern is that if something happens to him, then me - they will be left without either of us.
Sorry to waffle on, but can't keep it to myself any longer and needed to 'spill'.
Gerry
I also feel guilty because my youngest said to me that she didn't want me to have the op in case I died. I told her that I have spoken to lots of people on this forum, who have all had their ops and come back from them and are making good progress, and that she shouldn't worry, but I know she does.
I don't want to change my mind, and have said that I am doing it because I want a greater chance of being here for them than just turning my back on my weight issues and not live long enough to see them grow up.
Really I think their Dad should tell them about his problems, but he can be rather insensitive and not think about how he breaks the news. My main concern is that if something happens to him, then me - they will be left without either of us.
Sorry to waffle on, but can't keep it to myself any longer and needed to 'spill'.
Gerry
alliecat
frustrated bander!
Ok Gerry, here goes....I call a stick a stick I am afraid! I would tell the kids in your way, but in my opinion they need to know about the illness, no matter how hard it would be. You say you are worried about them being bullied about it at school, but unless they choose to tell anyone why would anyone know? I just worry that if you don't tell them and it all comes out later (months, years, whenever) that they could end up being resentful that you were not honest about it - they then have the opportunity to ask questions if they want to and at the end of the day as a fantastic mum you will be there for them anyway.
Regarding your op, keep talking to them and try to make them understand all of the reasons why this is so important to you. It is only natural that they will be worried, but at the end of the day although you are doing this for your kids, you are also doing it for you - to give yourself a chance of a better future.
Sorry you are having such a hard time of things and sorry to be brutally honest regarding my opinion - but you asked!! Things will work out whatever you decide, one way or another.
Good luck with a tricky decision xx
Regarding your op, keep talking to them and try to make them understand all of the reasons why this is so important to you. It is only natural that they will be worried, but at the end of the day although you are doing this for your kids, you are also doing it for you - to give yourself a chance of a better future.
Sorry you are having such a hard time of things and sorry to be brutally honest regarding my opinion - but you asked!! Things will work out whatever you decide, one way or another.
Good luck with a tricky decision xx
hopelesscase
New Member
Gerry im with allicat im afraid. Honesty is the best policy. I work for social services as a trainer and foster carer and the amount of times i have had children placed with me because they have thought that mummy had a sore to or something and the reality was that mummy had severe mental health problems or late stages of terminal cancer and the poor children had no idea. I personally believe that no matter what the age of the child they have the right to be told the truth at a level that they would understand and have any questions because of that to be answerd truthfully however it has been contracted. Sorry if this sounds harsh but for children to trust and respect they really do need the truth but like i say pitched at a level they understand.
hope that helps
HC
hope that helps
HC
